My best friend is super religious, and I'm not... I support her because she's my best friend. I hate her church because they are ignorant and hateful, but I go with her because I know it will make her happy. I'm afraid to tell her I don't believe in God. What of she loves me less. Should I tell her?
oh myy! something similar happened to me but with my mom. There was a super religious neighbour that introduced my mom into this super extremely religious church. My mom accepted because it was a really dark time for us i was dealing with my extreme anxiety/depression and she with her bipolar disorder (it was a really bad time for me).
I guess she wanted to feel accepted and she started obsessing over this church (even tho i'm catholic i obviously support lgbtq+ rights and stuff like that.). That church was brainwashing my mom, she turned into this sensitive and agressive person, and started hating parties like halloween, and didnt like the lgbtq+ community.
So i told her, i was dealing with too much already that i didnt want to have a mom like that. Because i knew she wasnt like that, so i went to her room and explained how i felt, like "hey mom, i love you so much but i dont like feel comfortable with your church, i have other beliefs. I'm not saying you should leave but i just can't do it for the good of both of us". In the end she left the church because she realised how bad it was.
Anywaysssss, my point is. She won't get mad at you for being honest, i didn't like my mom's church and i told her, she didnt get mad AND SHE'S MY MOM. Just tell her that you really care about her, you love her so so much, explain her how special she's to you but you have other beliefs and you dont really feel fine/comfortable. Explain her how much you care about her happiness and that you understand how happy the church makes her but you hope she understands how you feel and what makes YOU happy!!
I hope everything goes well!! There's nothing wrong with not agreeing with a religion SPECIALLY if you feel part of something you don't feel right about. Trust me, i'm a catholic i DO believe in God, Jesus, in angels, the heaven and all the stuff you imagine. But for me aswell, there's a line between my beliefs and being part of something hateful (not saying the catholic religion is hateful but you get my point) :)
I guess she wanted to feel accepted and she started obsessing over this church (even tho i'm catholic i obviously support lgbtq+ rights and stuff like that.). That church was brainwashing my mom, she turned into this sensitive and agressive person, and started hating parties like halloween, and didnt like the lgbtq+ community.
So i told her, i was dealing with too much already that i didnt want to have a mom like that. Because i knew she wasnt like that, so i went to her room and explained how i felt, like "hey mom, i love you so much but i dont like feel comfortable with your church, i have other beliefs. I'm not saying you should leave but i just can't do it for the good of both of us". In the end she left the church because she realised how bad it was.
Anywaysssss, my point is. She won't get mad at you for being honest, i didn't like my mom's church and i told her, she didnt get mad AND SHE'S MY MOM. Just tell her that you really care about her, you love her so so much, explain her how special she's to you but you have other beliefs and you dont really feel fine/comfortable. Explain her how much you care about her happiness and that you understand how happy the church makes her but you hope she understands how you feel and what makes YOU happy!!
I hope everything goes well!! There's nothing wrong with not agreeing with a religion SPECIALLY if you feel part of something you don't feel right about. Trust me, i'm a catholic i DO believe in God, Jesus, in angels, the heaven and all the stuff you imagine. But for me aswell, there's a line between my beliefs and being part of something hateful (not saying the catholic religion is hateful but you get my point) :)
