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what's the truth ? 🎤

arrrby’s Profile PhotoRare Essence
Reality is truth.
Our perception and understanding of that reality, past, present, and future, is necessarily based on our unique viewpoint and background.
Accordingly, like the blind monks and the elephant, our perception can only be partial, at best.
whats the truth
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What would you do with the last hour of your life if you knew it was your last?

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I would sped that hour passing on insights gleaned on life’s pregnant journey. If I can not speak , I will write, if I can not write I will use my eyes, if my eyes close? I hope there is a yet hand to hold, as there is yet so much to be said…
In leaving…
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Do you think a person's hobbies must match the level of their intellect (e.g., an astrophysicist who has won the Nobel Prize shouldn't do sudoku during his free time because it's "beneath him")? Why?

In fact there may be a danger to imagining such limitations.
In my experience, there’s a good chance that the broader the range of interests, the more breadth of lateral and vertical thinking opens up.
And generally that’s nothing but good.
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What kind of experience would you label as emotional rebirth or emotional transformation and why? [ Q by @erosdea ]

I am emotionally transformed, and frequently shed a tear or two of joy when I witness OR am subject to and unsolicited act of kindness, Support, Gentle mental nudge, and such. Particularly when they are not random nor automatic but when they are preceded by careful thought and intention.
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Do you think mental health services should be free-of-charge? Why or why not?

Good question.
1. Most persons will have the initial urge to take something that is free. Yet Nothing is free. Some level of commitment is always required. Once that is clear, the type of person who is enticed by the “free” realizes the reality and cost of commitment, they are generally challenged, and that will cause alienation, and repulsion.
This does not seem good, as this type of person may have more to gain from mental health services, And if such services were not free, may have even taking them up and follow through.
2. Persons place more value, and hence manifest more commitment in something that is not free. Cost is one way to set up the committed frame of mind in a person that is required for them to actually be able to benefit from any such services received.
It could be that Those who may need such services and have, or can spare no cash, may be offered other means to provide the commitment that will enable them to receive the value to be gained.
3. So, Come to think of it, nothing that is “free” comes without cost.

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Is "mentally stable" the same as "mentally healthy"? Why or why not?

For one thing, stable infers to me, just this side of unstable.. and may also connote lack of appreciable change, for better or worse.. change is needed for growth snd life.
Healthy on the other hand connotes living, changing, moving, meaningful and motivated. Zorba the Greek’s description: “the whole catastrophe” suddenly comes to mind for some reason... perhaps I associate that quip with life...
Finally, I’m sure that the different words employed for the two terms implies differences, both in dictionary meanings, and in the personal associations we imbue those phrases with. Why else would there be different words, if not different meanings.
As far as meanings goes then, mentally stable should not be the same as mentally healthy.
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Would you say that fear is a good motivator? Why or why not?

Fear should be a motivator of last resort, and generally not resorted to at all if possible.
Fear does not seem, on the whole, to be a “good” motivator, that is, unless one is running away from a (figurative) lion... in which cases fear has likely already stepped out of the way in favor of action...
My thoughts:
1. F.E.A.R. - in use as as a motivator, is usually based on an illusion (False Expectations Appearing Real.) narratives, constructed by self or others, subject to all partial facts that narratives are. Some Laws can consist of such narratives.
2. As a motivator, Fear can only pretend to control, as The moment fear as a motivator is removed, the original behavior generally resumes, or continues, now unsuppressed, in the open. The fear engendered behavior subsides when fear is removed.
3. While fear is in place, attempting to motivate and control us, other behaviors suppressed by fear strive for outlet and may be as a result amplified, perhaps irrationally. This because fear is less a motivator, and more a suppressor.. the thing suppressed remains.
4. Motivators other than fear (positive ones, based on good emotions or logic), are generally longer acting , self correcting, can be good habit forming, and the positive-engendered behaviors I find, continue long after the positive motivator is removed.
5. I suspect that Evolutionarily, Fear came to exist to get one “out of” or away from perceived dangers. Statistically, that should be a good thing. Fear however, does not seem designed, evolved that is, to discourage behavior, but to encourages a rapid and inconsistent, but immediate response to perceived danger. So Called flight or fight. (See lion reference above)
This may be why fear as a motivator for activities and behaviors that do not allow fight or flight as a response, are so stressful and damaging to individuals.. as are many things now in our “modern life”, where in some ways, we can neither run, nor can we hide.
Above are some of my thoughts on why Fear is not a good motivator.

