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You watch some WWE wrestling, right? Where do i get started? All the enthusiasm for this has me eager to give it a shot. Should I go back and watch earlier stuff first?

I find it easiest to watch along with someone who already knows what's up. Get them to recommend a good storyline or rivalry, and watch along 3-4 key matches with them in the run up to a new match relevant to that plot.
I personally find NXT most accessible, it's their training ground for new characters. Characters tend to not stay there too long meaning storylines going on there are usually short enough to catch up on, and you see some really weird wacky silly stuff being tried. From there, if a character progresses up to the main roster, that's your in to start watching WWE proper etc.

So I just got a referal to a GIC, but the appointment won't be for at least a year. How long did the initial stages of transition take for you? How long till HRT? Bonus question: Do you ever get tired of being, I guess, a "trans ambassador"? I notice you get a lot of questions on the subject.

I had a nightmare time personally. I had six month wait for a mental health assessment appointment, a year waiting for a GIC appointment, it turned out the GIC never recieved my paperwork properly so back to the mental health service, another 8 month wait for my first GIC appointment (Which I turned up for, only to be told was cancelled with another month to wait for a replacement), almost a years wait for my second appointment where I got prescribed hormones (at the wrong dosages, not fixed until my follow up almost a year after that).
I didn't go into things planning to talk so much about being trans, but by virtue of becoming visible it just sort of happened. It's often draining, with people expecting a great deal of personal and emotional labour from me often for googleable queries, but I'm just gload to help when and where I am able.

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How do I convince somebody of their own worth?

You unfortunately can't force someone to see their own worth, it's usually something that has to be lead by the person with the low self worth, in my experience at least.

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Any thoughts on Colin Moriarty leaving Kinda Funny?

Honest opinion, he was always my least enjoyed element of that team. His political opinions clashed a bit wildly with mine, which is fine, but the way he then went about debating his political beliefs was a bit abbrasive for my tastes. Not what I was looking for from pop culture video coverage.
He's doubtless going to be sucessful, politics was clearly aloways his passion more than video games, and he's going to make a decent living writing don't tread on me style political writings.
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So I'm writing a story that features a trans character who's not open about being trans and thus it never comes up in the narrative. How do I depict that character's choice to not bring it up in conversation whilst avoiding turning into JK Rowling insisting "no really Dumbledore was totally gay"?

Mention it publicly either in marketing material or pre release to avoid being accused of slotting it in after for the kudos.
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as an aspiring trans girl, I'm really jealous of your voice! it sounds effortless and lovely. don't guess you have any tips for somebody who sounds like a cross between james earl jones and bill clinton ?

Honestly, Vocal training was 99% of why I started podcasting and podcast editing. I forced myself to record myself, listen back during editing, and just practice little by little, week by week. The more times I was put on the spot to try, the easier it became.

I started listening to MCR and loving them, do you have any suggestions for other music I should try? Love you Laura! <3

My recent new love is a band called The Front Bottoms, give them a try.

What happened to all of your old podcasts (ONVG, TGNI, CVG)?

Oh No! Video Games we had a nightmare time getting hosts together at the same time, particularly when one host got a new job working lots of evenings.
TGNI we had scheduling conflicts that caused one podcast member to leave in frustration, and another stopped turning up due to depression.
CVG died when Patrick Dane went over to work at Bleeding Cool and no longer had the time in his schedule.

Why did you verify your account?

I didn't, Twitter verified my account. For journo purposes it helps, lends credibility to times I break stories as a verified source.

My partner has just come out to me as a trans male. I want to support them through this but I also can't see myself as dating a male as I am straight. I don't want this to cause more stress for them during transistion but it seems wrong to break up with them. What is the right thing to do?

Have a conversation with them. If you're going to leave them, waiting to do it later doesn't benefit either of you. Make sure they know you still think they're awesome, will still be up for being friends etc even if you stop being attracted to each other etc. Just start a dialogue with them directly, gently talk about your thoughts, fears, concerns etc.
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There's an anime that may be of interest to you called "Wandering Son" about a kid who sees himself as a girl. Might be something to watch during your recovery time? http://www.crunchyroll.com/hourou-musuko-wandering-son

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Watched it a few years ago on the recomendation of a close school friend who had long suspected I was trans.
Watching that particular anime was ultimately the push I needed to face up to my own need to transition.
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I don't know if you'll read this, but I needed advice and I had nowhere else to turn. I had a friend recently who, through anxiety and depression, admitted to me he self harms. His family know, and he gets therapy, plus he says he prefers not to talk about it, but I just feel so useless. Any advice?

