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Salam what are ways to prevent doubts or remove them? Ive been geting a few doubts about Allah and Islam recently and from what I do to get rid of them or see how to get rid of them they aren't super effective.

Salaam! You really need to start off by understanding where these doubts are coming from. What exactly are you questioning and why are you questioning it. Sometimes, we begin to question Islam as a whole because we feel we are lacking in our connection with God. We must realize that we can’t blame Islam in its entirety when it’s our personal connection lacking. We have to be sure to expand our knowledge of the religion we follow. If you haven’t read the Qur’an entirely, start there. We can’t question something if we haven’t actually studied it. Never hesitate to ask specific questions you may have. Having doubts is normal and not something to be ashamed of. Once you realize the root of them, be sure to get your questions answered iA.
Be sure to attend this event; it’s going to be super beneficial inshAllah! It’s going to be on December 8th at 8pm in the lower level masjid.

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Salam , I feel like the Quran doesn't give me as much comfort or ease as it used to. I could be listening to it for a good amount of time but sometimes I just wanna pause it or just shut it off completely. Any tips or reasons as to why this might be?

Wasalaam! The first thing to note is that there are always going to be highs and lows in your faith. Sometimes you’ll feel a very strong connection in salah and other times not so much. Similarly, sometimes Qur’an will realllyy get to you and other times you’ll be reading it without paying much attention to it. A few things to help you with this:
- One of the etiquettes of reciting Qur’an is starting by saying A’uthu billahi min ash-shaytaan ar-rajeem. This is asking Allah ﷻ to protect you from Shaytaan so that you can stay focused.
- Say bismillah-irrahman-irraheem before the start of a surah (unless it’s Surat At Tawbah). Starting in the name of Allah is always of benefit.
- Another etiquette is to reflect on the meaning of what you’re reciting. If you’re not able to understand it in Arabic, have an English translation opened. If you’re reading, go aya by aya and read it in Arabic then English or vise versa (whatever you prefer). If you’re listening, read along the translation as you’re listening to it.
- Learn about the ayaat you’re reciting a little more in depth. Learn about when they were revealed and what they meant to the people they were revealed to.
- Ask Allah ﷻ to help you connect your heart to His words. If you come to Him walking, He’ll come to you running. Show Him that this is something you truly care for and ask Him to help you through it.
Wa Allahu a’lam

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what if your dad says u spend too much time at the mosque and he even picked you up before the bonfire started because he didn’t want you going and your hajabi and he thinks he’s God like he even says he is and he abuses me and my family including my mom and i stay up all night getting beaten

Salam, please forgive us for the late response.
First and foremost, May Allah SWT put ease in all of your affairs and make your situation easy on you. The FNL team is always here for support. We may not be able to provide you with real solutions as we are not qualified to on situations such as abuse, which is why seeking the opinion of a professional would be most beneficial. However, we are your friend. We are here to provide you with comfort and continued support. And most of all, you are in our duaa. Don't ever underestimate the power of your duaa. With Allah SWT on your side, you will be able to conquer any trial He throws your way. Keep in mind that Allah SWT gives the most difficult trials to the ones He loves the most. May Allah SWT bless you and grant you the Sabr of Yacoub (AS) :)
From an Islamic standpoint and the teachings from The Quran and Sunnah of our Prophet SAW, there is no room for any form of abuse whether that be physically, verbally, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, etc. Although this is the ideal and the standard we all should abide by, some situations like this unfortunately are still happening. In terms of the abuse that may be happening at home, we advise that an actual qualified professional is contacted for the proper steps in how to handle the situation.
In regards to the help that the masjid can offer, we can suggest certain topics, such as abuse for example, to be discussed through different services like Khutba, Khatiras, GPS programs, etc. This would be a general approach that the masjid can take in an attempt to educate the families in the community and raise awareness for such topics, but it would not be a direct address to the situation you are facing with your family. If you have any additional questions you can contact the masjid and request to speak to the Imam if this post has not provided enough of an answer for your case.

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So my mom is giving me a lot of stress and I try to talk to her but When i try it becomes problematic. Is there any way it says in the Quran to handle this? P.s we’re not that close

وَ وَصَّيْنَا الإِنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ إحْسَانًا
And We have commanded people to show excellence to their parents. [Al Ahqaaf : 15]
This means that no matter what the situation, we MUST have a high level of respect to our parents and treat them in the best of ways. This doesn’t mean to keep how you feel to yourself, just keep that element of respect in mind when speaking to her about this. I know you mentioned you aren’t that close, but rather than using that as a barrier from fixing the situation, start by improving on that. Any mother wants to be close to her child. Try inviting her to get coffee with you. The more time you spend together as friends, the more your relationship will improve, and the more she will be willing to accept what you have to say. Rather than approaching her with “You do this and that” try saying “I have been feeling stressed because...” and continue with how she can help you.
Wa Allahu A’lam

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I’ve been praying to Allah so I could do great on my test and and a class I’m struggling really hard on. But I ended up not getting a good grade on my test. What am I doing wrong?