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Why do you participate in AskFM

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1. I find some of the questions valuable, in that they are thought provoking, as can be the answers by others to those questions.
2. I find that, in attempting to answer thought provoking questions, I invariably learn something while reasoning out a response.
4. I hope that some of the thoughts and perspectives that came to me while composing (even one), others may someday find helpful.
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Can things like poor dietary habits be considered a self-injury? Why?

Yes. As poor dietary habits are generally injurious in the long run.
For one thing, poor dietary habits may mean that we do not value our “future-self” (enough).
Also, it comes to me that the issue is likely more one of inability, denial, or lack of habit of delaying gratification, than of laziness, or lack of education.
Assuming then, that one knows, and consciously or subconsciously ignores the information, and has the means to do better, poor dietary habits are certainly injurious to ones future self.
Therefor I surmise that poor dietary habits = Self-injury.
I hope this helps
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Do you easily fall in love?

Do you mean the love of the carrot on a stick, the one that leads the donkey on, but remains just out of reach?
The feeling that lasts a year or so, in many humans, then ebbs, having led us, and then subsided, leaving space for the real work of loving and living to begin?
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What are the most salient emotional transformations of your life?

Salient, Noticeable: abrupt, unexpected, loss of an early relationship. (This also precipitated a big life-course .. adjustment, however possibly not an actual “course-correction” in retrospect..)
Salient, important: growing confidence, when I noticed that peers valued my thoughts on a topic, which had a concurrent effect of diminishing shyness. ( This also lead to increased attention to refining thoughts, A feedback loop of sorts I suppose.)
It’s interesting that the catalysts to the emotional changes lead to logical, intellectual and non-emotional changes as well.

How to maintain a balance between knowledge and understanding? - deserves an answer as well. The clear meanings/definitions of knowledge and understanding will also need to inform this answer. Will you re-ask?

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How indeed.
Knowledge of course implies understanding on some level, and is gained through seeking and observation, and ... well, understanding those observations. Understanding, which can constitute new knowledge, is gained through small paradigm shifts, as relationships, causes, effects, systems are theorized realized or understood through synthesis of knowledge, and understanding relationships between combinations of bits of knowledge.
So, knowledge processed becomes understanding. Understanding, in some cases can be said to be wisdom.
”Rainman” , The one in the movie, probably can be thought of as a person who is heavy on knowledge but light on understanding or wisdom.
I suppose one could be a person of great wisdom, and if one did not continue to explore knowledge, current events, or expand understanding, one might then get to be too heavy in the wisdom department... but I’m hard-pressed to find example of that!
So, How does one a balance between knowledge and, let us call it wisdom, understanding?
The answer seems intuitive, perhaps obvious, but perhaps equally as difficult to achieve.
Because the dance between knowledge and understanding of course, continues through our entire life, and it is that, a dance, and as in a dance one cannot actually remain in place, in one position, at One step in a Waltz, without going to the next.
It seems than that a strategy must be developed in order to keep this balance up. perhaps habits, traditions, or a schedule which allows time in life for both gathering of knowledge, and contemplation, writing out that knowledge expanding on it, in order to turn some of that knowledge into wisdom and understanding.
So we come back to a central theme, in Scott Peck’ book, the road less traveled, and that word is discipline. But the disciplines that one set up an exception to one’s life must be ones that in gender and allow directions that you wish to and she wants to go to unfold.
So if one wants to mint wisdom out of knowledge, in the same way Rumpelstiltskin minted gold out of straw, one needs to set up the dance, set up the daily schedule examine results and make changes in order to optimize the process, not dwelling too long on one or the other part of it.
But most important of all! Minting of wisdom out of knowledge is not a one-man job. No one is really a rumple still skin. I’ve noticed that real wisdom comes out of sharing of thoughts and ideas, and not sharing leads to real knowledge and wisdom, not just sitting in a quiet room or basement trying to improve understanding. Seems that for humans, we are engineered to need to bad ideas back-and-forth between other humans to make real progress in this area.!