The only thing you can do in that situation is make sure they understand you're there to offer a supportive and non judgemental ear if they need support, and respect their wish not to discuss it unless they look like they are in serious danger.
The fact you've asked people for advice on how to help tells me you're a decent person who just wants what's best for their friend. I know it feels like you're doing nothing, but you're being a stable rock your friend can depend on if needed. That's a lot x
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How do you know when to stop something because you're not good at it? I'm currently 28 and not good at anything. My dad is retiring soon and my family needs help. How do you know to keep pursuing something or to let it go?

I failed my English exams at school, and never persued writing further because I believed I was no good at it. It was six years after I failed my exams that I gave writing another try, on a topic I loved, and I made it work.
I honestly think it's never too late to keep trying at something if you're enjoying the act of doing that thing.
Keep the dream alive, I believe in you x
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I have a rather serious question, I came across the term gender-fluidity just recently and it arose several questions for me. Mainly I am wondering whether feeling like a different gender doesn't stem from what society deems masculine or feminine? Does this ring true for you? Or did I miss the mark?

I can only speak for myself, but for me it's less to do with feeling like I am some etherial concept of femenine, and more that I am unhappy with my physical body and the changes it underwent as I grew. They felt gross and uncomfortable and upsetting to me. I wanted to undo the changes that made me feel uncomfortable, and start over with a base that felt better to me etc.
With regards to gender fluidity, I understand how a combination of not feeling at home fully with either physicality, or either broad concept of masculinity or femininity, would be hard to deal with, and would be easiest to handle with a fluid representation of gender from the individual.
Tweeting out my response to this because if anyone on Twitter reading this is gender fluid or non binary, they may be able to answer better than me on the specifics of that.

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You've briefly talked on the Podquisition about your collection of video game 'tat' (for want of a better word), but how big is it and what are your favourite items?

It's as big a collection as a tiny office will hold. My fav stuff would include the Portal Gun replica on my bookshelf, my Gold Zelda Wii Remote, the VHS box style physical Gone Home release and my various video game art books pile.
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What's the key to the perfect butt?

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More than a handful, but not by much. Firm, but with a little extra plumpness. Most importantly, the owner of the butt needs confidence. Any butt can be the perfect butt with a confident owner at the helm.
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I just wanted to tell you that you're a great person. Keep up your work. :) <3 And because that's not a question, here is one? How many light bulbs do you need to change a person?

I dunno, enought to see the horrors surrounding them I suppose <3
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Not really a question i just wanted to say that you're a huge inspiration for me both as a person and a fellow member of the trans community. I'm currently saving up for an operation and i have become a lot less scared after reading your tweets. Thanks for everything laura k buzz you're amazing xxxx

<3
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Would you say you're looking forward to FF15 or Persona 5 more?

Probably FF15, while PErsona 5 looks amazing I am a sucker for the idea of boy band Monster Hunter in future Japan haha

Who or what is your favorite soulsborne boss in the series?

Possibly the Demon's Souls Storm King, not my fav game in general but I love the over the top set piece nature of the fight and it has nevger quite been recaptured since.
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I wanted to add to the "trans people in Europe" thing - this varies a lot by country. Finland's public system is much better than NHS, but still has heavy gate-keeping and private transition is difficult / even impossible. There's actually only one doctor who does genital surgery, and not privately.

Oh for sure, yeah sorry can only talk UK myself etc.

Oh, oh, oh. What are the chances of Gav and/or Jim appearing on later episodes of the DaS3 Playthrough for some jolly cooperation?

Unlikely, for totally unguessable reasons me and Jim were unable to play DS3 at the same time as each other pre launch, which meant playing co-op with him while I was doing my LP wasn't going to work.
Gav got the game a little bit before launch, but on PS4 where I was playing PC.
I could possibly get them co-op on some kind of bonus episode after the LP ends, but that would depend if they have the time and are up for it.

I'm a trans woman starting HRT in less than two weeks. Do you have any advice for the first month or two? Also, do you celebrate the anniversary of starting HRT, and if so, what do you do? Thank you very much!

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Basic advice - Manage expectations, things won't change overnight, but also prepare for the potential possibility of some weepy days as your body adjusts. Week two for me was the very emotional week haha
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