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Eating lunch somewhere that doesn’t usually have lunch but not getting what it’s known for on Memorial Day. I know, very stupid.
Meet up every Sunday, either for lunch or dinner. Every birthday, we celebrate by going around and saying what we love about the one we're celebrating and how they've made a difference in our lives. This may be normal for some people, but I came from a family where emotional abuse was the norm. In addition, these days with all the bullying going on, I always want my kids to know that they are loved by their family.
For Easter this year, I hid 24 eggs with puzzle pieces in each of them. The older one assembled the two small puzzles and read the treasure clues I'd written on the back: "Under bed" and "on fish," and used the clues to find their Easter presents. In a few years, I want to work up to a complex series of clues and maps to follow the egg hunt. So, once every year over the summer right after school gets out in June, we take a road trip from our city (DC) and hit up every amusement park we can in whatever direction we travel. I'm fortunate enough to be close to someone who works for Cedar Fair (they own Cedar Point, Kings Dominion, Knott's Berry Farm, Carrowinds, among others) so I get free admission and heavily discounted fast lane passes at any of their parks. Me combining that with a Six Flags pass means we can hit up almost all of the largest parks. It's usually a two week vacation, and between slumming it at cheap motels and whatnot, it's actually not that unaffordable. It's a great way to motivate him at the end of the school year. My favorite memories are me and him, hand in hand just skipping down the midways of Cedar Point to get one last ride on Millennium Force or whatever ride. You can't beat that look of excitement and anticipation on his face.
Every Sunday night we do family movie night. I get a big blanket lay it on the floor with pillows all over, I let my daughter choose the snack(usually cake or ice cream) and the movie and we all lay together and watch the movie and eat snacks. She's only 2 but she loves it(I don't let her watch much tv or ever eat junk food besides movie night!) hope we can do this for years to come. Usually we end it with a family dance party!
We have actually, but not as part of our little tradition. Two of my aunts live in Michigan - one a block north of 8 mile, the other right between Muskegon and Grand Rapids. So naturally we always go to MiA whenever we visit. It's a smaller park for sure, but it's very fun! Cedar Point is unsurprisingly my son's favorite though out of everywhere. He's a daredevil. He was tall for his age when he was little, and was tall enough and willing to do most of the big rides when he was 6! I was pleasantly surprised. Amusement parks really are kids' paradises.

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Most of my weekends are like that! My usual Saturday: sleep in, wake up whenever, my SO makes us breakfast and coffee, we lay around in pajamas and watch tv. Then we go out for lunch to some place we love or have been waiting to try. After we walk around a town and poke in shops or the farmers market. If the weather's nice we go hiking or to the beach. If not, we go shopping or visit friends. Sometimes we do road trips to local places or historic sites. Then we'll either plan for dinner out or buy groceries and make dinner at home. Some weekends we have tickets to shows and go see bands play. If so, we'll stay out, grab drinks at the bar. Then we come home and chill. Sex, usually. And then bed.
Wake up early, coffee in the dark, while the house is silent. Head out the door for a morning run as the sun comes up. Home again and load up the boards and wetsuits.Throw some good shit in the crock pot and head out for a surf session with my kids and hubby. Go out and get exhausted in the water. Change into warm, comfy sweats and stop for a round of coffee/hot chocolate on the way home. Eat the good shit from the crock pot and then tuck in for an afternoon nap. Lazy for the rest of the day. Read or watch movies. Hot tea. Or a good beer. Sunset stroll on the beach. Then fall asleep early while reading a good book.
I like the idea of being able to make a really delicious breakfast, early in the morning, while catching up on my favorite podcasts. I have plans with friends to go shopping or go to a museum and we stop at some cute little ice cream shop and talk for a long, long time. Then I go get my family's favorite take-out with a bottle of Barefoot pink moscato and a cheesecake. My mom and sister and I fall asleep on the couch in the middle of a "Say Yes to the Dress" marathon. I wake up and read in bed until 2 am and fall asleep with the book in my face. Wake up naturally around 8. Head to a bakery and buy myself a nice pastry. Then wander around the little shops for a bit before slipping into a small bookstore. Browse for probably way too long, as I have no sense of time when I go into bookstores. Well, sleep in. And wake and bake for sure. Then I would indulge in breakfast at my favorite diner with my SO. Then we would take a walk by the lakefront, maybe stop for a honey latte. Then, we would go to the motherfucking antique shop, or to a cutesy hipster "shop local" place, or even our Public Market. Then we'd get diner as a gastropub or cantina, and end the night with cocktails at a beer hall type place, or a beer garden. That would be my absolute perfect day!
I sleep in a little, have sex with my SO. Then we get up, shower and go out to our favorite breakfast joint. Then we head to the farmers market for some veggies, meat and other things for dinner. When we get home we take the dogs out to the park or for a long walk somewhere. If it's nice out, we go to the dog beach.