There are two parts to a du’a:
1. Doing your part
2. Asking Allah to take care of the rest.
Anything that happens after is because He knows it’s best. If you have truly used every opportunity to study, trust that your low score was out of Allah’s wisdom and use it to help you prepare for your next exam. For example, if you didn’t get a tutor the first time, maybe He knows that would be more beneficial for you. Try not to look at it as “what am I doing wrong?” Instead, look at it as “What is Allah trying to teach me?”

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My friend has a boyfriend and she wanted me to sit with her and her boyfriend and his friends. I felt super uncomfortable and dont know how to tell her I dont want to do that again. What should I say?

You should feel comfortable being open with any true friend. Recognize that someone who isn’t willing to respect your values is not a good friend. If your friend hasn’t done anything to show you you shouldn’t feel comfortable telling her things, it isn’t fair to assume that about her.
“Your best friend is the one who: seeing him reminds you of Allah, speaking to him increases your knowledge, and his actions remind you of the hereafter.” (Al-Muhasibi)

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I’m having trouble getting over the stuff I regret. Is there some good advice you can give me to help me move on?

When a person makes a mistake, it’s good to feel regret, but it’s better to go beyond that. Use that regret to motivate you to constantly do good. Also use it to bring you closer to Allah, but never let it hold you back. We are obligated to believe Allah has forgiven us if we’ve expressed true regret. Use your confidence that He has forgiven you to help you see past it. Remember that you are not your biggest mistake.

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I’m a hijabi and apparently my hair was showing but I didn’t know. A guy noticed it and told me but now idk if I sinned

Allah doesn’t punish you for anything you do unintentionally. 'Umar Ibn Al-Khattab relates that he heard the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam, say, "Verily actions are by intentions, and for every person is what he intended.” As long as it was a mistake, you’re fine :)

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is vaping haram?

The bodies we have in dunya are rented and do not belong to us. We are using them during our short time on Earth. When we harm our bodies, we are harming what Allah SWT has allowed us to borrow. Because of this, we cannot be doing anything that will have bad effects on our bodies - getting tattoos, smoking, etc.

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If you give money to a homeless man without anyone looking at you is that bad?

One of the seven people shaded on the Day of Judgement are the ones who give charity with their right hand without their left hand knowing about it. Doing any act of good in private/without people seeing is awesome!

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Can you own a dog?

It is narrated multiple times that Muhammad SAW stated that angels will not enter a house if there is a dog in it. We want angels in our house to witness/testify for the good we do (praying, qur'an, showing love to each other, etc.) so as Muslims, we should not have dogs in our house.

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So one of the reasons for punishment of the grave is prayer without purification. Sometimes I leave my house on wudu but release discharge throughout the day, but I still pray on the same wudu I made earlier because I didn’t pass gas or use the bathroom. Is that okay?

Clear/white discharge does not break your wudu

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i have a really bad insecurity with how my nose looks and it has made me depressed and make myself think i look ugly. If were to get a small nose surgery that is not permanent and it has to be done every year, would that be considered haram and changing how Allah swt made you look? JAK

If it’s not medical, reconstructive surgery is a no-go. Allah SWT created YOU beautifully. Learn to love and accept yourself for who you are :)

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Important! I am addicted to pornography. I have tried to stop and make duaa but it hasn’t changed. I don’t know what to do. If I seek professional help, I would have to tell my parents and other people and I do not want to face that shame. But I genuinely do not know what I can do.

Habits are extremely influenced by setting. Think about where you are when you’re doing this and try to avoid that space. If you access a private computer in your room, keep your room door open. Also, be aware of Allah. The shame you mentioned if other people were to know is the same shame that is there when you recognize the fact that Allah is there watching. Try to do things that will remind you of Allah before, may it be praying, listening to Qur’an, even saying bismillah. Lastly, make du’a. Do your part and show Allah that you are doing your part. Humble yourself in front of Him. When He sees your sincerity, He helps you. It’s great that you recognize that it’s a problem. By giving yourself less time alone, recognizing Allah’s presence wherever you are, and making du’a, you will, inshAllah, be able to resolve this.

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My mom is forcing me to mem quran daily at a pace too fast for me. I keep telling her that I have hw, projects, & important tests to study for & she tells me that quran should be my #1 priority & threatens to drop me out of school & take GEDs in college if I dont do quran. Need advice (Stressed out)

First, know that your mon truly wants the best for you. Every mom does for her child. You’re right that school and studies is extremely important, and you shouldn’t have to sacrifice any of that. I would suggest making a goal. Taking memorization one day at a time is difficult and it is easy to lose motivation. Talk to your mom and make a weekly goal for Qur’an that isn’t too easy for you but also allows you to give the time you need to school. Islam is about balance. You cannot put all of your time to memorizing Qur’an and forget about everything else, and at the same time, you cannot lose having Qur’an be a significant part of your life. Talk to your mom about having a goal that as long as your accomplishing, she doesn’t need to worry about school getting in the way. Remember to try to stay relaxed when talking to her, as any frustration can come off in your tone, and she is your mom at the end of the day.

