To be honest I don't like to regret, it sounds cliché but everything I have done has made me, well, me.
If I had to tell you one thing I truly regret, it's caring.
I don't mean this in a horrible way like oh I don't care, I just mean I regret caring about what people think of me.
I can honestly tell you if I didn't care what people said and what people thought of me, my life would have been so much better, it has gotten to the point where I am so scared of what people think, it rules my life and everything I want to do, but then when I stopped going to school I realised that its pointless, in a few years the opinions of these people wont matter but what I have accomplished will so I tipped to the other side of the spectrum, I honestly don't care what people think of me, including parents, this is a point I will I could tell everyone about, DO NOT let family put you down, bulling is the same from anyone, just because you are related doesn't give you a free pass to put someone down, I am privileged to have a very accepting and understanding family that is happy if I am but there are still times, personally I am fond of cosplay/dressing like a character, I haven't done it properly before because I was scared of opinion, I can't say my family is happy about it mainly because of the price which is understandable but its the comments like "why can't you be like everyone else", "Why can't you be normal", which I get a lot from everyone not just family, they don't do it to be mean I know but they don't understand the damage it does, I just have to kindly remind them, I don't care what they think about what I want to do, I am safe and happy, also the fact it is ME doing it, not them, I find football tedious, annoying and pointless but I wouldn't go to someone who enjoys it just to rip it apart, any hobby can be twisted to make it sound stupid, just because you can twist it doesn't mean you should.
When I say stop caring, I don't mean altogether, if someone if offering you a fair point, constructive criticism or something along those lines, listen to them, use it to improve yourself, not to change yourself because they are very different things, if someone is telling you why your hobby is stupid, don't stress, tell them why you think their hobby is stupid and agree to disagree, don't give them the reaction they are looking for.
If family isn't accepting of something, 9 times out of 10 its because they are worried, and they honestly want the best for you, they are scared what people will think of you even if you aren't, another thing I wish I knew a long time ago, they things they so aren't to spite you, they want the best for their child(ren), tell them its safe, its what you enjoy doing and relate it back to the practicalities, if you enjoy dance, tell them it is keeping you healthy, it is keeping you off the streets and it is giving you experiences, if its gardening, tell them its helping you care for things, giving you responsibilities (continued)
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