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By myself:
Long walk
Taking pictures
Beach
Nap

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With others:
Day drinking into night
Cookout
Doggos
Lots of hugs and laughter. Sleep in until noon and then go for a long walk with my dog.
Ok, this probably won't apply to you, but my days off changed after having kids. Now I have a 3 year old who doesn't give me (hardly) any time to myself. That's ok though because I love spending time with her. My days of sleeping in are long gone and I can barely finish a TV episode much less finish a video game. Today, I get my enjoyment from watching her smile as she holds on to a swing. Or, listen to her laugh as I make funny faces while singing her a kids song. Or, watch her stare intently at a book that I'm reading. Or, see her run through a park without a care in the world. She makes living life more enriching than I could have possibly imagined. I look forward to every day off more than I ever had before kids. I'd like to say travelling or something interesting, but honestly, sitting on the couch and watching movies / playing video games and making Mac & Cheese for lunch really recharges my batteries. Especially if it's a rainy day. Clothes. Random junk. I guess the weirdest thing I buy is a stuffed animal every now and then. But I spend on clothes mostly. I'm basically a thrifting Goddess. I find tons of brand name or high end things that I get tons of compliments on. I rarely pay over $20 for anything, yet I have a lot of nice things. And to prevent myself from getting into a hoarding type of situation I often give clothes I don't wear away on Craigslist. I've given away over 10 trash bags full this year of really nice clothes to people in need. So it's a win for everyone.
Might sound boring but I like to start by driving my wife to work and my son to daycare. Come home and take the dog for a long walk. Then spend a few hours getting the house in order. After that I might play some games for a while or watch a movie. The head out to pick up the family in the afternoon. Perfect.
Anything to get my mind off the truth that life will inevitably end and the soul crushing realization that I have no significant other to share what fleeting moments we both have, so I learn and keep my brain going at a hundred percent.
Taking a break from working but eh I'll still participate. Ideally, I would be up, ready, and wearing my favorite makeup depending on my mood by 8 or 9. I'd call up a friend or have my boyfriend go with me to my favorite coffee shop. I always get the usual; a black & white with ice + lemon poppyseed cake. Chat for a couple of hours on the patio. Finish up and walk around downtown. Window shop. I live downtown, so we'd just end up walking back to my place. We'd play video games for a little while. Cook up lunch. Relax until late evening and then get dressed up to hit the bars. The bar would have good music and I get the perfect buzz goin' on. Eat a light dinner, Uber each other home, and pass out.