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Are you familiar with your so-called Shadow Self (dark and destructive impulses, taboo desires etc.)? Are you at peace with it or do you try to repress it? Why? [ @erosdea ]

At peace, though it was not always so.
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Realized Self worth is illustrated by Dickens’s reformed Scrooge, after the long night traveling with three ghosts, past, present, and future, Scrooge changed into a magnanimous and studied philanthropist, giving where needed, acknowledging and promoting the self-worth of others rather than squashing self-esteem.
Scrooge recognized his self-worth, enhanced his self esteem, and his ego settled down to normal levels.
In doing so he actually then was able to help others improve their self esteem and self worth.
I suspect that in realizing ones self-worth, and consequently being of value to others, one will naturally find opportunities to give and improve the self esteem and self worth of others, it could even be in the form of viola lessons. Though the coin that comes back from that interaction of your asset is not money, if you search your heart you know what it is.
Our self-worth is the value that we innately have that is beyond what anyone thinks of us, beyond even what our ego thinks of us and protects. Indeed it may be the ego must become smaller, as self worth is realized, in order to actualize it.
Answer to be continued, I have not yet addressed your question!

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What determines your own self worth? What makes it rise and/or fall?

To set up some chance of a meaningful response I am going to look at some of the premises - word definitions related to this question. Definitions for words that describe concepts can be slippery, as we each have individual meanings, and individual interpretations of those meanings ingrained in us. The words are:
Self Esteem,
and Self Worth.
Of course we are each one thing, one human being, and as such, constitute a system, which is a sub-system of our environment and of the universe. Of the whole interrelated system, the above words describe three limited overlapping features of the sub-system that is “I”, each contributes to the understanding the other.
So let’s look at three definitions, for the purpose of this response.
For ego, I think of Freud, and the boundaries we set between “I” and others. Thankfully, these boundaries expand and contract.
A ‘feeling’, but really a self-appraisal of our own value. It is the gut feeling we have about ourselves. The word esteem itself originates from ‘estimate of value’, appraisal. In the case of a human, This self-estimate, self-appraisal is gradually learned, and like an appraisal of real estate value, the local environment (family, others) is critical. Accordingly, self esteem, often comes initially from what we hear from others, what we observe and experience from others, how we are treated by others. Abuse in one form or another can distort self esteem. A healthy childhood can reinforce how we feel about ourselves. Self esteem can fluctuate, in that basically it originates from how we see others see us. And then later, how we process that. But a key point is, as it is a product of opinions and fallible actions and treatment by others, it is a believe we hold that is not necessarily real.
Self worth:
I think that Self-worth should not be confused with self-esteem. It often is. Self-worth is more akin to a potential, a real potential, not an opinion. Recognizing self-worth means that as an individual, we (sometimes experience a paradigm shift) that recognizes that you, I, or others, have within each of us three great “Worth” assets / potentials: an innate value to ourselves, an innate value to others, and an innate value to life in the universe. For a number of reasons, this value seems to be large enough that it is incalculable. Incidentally, Value of an asset is realized by using that asset. (Hence your question I expect)
One aspect of that value is: Included in a human being is the power to change another’s life and direction forever, in an instant, with a glance, a word or two, a smile, encouragement, a suggestion. It is nearly incalculable. Acknowledging that highly valuable power in one’s self is realizing self-worth. Self worth is reachable potential.
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