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I hadn't seen this one "classic" movie since childhood and my partner had never seen it. We watched it tonight & noticed a lot of racist tropes in it unrelated to the plot. Whats a movie you enjoyed as a child and later on noticed it contains racism, sexism etc. that has nothing to do with the plot?

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Ace Ventura: Pet Detective
Dumbo 🥴
Charlie and the Chocolate Factory (especially the book and 2005 movie)
I have a feeling the Night at the Museum movies haven’t aged perfectly
that’s all I can think of rn

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Self love 2: Many self love posts online focus on the exciting side of self love like "buy yourself that new thing, you deserve it #selflove" and whatnot but what are some boring self love things that you feel need to be done? (drinking water to stay hydrated etc.)

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flossing ur teeth and sitting down and scrubbing ur feet w a washcloth and soap are two boring things that feel like self care to me

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Last night while looking up her song Milkshake, I realised that Kelis now does cooking videos on her youtube channel where she also posts her music. Has anyone ever started something new and made you think "that's new and different for them"? If so, what was it?

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I have this slight obsession with watching non-cooks on cooking shows ! lol
I love Bon Appétit’s Back to Back Chef bc it’s so fun to watch random athletes and celebrities try to follow along w a dish without watching, and just from listening.

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Are there any celebrity scandals that still crack u up?

lol this isn’t even a specific scandal BUT I always look at the videos of Hailey & Justin Bieber where their relationship just seems... bizarre. they really fascinate me and I can’t tell why they’re married.
rn the only specific scandal i can think of, that makes me laugh at least, is when scott disick dressed up as a Sheik & then posted abt it on instagram w the caption “Happy halloween, we getting Arab money tonight.”

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who are you to say that’s not how these political conversations are gendered? politics is always gendered

ugh that’s obviously not what I mean. I feel like people argue w me without even reading my responses.
by “that’s not how they’re gendered” I basically just mean the idea that red is men and blue is women. I think women who vote red are voting against their best interest but that’s not what I’m talking about. all I’m saying is that this idea that the dichotomy between left and right is also so clearly gendered.

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+2 answers in: “When people talk about the statistic that 55% of white women voted for Trump, like what are we supposed to do with that information?”

When people talk about the statistic that 55% of white women voted for Trump, like what are we supposed to do with that information?

oh this has an easy answer. I think it means white women should be careful abt how they use their gender in political conversations. like saying “I only feel comfortable talking abt how much I hate Trump before my male coworkers arrive. is not a totally fair assessment of how these political conversations are gendered. I hope this makes sense!

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Finally, an answer to this question which makes sense. All the white people answering this with “No, you are racist for even asking this!” are making me laugh 😂

lol white guilt is powerful. but it’s not cute or good. I’ve seen other black people answer this question and they almost all said “lol yes” but I didn’t see any white people’s answers. dear white people pls don’t defend this cringey white guilt.

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+1 answer in: “Does it make u cringe when white people make a point of being like “ughh I haaaattteeee white people””

Ngl I genuinely reckon it was a made up definition by Irish-Americans trying to "go back to their roots" when naming their kid! 😂 I know a Nigerian-Irish girl named Princess. What does "loan word" mean?

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so funny you mention that! Godsgift’s brother (who is the basketball player) is named Precious, and I have known multiple black americans names Precious. I have also met two black american girls named Princess. sounds naive but I didn’t realize how much overlap there would be between Nigerian names and black american names! I thought black people were inventing all these.
it’s “a word adopted from a foreign language with little or no modification.” I am sure there are times we think we’re just borrowing something from another language and totally mangling it or misusing it lol.

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+1 answer in: “I was just googling Irish names and an American site said "Hurley" is a beautiful name that means "ocean tides" but it actually means either "wood" or "sports equipment" here in Ireland. What's a funny misunderstood name or word from where you live?”

It’s not about proving someone wrong. I’m a little familiar with “misogynoir” (love the look and sound of that word btw if I can be superficial for a minute). The most obvious thing is another’s color. It’s the first think to register in one’s brain. Why is that offensive?

I didn’t say offensive, I said ignorant of intersectionality. I also don’t think it’s accurate. go research misogynoir if you need more info, but I truly am not seen as black first. I am seen as a black woman first.
p.s. hypothetically if the black community was less homophobic/less misogynistic I think reactions would be different and it would feel more like “but clearly were all black above all else” but it’s not like that. identities intersect and are always at play w each other.

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+6 answers in: “A spiritual acct on twitter (hoodhealer if you’ve ever seen them) is getting called homophobic for a tweet that said “you’re black before you’re gay.” Would you call that homophobia?”

They are. And those interactions are very different from if you were a white woman. Mostly due to your blackness. It’s the first think people take into account

yep! but they’re also different than if I was a black man. I’m mot making this up, u can google “intersectionality” or “misogynoir” if you want to read someone smarter than me explain. I feel like I explained it okay in this thread of questions tho.
I don’t get ur point. I said I understood why black gay people didn’t like the tweet, and at the end of the day... it seems that they didn’t like the tweet. so ur not gonna be able to prove me wrong and idk what else you want me to you talk abt.

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+6 answers in: “A spiritual acct on twitter (hoodhealer if you’ve ever seen them) is getting called homophobic for a tweet that said “you’re black before you’re gay.” Would you call that homophobia?”

I was just googling Irish names and an American site said "Hurley" is a beautiful name that means "ocean tides" but it actually means either "wood" or "sports equipment" here in Ireland. What's a funny misunderstood name or word from where you live?

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idk if I am too cynical but my first thought was too wonder if it was Irish people trying to prank americans who didn’t know much abt Irish names but were like “we’re actually irish we should choose an irish name!” lol
there’s probably so many “loan word” names we get twisted that don’t really mean what I think! this isn’t really the same but A LOT of “mal” names have bad meanings bc mal is the root of bad. like Mallory, means unfortunate person....
sometimes I think names don’t translate well. there’s an NBA player who has a brother named Godsgift (all one word). the family is Nigerian I think? I bet there’s nigerian names that are basically “God’s gift” but in English it’s pretty rare to have a name like that, with a possessive word and noun all shmushed together.
oh also if a white person ever says to you “I got my name bc actually my great great great grandma was a cherokee princess, my name is...” I almost guarantee whatever name/historical significance behind it is made up lmao

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Why wouldn’t you respond well to someone saying you’re black before you’re a woman?

okay honestly if a black woman said to me “I think we’re black before were women” I would prob listen to her reasoning. but I would still prob disagree bc ultimately intersectionality is really important. black women experience racism (as a whole societal system that affects them and their families, communities, children, parents). black women experience sexism (in a lot of ways, but also within the black community. from black men and even their fathers and husbands). black women also experience a very specific type of oppression called misogynoir.
when I imagined someone saying “you’re black before you’re a woman” honestly I imagined a black man saying it lol, and I wouldn’t like it bc I don’t think anyone can dictate to me which identity comes first or affects me more. if I was black before I was a woman I would experience misogyny from black men, within the black community, I wouldn’t fear violence from men of all races, etc.

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