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I grew up with a mix bag of music but a lot of it was what might be considered classics like the los lonely boys and the fugees to name a few pretty old school but I’m glad my mom and dad introduced me to them because it helped me have a wider scope when it comes to music. My parents listened to stuff like Bob dylan, cat Stevens, Tracey Chapman. When I was about 13 I got into heavy metal, and then at about 15 when I started smoking a lot of weed I got into more chill stuff. Progressive house, dnb and rap. When the former genres faded away and I kinda settled into my taste, I pretty much exclusively listened to rap after that. I'm a bit of what they call an old head (I think). My early years with rap we listened to a lot of wu tang, 2pac, biggie and big l. Most of the artists I listen to these days are basically underground. They have a good base but the scope has moved. Classical and jazz, especially 20th century classical after I randomly checked out the Piano Sonata No. 1 by Charles Ives performed by William Masselos. I can't say I loved it immediately, but after listening to it in a frame of mind to put aside all my prejudices and expectations of what classical music "should" sound like and listen instead for what Ives was doing, I went from hating the music to loving it so much that I listened to it through twice in one sitting. Then I checked out more Charles Ives and read books on 20th century classical using them as listening guides. That way, I ended up with a pretty comprehensive knowledge of modern classical music. The reason I was listening to classical and jazz is because that's what my parents had in their record collection and what was on the radio once you excluded all the stations playing 80s pop and country. There was one classic rock station I occasionally listened to, but even that didn't play very interesting old rock most of the time. They mostly played upbeat 60s pop rock like The Four Tops' "I Can't Help Myself" and The Foundations' "Build Me Up, Buttercup". Jimi Hendrix, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, Jefferson Airplane, The Byrds, The Rolling Stones, etc. were not played frequently and most of The Beatles songs they played were pop standards like "I Want to Hold Your Hand" instead of the more experimental stuff from The White Album, for example. Everything. I swear my dad has everything on his phone if it was popular between 1950 and 2019, it's there. He has everything from Frank Sinatra to one direction. He has several thousand songs and he always listens to a wife variety. Now I'm the same way. I tend to focus on 1960s rock and roll, but I love just about every genre. I can't think of a single one that I grew up with the most.
I have different genres from every part of my life that I still listen to. If I’m hooked on an artist, I always will be. Adele, Lady Gaga, and others from college. I still love punk/alternative - Fall Out Boy, Panic!, Green Day, My Chemical Romance - I listened to all that in high school and still do.

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I like whatever feeds my emotional needs. Usually reverb, strings and/or waltz are involved in some way.
All sorts!! It really depends on my frame of mind but usually something uplifting and upbeat!
I’m into all sorts but because anger plays a big role in my life I do love some hard thrashing metal to listen to soothe the anger because the music screams it out for you. Why do you think most metal heads are so chill but deep down know how to fuck shit up if need be. Lol
Music with a message of nearly any genre. I like songs/artists that have a purpose.
Mexican corridos. I get that for non Spanish speakers it sounds all happy-go-lucky and festive but if you listen to the lyrics, they get into some real gangsta shit. Rap and hip hop don’t even come close... in rap they just say things like “I’m going to shoot you”, Mexican corridos go into detail lol they say things like “ima chop off your head, put your body in an acid tub, and bury you in a hole” type of shit. But no seriously, Mexican corridos is like a mash up of rap and country and action movies. Most songs tell a story like country music, but they’re violent like rap (even more so), and it feels like you’re watching an action movie by how they describe the events.
Rock spanning from the mid 60s to the late 70s, or thereabouts; I'm very into the psychedelic and prog stuff. And then grunge of course, love that too. But I'll listen to most of rock's subgenres, really, it's just the ones I named are the ones I return to the most.
All sorts. I like classical and choral, rock, pop, metal, reggae, country (even the stuff with gratuitous yodelling), rap, R&B old and new, rock and roll, industrial, dance music, goth, punk, swing, jazz, big band, soca, indie, disco... the list goes on and on. I cannot get on with grindcore though, or Nu metal. It just pisses me off.
I listen to and play a LOT of trad music. Quebecois (French Canadian), Swedish, Cape Breton, New England, Old-Time, Irish, Scottish, English, etc. I also love listening to and learning old folk songs from all over the world (Appalachian, sacred harp, UK, Georgian, French, African, etc). It's what I grew up listening and dancing to and it's always been important to me! I like a lot of different things, though I don’t really like country music most of the time. I listen to some alternative, pop, indie, and rap mainly. A few older artists as well. I love Fall Out Boy, MGK, BVB, Three Days Grace, Queen, and Juice WRLD. I’m not sure how much I differ from most males in general but my male friends and I have quite a bit of overlap in our music.
My musical tastes are pretty eclectic and I listen to a variety of genres, but my preferences tend to lean toward rock/alternative for the most part. A large chunk of my playlists/personalized stations is emo music and I like quite a bit of k-pop as well.

