How do I help my boyfriend through a loss of a family member ? :'( What I mean is, what do I say?
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You can tell him that and also you don't really have to say anything else, sometimes silence is better and more comforting, just let him know that you're there for him, and that you're never leaving his side, sit with him, assure him that everything will be alright and time will heal, make him know he will always have you, give him a shoulder to cry on and tell him it's okay to cry, hug him, kiss him, cuddle with him and don't really keep talking to him about it and saying comforting stuff after a few days or weeks, because he needs to forget now and you'll be just reminding him of the one he lost and it'll make him sadder, give him a chance to start to forget and cope with it, he will also need someone to do things for him like arrange his stuff, clean his room, put his clothes in the laundry, makes sure he eats well, but maybe his family or mother will already do that, also don't stay with him 24/7 sometimes he'll just need to be alone by himself for a while to think or even do nothing, let him be, give him time and space, leave him for a while but tell him that if he ever needed you he will find you there anytime, and after a few weeks, you can start getting him out of the sadness mood, go out together, try to cheer him up, take him on a date, do something for him, but don't also make it extreme, he will still be alittle sad so don't act like nothing happened, just try to make him smile now and then, but still try to comfort him. I'm sorry for his loss. Good luck x
#LuCas
You can tell him that and also you don't really have to say anything else, sometimes silence is better and more comforting, just let him know that you're there for him, and that you're never leaving his side, sit with him, assure him that everything will be alright and time will heal, make him know he will always have you, give him a shoulder to cry on and tell him it's okay to cry, hug him, kiss him, cuddle with him and don't really keep talking to him about it and saying comforting stuff after a few days or weeks, because he needs to forget now and you'll be just reminding him of the one he lost and it'll make him sadder, give him a chance to start to forget and cope with it, he will also need someone to do things for him like arrange his stuff, clean his room, put his clothes in the laundry, makes sure he eats well, but maybe his family or mother will already do that, also don't stay with him 24/7 sometimes he'll just need to be alone by himself for a while to think or even do nothing, let him be, give him time and space, leave him for a while but tell him that if he ever needed you he will find you there anytime, and after a few weeks, you can start getting him out of the sadness mood, go out together, try to cheer him up, take him on a date, do something for him, but don't also make it extreme, he will still be alittle sad so don't act like nothing happened, just try to make him smile now and then, but still try to comfort him. I'm sorry for his loss. Good luck x
#LuCas
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