The only people I ever feel emotional attraction towards are artists I follow online, but graduating from fan of someone to genuine friend is the Nightmare Mode of social interaction, and I can't even succeed on Easy. How can I make friends with these people who are "above" my social caste?
Honestly, I think friendships can only persist so long as each party believes he has some advantage over the other. That is, you gotta be useful to each other. One party can't totally outclass the other in power or status. Without that minimum, all that other stuff about loyalty and trust and whatever doesn't matter one bit. Think of a hunting party in ancient times -- you want to be a good party member: shares the same goals, not dead weight, can be trusted not to betray, can be trusted to make investments into the party, his skills have good synergy with other members' skills, etc. If you're too weak, you gotta be a follower and worry about abandoned. If you're too strong you gotta lead and worry about being stabbed in the back. If you're in the sweet spot, you can be "friends".
Alternative route: be a cutest and a best -- that's a golden ticket into nearly any circle you want (except circles with a lot of other cutests that will stab you in the back for being more a cutest than them).
Anyway, yeah, so just work on yourself. Once you have something someone wants, you'll find that folks will just come to you. Might suck, but that's the way it is.
Alternative route: be a cutest and a best -- that's a golden ticket into nearly any circle you want (except circles with a lot of other cutests that will stab you in the back for being more a cutest than them).
Anyway, yeah, so just work on yourself. Once you have something someone wants, you'll find that folks will just come to you. Might suck, but that's the way it is.
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