My boyfriend always brings up my past how can I get him to stop, it's super annoying and it's basically ruining our relationship, he always randomly gets rude with me at night and I don't know what to do, I feel annoying. What would you do
I've been in that situation before, if he can't accept that the past is the past then it's very hard to be in a relationship with him. I kicked one of my exes to the curb because of it. Almost as if he isn't mature enough to be in a relationship. He probably only gets mad at you at night because he thinks you're texting other guys, because I've also been in that situation before. If I were you, bring it up to him and ask why he always brings up your past, if he gets defensive and rude than that should be a red flag! If its ruining the relationship and he won't stop then it's probably healthier for the both of you if you weren't in one. Sure you love each other, but is the love enough to keep this from happening or bugging you? Ask yourself if you're truly happy, be honest with yourself. To me he sounds manipulating and controlling in a way, if he uses your past against you that is a type of abuse and he should understand that. Put your happiness before others!