"What kind of dressing do you like on your salad"? Ever gone to a fashion show? Just think about all the dressing required before going on the run-way. Actually, the salad dressing will vary as to what one is having.
A passing is inevitable. How one copes with it depends
This is a (self) personal question that only can be answered by each individual. Love can be be questionable in its own way. Hate is manifested because some one doesn't like some one and/or some thing.