Re moving: what if ur guy has known the woman forever like long before u? Does that change your perspective on helping another woman move?
No. If she's that close, a gf should have met her and been able to make a reasonable determination about whether she and her dude would help the woman move.
What's with guys 'checking in' with the occasional text message or phone call? Clearly they're not serious enough to commit but they still try to get in touch?
keep you in pocket.
Guy keeps reaching out to me , he told me he didn't want to be in a rel. I reluctantly accepted left him alone .still think about him but I have tried my hardest to move on every few weeks he textsto see how I'm doing . Feel like it's slap in face after I put so much energy into him what do I say ?
"it's best if we don't stay in touch."
You're dresses ALWAYS look great on you. The side by side comparisons on the models I think "meh", on you I'm like "yes B" .. My ? is how can you tell the dress will look good on? I'm asking bc watching you is making me step my dress game up.
There are particular silhouettes and fabrics that I know work best. That said, plenty of times, I go by that and the dress is a disaster when I try it on. That's what returns are for. :-)
Is your viewing party a public event?
Yes. This is why I post the info on social media.
Re moving fren: Ok I'm 24 and always been told that I have a no care attitude when it comes on to relationship. So could u tell me what's appropriate and inappropriate in a relationship just to be clear.
the answer to that is my next book, "don't waste your pretty."
U said one of CBW female fren asked him to help her move and u told him no cause u don't know her. now if he want to cheat u can't stop him and it don't have to be with the fren so why stop him from helping cause it's female.
All on my FB, huh? LOL. Why not ask there?
That's not his function for her. Moving is "your man's" duty or for single male friends or male relatives and their friends. If I don't know the woman at this point, they're not close enough for him to move her furniture.
It had nothing to do with cheating. It was about what's appropriate and not when you're in a relationship. He would not be okay with me twisting a male friend's locs or tidying another man's home.
I give my email addy to guys who approach when I'm out; a phone # just feels so personal to give to a stranger. But the last two times I've been approached I never heard from them. Def could be they just weren't interested, but wonder if giving an email v. a # is making me seem unavail/uninterested
It reads as entirely uninterested.
Re: hubs and daughter. I love her like my own child but we've never had a good relationship so hubs and I both agreed I wud back off. To me that backing off shud include my income as well. I wud never hv agreed to buy her a car
Key words: to me.
Did you and hubs discuss the specifics of backing off? It doesn't sound like that convo took place.
can u explain the biz card question regarding men. if the give you a card its business but if they write their number its personal?
I suggested a business card for a very specific situation. The woman worked in retail and was meeting attractive customers. It's in poor taste for her to stand there giving up her number while she's working, so I suggested she get a card.
In most situations, I don't suggest cards. Too formal and everyone's confused as to whether it's business or pleasure.
Off topic, what's your skin care routine? It's beautiful!
Neutrogena pink grapefruit face scrub. It smells like lady parts-- yes, seriously--but its highly effective. I also drink tons of water.
Belle interested in guy that works at Starbucks, if i slide him my business card will he get the hint?
Yes. Unless he's incredibly naive, at which point you wouldn't want him anyway.
(Super bowl) I need to say sorry to you I gave you a lot of attitude on your post. I shouldn't done that. Sorry. I get it now. Saturday I left the hair store early I wasn't feeling right cramping and stuff. By the time night came I was in a lot of pain
Babes. No apology necessary. You were and are in a lot of pain. I understood.
I am so, so sorry for your loss.
You're gonna be okay. You are going to be okay. YOU ARE GOING TO BE OKAY.
Please let this man be. He's showing you time and time again he doesn't care and doesn't know how to love. You deserve better and can have better than this. I want better for you. I want you to want it too.
Guy I'm seeing just popped up to my house today. He said he was coming by 2day yesterday, (didn't set a time) but expected call/txt b4 his arrival. Red flag?
Not a red flag, per se, but you need to let him know that's not ok to do. YOU have to set he boundaries in your life.
Been dating a guy LD for 4 months. we've visited each other and so on. This week we haven't talked since Sunday. I've been caught up doing stuff. I imagine vice versa but but dunno. Should I read our non talk as no interest? Normally we're good ab communicating; he'll reach out etc. Thoughts?
once a cheater always a cheater ... Is that true ?
