I'm not saying this because I think you should change or because I'm intolerant of your beliefs, I'm saying this because it helped me: I feel that believing in hell doesn't help people, it messes them up.
If you meant figurative hell, though, I can probably offer very little. This is an issue a therapist should help you with, because it's likely complex and built on something that happened specifically to you in your life.
What caused it for me is religion, and I've worked pretty hard to get past that. I don't below that guilt is healthy, I think it's a feeling you experience when you can't fix something you're responsible for. Except you can fix it, and it probably wasn't black and white "your fault." We play the blame game more heavily with ourselves than anyone else, more often than not incorrectly so.
I mean, is it healthy to feel bad overt doing something terrible? Yeah, probably. But the vast majority of what we feel very guilty over is not a murder. It's like... Forgetting to start dinner on time. Just start it now. Feeling bad about it doesn't get dinner cooked.
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