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Hey Oloni I just want to say thank you for everything youve been doing lately, ur book was amazing and so is your consistency. I love your ask fm page and cant wait to see what other project you'll have coming next..

Great way to end my ask fm! Thank you SO much!!
I will no longer be using my ask.fm to respond to dilemmas on sex/relationships. Instead you can SEND ALL questions to simplyoloni.com/ask
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Hey! I've been sleeping with this girl...friends with benefits type situation...even though I've told her that I don't want a relationship and she's "okay" with the situation but I know she would want a relationship with me..should I continue seeing her even though she knows what it is

Talk to her & let her know the deal. However to save yourself from paragraphs of 'i hate you, you screwed me over' messages, I'd say end it.

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I'm talking to this girl but I have this gut feeling that she is not over her exs, he keep mentioning them. I ask once why she does, she then asked if I was hurt. I feel like she's trying to make me jealous, what would you advice me to do

Red flag, either she's not over them & not ready to move on. Talk to her about it and explain how it's a huge put off.

What's your advise for someone who's thinking about an abortion?

Think about it carefully & get all the advice that you can from counsellors. The NHS provide this so you can think about your options and what's best for you.

What's your time limit on moving in with your partner? Been with my bf for 9 months & he spends the night and some days nearly everyday. Now we're considering looking for a bigger place for both of us. Do you think this is too soon? If so when would be the time

If I'm entirely honest 9 months is way too soon. I don't even think couples who arent married should be living together.

My first boyf and I broke up about 3 years ago, but stayed in contact. Last year I got close to one of his old friends but we was just friends and those boundaries had never been crossed. Until recently, we had sex on Xmas eve..I have not heard from him since. I'm worried about whether to tell my ex

Going there in the first place is a huge nono. Let his friend tell him.

My bf rents out a room & has just informed me that his ex is now renting out one of the rooms in the house. Is it wrong of me to tell him to move out?

Oooh lets make this a #QOTD

I don't see the point of me being with someone and not talking at least once a day. Do you think I'm being needy?

A little. Talking is often is GREAT! But if it isn't every day don't panic.

I've been with my bf for about 5 months. We haven't seen each other in about a month or so (exams/c/w) for us both. because I haven't seen him think it's just right we talk at least once a day, when i called him today he said I am too needy and we don't need to talk everyday. I'm so offended by this

Tell him you're offended, but if you both have exams cutting down how often you speak won't hurt. Be more understanding.

2- the courage to see if we can go again - I'm worried i might be reading into things and nothing will come of it and it may just be a friendship. what should i do? let it go or see where i stand?

He's not that interested, and that's okay! You'll meet someone new & right for you.

1. I've been talking to this guy since early this year, we've been out for drinks once and i would like to get to know him more but there hasn't been any hints of another date, I did try to take the step of arranging another date but due to work stuff with him it didn't happen so i haven't puck up..

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My ex and I are trying to start again with our relationship but he doesn't give me any attention and doesn't make me feel like he actually want this. I've said this to him and he said he does want this but nothing has changed and I still feel like I am being pushed to the side. What do I do?

If you're being pushed, why not leave?
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Okay is it a problem for your other half to put up pictures of male celebrities I.e. The game as their whatsapp dp?? And if so Is it a break up worthy offence? Genuinely interested having a debate here.

Break up over a dp? :/ thats immature.
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I'm almost 30. a guy. never used any sex toys or enhancements in bed before, except condoms. Please can you recommend any lubes to buy in UK, and vibrators or fleshlights?

Luckily i work in a sex store so yes I can. Water based lubes are great & as for vibrators i'd suggest a vibrating cock ring. Theyre amazing.

Small dick is a deal breaker for me! The guy I'm with now doesn't have a big dick and it kinda bothers me. I want to leave but I really like him, he's been so good to me and all. I tried to find fault(s) and just leave but there's none. What should I do?

Are you sure you're just not that into him?
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Hey! I'm one that asked you if mentioning an ex is a red flag? What do you suggest I do? Ask why he's talking about them or just leave..

No no don't just leave. TALK to him about it.

I was seeing a guy (4 months) who was sending texts to his ex saying that he loves her. As soon as I discovered them, I left without bothering to explain. Should I confront him, and if so, how? Thanks :) x

You can do!

2 - and how he still cares about me & how he proper regrets cheating. I love him so much but at the same I still love the guy I recently broke up with. My ex's gf has a problem with me as she always rolls her eyes when she sees me & talks about me. Idk what to do, I think I'm Iove with 2 people!

Having feelings for two people is hard, especially when you share mutual friends & their names always pops up. Your ex who has a girlfriend is automatically a no go area, regardless of what he has told your friends.
I think you need to ask yourself and seriously search deep within yourself to find out what when wrong with both guys.

1- I'm in love with my ex, even though he cheated on me multiple times. We were together for 4 years & now he's got a new gf. I had a bf but bc we constantly argued, we broke up. One of my friends is really close to my ex & they ended up talking about me & he said how "I was the best thing he wanted

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I'm seeing a boy but he isn't ready for a relationship yet so I'm taking it slow with him or trying to. What things should I not to in terms of giving too much too soon because part of me feels like he wants everything but the title and I don't want to be a gf fluffer.

If he doesn't want a relationship, like my book 100 Question says, pack your bags ..nothing will change his mind. The little you give now will only become more.. That's how you turn into a gf fluffer.

23 never been in a relationship I have your book but I don't know how to meet new people I tried online dating but I'm so scared the people will be freaks so I left the site will I be a sad virgin forever?

Come to my soiree in July, i'll have plenty of fish for you.
Thanks for getting a copy!

Isit a red flag if someone keeps mentioning thier ex. Not one in particular of them all, and still keeps in contact with all of them

Yes.

Can a guy genuinely not be ready for a relationship or is it that just an excuse for not wanting one with you?

95% of the time just an excuse.

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