ABHINAV MAJUMDER

First of all, let me just inform you that you simply can't understand this without understanding what a typical South Asian girl goes through everyday.

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Typical South Asian girl-
Starts from home to go to school/college - experiences eve-teasing almost everyday. It either happens to herself or to some other friend of hers. Receives random calls / SMS from creepy strangers who want to be her "FRAANDS". Random strangers try to feel them up in queues, metros, buses etc. Opens newspaper and sees the news of rape of a 3-4 year-old minor girl, which seems to have become a daily column, almost. Creepy ogles by people on the road whose sole motive in life is to see as many female chests as possible.
Then there are the kidnappings, threats to accept someone’s love, girls being burnt by acid etc. Some read about all this in the newspaper; others face these everyday.
Now you think and tell me, are some girls wrong in thinking boys just want sex?
I obviously know that it isn't the truth, but when you see so many crimes happening to your section of the society, you are bound to think that you are unsafe too.
I consider it too lenient on their part that they even talk to us everyday.
Though some girls do really have an attitude problem, most girls are just being protective of themselves and following what they have been taught since their childhood, "STAY AWAY FROM BAD BOYS". Heck, when politicians, police and society consider it their responsibility to make them feel safe, yet when a rape happens, the girl is the first person to be blamed, who wouldn't wanna practice a little safety.

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Let me explain you with an example buddy-
You are a nice guy, a girl from your college starts talking to you. You fall in love with her. She tells you NO. You get mad, you are the MAN, after all! You start harassing her, stalking her, some send her SMSes, blank calls, some say that they will tell her dad/brother that she used to be with him (not even mentioning about the vulgar comments), some even throw acid at her to teach her alesson.
Does this happen? -YES, almost everyday.
Is she wrong then in taking some safety precautions like talking to a minimal number of boys? -YOU DECIDE.

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I am not asking you to go change your way of living (I am sure you are a nice guy), I am not even asking you to start beating up every fellow who misbehaves with a girl, neither am I asking you to be extra polite to girls just because they are of a different gender than you, I am just asking you togive them a break & STOP JUDGING THEM.

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And the poor queen does most of the work while the king stays idle all the time. And when the king's gone, game's done. Sexist, isn't it?
And the poor pawns are being sacrificed by the bourgeoisie pieces. Elitist & capitalist too, right?
And what's the Bishop doing in my board? Damn, it's evangelist & theist as well.
And Manichaeism? Believing that everything is black & white while life is an infinite shade of grey.
And imperialistic? Look, how you are warmongering & killing armies. Well, even Atavist & extremist.
And why is it Anachronistic? Who even fights with cavalry & elephants in modern era! Why doesn't it get helicopters, machine guns or say missiles. Hey, how about a nuclear weapon? Whichever side gets to it first, wins the game!
And for Pete's sake, why is it all Squares? No circles or triangles!
My friend, let a game, STAY a game 😃

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Definitely. This is especially true if he is slow in responding because he is recently devoted to endeavours like working (making money to support himself; family; future purpose), studying to improve himself, spending time with family, philanthropy, helping others (giving support to a depressed friend, helping on a school project), exercising, hobbies & other worthwhile endeavours. You should dump him because he deserves someone who is not a parasite & deserves a life of his own. He deserves equal & not a leech of his time & energy. It would have been a different story had he stopped responding at all or replying very late in idle hours. Then you would (potentially) have a case for painting him as a bad boyfriend. Dear, there are a lot of important stuffs has person has to commit to in a day. Get to know your boyfriend. Are you aware of his schedule? If he is spending time in quality things, support him; rather than lashing it out at him.

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Sometimes learning the hard way is the only way. You gotta (or try to) banish the following from life:
1) Jealousy: The illusion that another person can take something from you inspires a course of action pretty much guaranteed to get you the opposite of whatever it is you are trying to accomplish.

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2) Envy: The sense that others are better of is a fallacy. We are each on our own path & we each have our own challenges, even if they are always not evident.

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3) Gossip: Every ounce of energy you spend talking about someone else is energy you are not spending on your own growth. Besides, anything you say about others reveals a lot about you.

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4) Rivalry: Better to focus on your own path & own goals & work in harmony with others than to concoct or play onto a rivalry that usually succeeds only in throwing you off focus.

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5) Controlling others: The only person you can change, adjust, help, fix or save is yourself!

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