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There's this guy I've been talking to, and my parents are aware of this. He has began opening up to me about his past which includes alcohol anddrug use and relationships with other girls. I cant seem to move on from this despite him repenting. Is it unfair of me to feel this way?

This type of situation depends case by case. If you would like a personalized answer, you can email us at fnl.oppc@gmail.com with more details so we can better give you a response.

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Is music haram, because my my family tells me it is?

Whether or not it is haram is something you should bring up to your local Imam and get a definitive answer from them.
However, we definitely recommend that you try your best to find some alternative to music. If you adapt your ears to listening to Quran instead, then gradually you will just start to enjoy that more than music anyway. Nothing is more soothing and peaceful than the words of God.
Here is a beautiful recitation that is one of my favorites;
https://youtu.be/PsZ0b4el-3Y
May Allah swt fill your life with his remembrance and grant you peace and serenity through his words 🙏

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Is playing a musical instrument haram?

There may be a difference in opinion when it comes to music and musical instruments. We advise you to speak to your local Imam or Islamic scholar for an answer on whether or not it is haram.
Allah swt knows best (btw kinda curious too so let us know if you get an answer lol)

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What is the Islamic view of life support? Is it okay to unplug a patient?

Salam!
Forgive us for the late reply. But in order for you to get the best answer to your question, it would be best for you to reach out to your local Imam. They should be able to advise you on what the Islamic view is of such a situation.
Also, if you aren't sure of who to reach out to just let us know and inshAllah we can point you in the direction of some resources :)

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There needs to be more screening on like the volunteers in myop. A girl posted a really inapproprate video of herself on intagram and then she volunteers with my bros and sisters and young kids. That isnt a good example

Salam!
InshAllah you and your family are well. We appreciate you expressing your concern and looking out for the best interest of our youth. It would be best for you to reach out to our Youth Director to bring up any concerns you may have. You can email her at ssalama@op-pc.org
Hope that helps!
Please keep us in your duaa :)

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Alhamdulillah my life is always well except when I'm with my family. They always bring me down and are the source of my depression. I've attempted suicide before and told my family but they take it as a joke. I make duaa everyday for sabr and for Allah to help me through it but nothing ever fixes it

There are times that family may not understand or sympathize with what you're going through. In fact, there are times where they will make your trials more difficult. You have to talk to them. Let them know what you're going through. Sit down with each of them on an individual level, because when they are in a group, it becomes harder for them to develop a genuine reaction to your emotions. Let them see how serious you are and how much they are hurting you. Speak to your parents/guardians first, privately and separately.
Also, know that Allah (SWT) is with you. He is always there. Speak to Him, rant to Him, confide in Him. Make more du'aa to Him. There are times where it might not seem like it's working, but don't underestimate the power of du'aa. It is the only thing on this earth that has the ability to change fates. Insha'Allah, things will get better.
And know that you are important. You are valuable, as Allah (SWT) would not have placed you on this earth otherwise.
And if this is a situation that escalated to a suicide attempt, we strongly advise speaking to someone who can support you emotionally on a professional level. This can prove to be very beneficial to your mental/emotional health. You can do so by reaching out to a school counselor or a social worker. If you would like to reach out to us more, email us at fnl.oppc@gmail.com to further the conversation. Also, you can reach out to https://khalilcenter.com or https://pillarscommunity.org or http://orlandtownship.org/youth-and-family-services/ as they provide services to aid your emotional growth.
May Allah grant an easy and joyful road ahead for you. You are in our du'aa's.

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I am currently wearing the hijab. I have been wearing it for about 2 years now. However, I do not pray and am not very religious. Sometimes I feel it would be best if I took off my hijab and put it back on only when I have become more spiritual (pray). What are the Islamic views on this? Please help

Both hijab and salah are integral parts of your faith, and you have one down already! That's amazing, don't downplay that in any way, shape or form! Instead of removing the hijab, start taking steps to incorporate salah in your life.
Shaytan is very clever and will put thoughts like this in your head. He moves people away from Islam through small steps like this. He will attempt to convince you that there is no point in hijab without salah, and taking it off is your only option. However that is far from the truth, part of Islam is to constantly better ourselves and develop into the best people we can be.
Our advice to you is to change your perspective. Wearing hijab for two years is an amazing feat, and now you can begin to take steps towards your salah. Everyone develops themselves differently. You can do this!
Here are some tips in taking those steps:
1. Find a prayer buddy! Someone who can remind you about Salah's. If you don't know anyone, ask one of the FNL leaders! We'd love to be your salah buddy! :)
2. Text @prayremind to 81010 for daily reminders of salah (it even includes a quote to motivate you to make your salah!)
3. Reward yourself when your do your prayers! (It really helps!)
4. Remotivate yourself with videos when you're feeling spiritually low. There is also an Islamic Reminders chat on WhatsApp full of motivational reminders that you can be added to! (just ask one of the FNL leaders)
5. Talk to Allah SWT! This will aid in you developing a better connection with Him and will encourage you to do your salah.
You are in our du'aa! May Allah reward you for your struggle and guide your betterment. We believe in you! :)

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