I'm 21, girl.Been bff with a guy for 5 years.We spend lot of time together & love each others company but not romantically.Now people have started teasing us that we are couple.They say a guy & girl can never be only good friends.It is affecting our friendship.We are apprehensive 2 even meet.Advice?
Hello,
First things first, talk it out with your friend. If both of you are on the same page, that is, if both of you are okay with being friends as before, then continue to do so.
If you care about each other, then you should not care about what others will think or say about your friendship. People will always criticise, it is the basic human nature. The reason behind them teasing you might be childish, as the children in schools do. They might not even mean to break you two apart. Moreover, they might not even know how it is affecting both of you.
Also, a girl and a guy CAN be best friends, and there are many people who have had such friendships with the opposite sex. It is normal and natural. Everyone should start accepting that. It is a stupid stereotype and we need to get over it. You don't know who you click with on an emotional and intellectual level. And if that person is from the opposite sex, as I said before, there is nothing wrong with it.
Being close to someone for five years accounts for something. And if you too love and care for each other, you should not let that go. It is not easy to find someone who you connect to. Don't lose it just because of what people are saying.
Have a talk with your friend. Things will sort out in the end. :)
First things first, talk it out with your friend. If both of you are on the same page, that is, if both of you are okay with being friends as before, then continue to do so.
If you care about each other, then you should not care about what others will think or say about your friendship. People will always criticise, it is the basic human nature. The reason behind them teasing you might be childish, as the children in schools do. They might not even mean to break you two apart. Moreover, they might not even know how it is affecting both of you.
Also, a girl and a guy CAN be best friends, and there are many people who have had such friendships with the opposite sex. It is normal and natural. Everyone should start accepting that. It is a stupid stereotype and we need to get over it. You don't know who you click with on an emotional and intellectual level. And if that person is from the opposite sex, as I said before, there is nothing wrong with it.
Being close to someone for five years accounts for something. And if you too love and care for each other, you should not let that go. It is not easy to find someone who you connect to. Don't lose it just because of what people are saying.
Have a talk with your friend. Things will sort out in the end. :)
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