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HI I missed ur responses :)

Aw. I'm sorry I've been missing in action from Ask. I keep intending to dive into my inbox, and then life keeps throwing something else at me that will need to take priority. I do hope everyone here is happy and healthy, and I wish you all the bluest of skies. : )

Is it right to assume that women who don't post pictures of themselves as their profile picture on social media platforms are not good-looking?

It's a fallacious assumption. Though many people who post pictures of themselves on social media simply to chronicle and share their lives, there are also many who do so seeking validation. A woman who is at peace with herself and knows her worth without needing affirmation by "likes" might simply want to maintain her privacy. She might be so focused on living her life she might not want to give the time to sharing pictures of it online.

When you've deactivated in the past, have you ever read the answers of people you follow? If you haven't deactivated, in a hypothetical situation, would you read those people's answers?


When I've deactivated in the past it was simply to prevent more questions from flooding in when I knew I wouldn't have the time to answer them. Some people felt slighted by the lack of a timely response, when it wasn't personal at all. Now that questions come in at a trickle due to my inactivity there's no reason to deactivate. But to finally answer the question asked, haha, no, I do not read anyone else's posts when I've deactivated. I don't come to the site at all then.

I will kik you later and we can talk properly


what are a few things in the upcoming weeks you're excited for? 🙃


A couple of precious weeks coming up that will be blank pages for me to fill however I desire.

Matzo ball or kugel?

KUGEL! Nom. Nom. Nom.

What is one "unwritten rule" you think everyone should know and follow?


Whenever possible, practice kindness.

"Ignorance is bliss"- Thoughts on this?

I think children should have the pure bliss of naivety-crafted ignorance, but in adolescence and adulthood we all need to become aware and mindful. Knowledge is empowerment which when utilized thoughtfully can lead to fulfillment and bliss.

If you won a 24 hour trip to any fictional destination of your choice, where do you go?


Hogwarts, of course!

What is actually more dangerous than it appears to be?


Procrastination and indecisiveness.

What's the biggest 180° turnaround you have had in an opinion you held strongly, and what happened to trigger that change?


In my early teens I believed that everything labeled natural or organic was inherently better for you and the environment. I didn't want to get the HPV vaccine. I was prey to the naturalistic fallacy. "Holistic healing" had a wholesome appeal to me. It seemed far gentler, kinder, and benign. Then I found out that it can actually be harsh, brutal, and detrimental, with little effectiveness.

I do still believe that nourishing your body with nutritious foods and habits such as exercise and mental self-care are imperative, but I'm definitely an ardent believer in science-substantiated medicine with a proven rate of efficacy when it is necessary. And I am a huge advocate of vaccination.

Pancakes or waffles?

Pancakes, though I've literally dreamed of these Belgian waffles from the Brentwood Sunday Farmer's Market. The almond one tastes like marzipan and bliss. Anyone on the Westside of LA should consider popping in for one.

Do you think laziness is the main reason as to why some women choose to not wear any makeup at all? Why?

No. Many women who don't wear makeup simply feel confident and comfortable in their natural, unembellished skin. Many are not lazy at all but simply choose to prioritize their time differently and not include a makeup routine. Many are budget-conscious and feel that their finances are better spent on other things. Many have other valid reasons, such as sensitive skin that doesn't react well to makeup.

What little things are enough to make your day?

A good hug; a rainbow; my Golden Retriever; an excellent iced coffee; an unexpected dash of joy such as contact from a long-lost friend. I had on fleek strawberry cupcake with strawberry icing today, and it was sort of ridiculous how giddy it made me.

It would be amazing to have search features in our inboxes :( I remember a while ago you answered a qs about studying and said something like 'retyping lectures notes everday'. I'm trying to be more eco-friendly and type my notes and was wondering if you had any tips about that &tips about retyping

I retype my notes on my laptop and do not print them, so it is still eco-friendly. : ) I find that retyping and organizing my class notes helps me to better understand the material and imprint it on my mind. I also will add in other relevant material. I mainly use EverNote. Have you ever tried it? If not, give it a go and see if you like it.

Did you hear about Alan Rickman's passing?

I did! He was the rare actor who could endear the audience to him even when he was playing a villain. I grew up on Harry Potter, so I was very sad.

Two legends I love gone this week......

If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be?

I wouldn't want to eliminate their mortality, but it would be awesome if everyone in my family could live happy, healthy, fulfilling lives through their 90s.

Is there a way to search through your answers? I don't want to ask a qs that has been already answered =(

I don't believe there is a way to search through responses on here, though that would be a very handy feature. A search function for our inboxes would be useful, too.

Feel at liberty to ask your questions. Even if I've received them before my perspectives since the time I previously answered could have shifted. : )

Just a general inquiry (feel free to delete - I just want opinions) ~ I'm thinking seriously of dying my hair black but I'm also veeery unsure about it. What do you guys think?

I think naturally black hair is often very beautiful, but that like with red hair it can be hard to artificially duplicate the appeal. I think you look lovely as you already are.

Ok, call me weird, but I feel like you've been so strongly imprinted into my mind that wherever I go, there is like a little version of Skylark in me that fills me with bliss, and joy, and love for life and singing, and charming humor... oh how wonderful!

I'm reading this on Christmas Day. It was a lovely gift. Thank you so much for telling me that and making me smile. I hope your holiday season has been fantastic. : )

Has anyone else noticed the new layout update for those who use a PC? This is so weird. I don't know if I like it or not.

I am popping on here for the first time in a while and shaking my head. It's not just on a PC that the layout changed because I'm on a Mac.

I know whether I like it or not. I don't like it. At all. Haha.

Anyhoo, hope you are splendid, lovely Candace!

you are lovely <3 I hope you had a wondrous day :)

Aw, thank you so much. I hope you have a wonderful day, too. ♥

What two animals should breed and make a new animal?

Peacock and a skylark. A pealark would be magnificent.

Which do you prefer, sunrises or sunsets?

Sunsets! : )


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Dancer. Artist. Songstress. Larker. Goofball. I'm balancing full time studies and a full time internship, so I apologize in advance if it takes me a while to respond to questions. Thank you for your patience. I sometimes deactivate when I'm busy, but I promise I'm still alive and I still love yo

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