On you? Likely.
With someone else? Maybe, maybe not.
Thx for response; we already have a maid and my husband does clean that's just it. He feels he's cleaner than me. But really it's that he's always cleaning so I appear lazy bc i don't clean on his terms. If I leave laundry on the bed he complains I'm lazy and messy. The maid doesn't fold laundry tho
You need to talk to him about his expectations for you as a partner, and get the the bottom if it. The laundry isn't the issue. It's deeper than laundry.
I'm pissed. Hubs teen took 1 of our cars and totaled it, she was also drinking. I asked him to take her off our insurance and get her a damn bike. Today I get home and he's purchased her a car straight off the lot With $ from our joint account! Said he didn't discuss with me cus it's his kid and $
Typically, when you're married, the kids-- even those from previous relationships-- are supposed to belong to both of you. But you two have a "his child" POV.
The problem here is deeper than the kid and the car. You two seem to have never established what's his, hers and ours and how money gets divvied up. That discussion needs to happen now to prevent screw ups going down the line.
The car is a dead discussion point. It's not going back. Address the actual issues if you don't want something like this to happen again.
Oh, and you don't reward kids for bad behavior. It turns them into irresponsible assholes. I say that not telling you how to raise your kids, but as someone who watched it happen to a lot if teenagers and knowing how they ended to as adults.
I notice my husband is sometimes irritated if he comes home and I haven't cleaned or folded laundry. Mind u I also work. He basically is In a mood when I don't clean on his terms. Anything I can do here?
Tell him what you've noticed, ask what the mood is about. If he has an issue with he house being messy, ask if he'd like to help you clean up more so the house is neater. Or hire a maid?
Sometimes my hubs doesn't come home right after work should I ask or just shrug it off. I trust him but genuinely wonder where he was but dint want to seem jealous needy and insecure.
Just ask where he goes. You don't have to accuse him. Tell him what you noticed and ask what you want to know.
Having doubts about starting a business with a friend. I feel she's not serious (ie- doesn't clock her 10000hrs). For me it's my dream, her- side hustle for $$. Love our friendship. How do I tell her I'd rather do this myself and not ruin her friendship without pointing out her unpreparedness?
tell her "i'd rather do it myself." if she asks, tell her why.
your concerns are valid.
Is there reprieve for slow texters? Went on 2 dates w guy...known him for 3 three wks now. Went well, kissed me too. Seems to think I'm cool tho said not looking 4 nething serious. Know he's in school w jobs but he used to text back a lot faster. It's annoying to wait.
he's not interested. when you get a text from someone you're interested in, you respond quickly. and you check your phone regularly hoping they hit you. guys do it to...when they are interested.
Re: miss my ex so so much. Should I ask him out for a drink to talk about it (the possibility of reconciling)? I'm just afraid he'll say (directly or indirectly) no and I know I'll be saddened by the rejection. But, I also feel like I should try just one last time before I let it go.
missing your ex is not a valid reason to reconcile. it's also that simple. you broke up for a reason, how will those issues be addressed going forward so that there is not another break up.
if you really want to reconcile, tell him and find out what he thinks. the torture is more in the "what if?" than the answer. if he's down, AGAIN, address the issues before you get back together.
Hi my hub and I are not really connecting since we married 2 years ago. Our mar feels so unromantic almost like we are just roommates. I've talked to him he thinks evrtg is ok. I'm still not happy and feel like I'm a single married woman. What to do??
"I told my fam how I've been feeling and I think it was big mistake. They are pretty much telling me to leave and that I deserve to be happy. I want to be happy and we have quite a few issues in our mar. But I don't know if I'm ready to just get a divorce."
go to a therapist. stop telling your family your business. that is a big mistake.
if you don't want to leave, don't leave. but he's got to do some work if this is marriage is going to last. everything is not ok if his wife is miserable.
Bf has been uber busy at work, decided to go to his place while he would be at work and clean up, wash clothes, and make him a meal. Got there and saw a condom wrapper. He doesn't kno I went over there or what I saw, how do I address it? There is a possibility it's his bros who visited for a month
you have to ask him about it. you don't have any other logical or healthy choice here.
PS-- you're not his wife or his maid. does he do this for you?