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Held a balloon snake in each hand and not get bitten.
Leave my toxic family and move away. Saved a spider from the toilet with newspaper.
The problem of non-planning is, well, there's no plan. The cold chorified water burned my eyes, the weight of my body felt pulled down by Posiden himself, and my arms felt like twigs trying to paddle a raft. Had I of remembered that I couldn't swim, I probably would have panicked and drowned. However my body carried on. 5', 6', 8'... My body found a way, 10'. I reached my beloved little brother whom was already submerged, breadth held, and engaged in mortal combat with the water. I pulled him up and the first sound to pierce my ears was his starved gasp for air. We found the pool wall choking and crying, and alive.
I was walking home in San Diego one night at 2am. A man snuck up behind me and grabbed my arm, turning me to face him. He stuck a gun in my stomach and told me to give him all my money. I told him that I didn't have any money and he took a step backward. He then dropped the pistol down below my waist and shot between my feet. In that split second I realized that he must have only had blanks because the glass wall behind me didn't shatter. I lunged at him and shoved him, screaming at him to kill me. He turned and ran to a car that was waiting about a 1/2 block up the street, jumped in and they sped away.
Last year. Stood between a grown man in his 50s screaming at some kids (two siblings, 5 & 8 I’d estimate) on a bus that he would beat them. They were bratty to someone and he took it as an opportunity to be extremely racist in his yelling. The older one shouted back a bit and the man was acting like he was actually going to touch them so I got up and stood between, I was holding onto the bus supports so my arms were outstretched between, felt very dramatic. I thought he was going to hit me when I blocked them from his view, he continued to scream in my face until the driver stopped and forced him off. 21 and female I had a lot of adrenaline going through me in that moment.
Because I am away so often for work, I really do not know what she does with all that time as a homemaker. Perhaps she has a side piece too. She had been in emotional affairs with other guys before. At this point in my life, my priorities are to fix relationship with my primary family, and raise my younger kids in my second family. My mistress is very attentive and caring towards me and the children. My second family does not cause me much problems. This is something I am grateful for. I consider my mistress my second wife.
Wife and Daughter got pissed. Wife allowed me back after I was kicked out of the house for a month. Daughter remains mad at me and keeping communication at a minimum. Son has always been my supporter and thinks lowly of his mother, especially after he found out about my wife's emotional affairs before I even met my mistress.

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One weekend my group of friends had gotten into a fight with some kids from the rival highschool and took care of them pretty good. So as expected the kids wanted to get payback so everyone gathered their troops and we all met at a grocery store parking lot. There were about 30 guys on each side of the parking lot waiting for a spark to set off a brawl. Shane, the biggest guy from their school, came strutting over to our group talking shit hoping to start it up. Well he ended up sucker punching my friend in the middle of the group and ended up getting jumped. This is when all hell breaks loose. The rival kids started throwing rocks and bottles and charging my group of friends. Everyone on my side started jumping in their cars and driving away. As I am getting in my buddy's SUV I look back and see 3 of my best friends standing their facing the mob of 20-30 people running at them. I told everyone to get out of the car and help, but the driver said leave them. So I jumped out and they peeled off. I will never forget the moment when I walked up and looked at my friends that stayed, we all had a slight grin on our faces even though we knew we were in for a beating. Pulling a full 360 in my life and deciding to work my ass off and go to America for university. It's an achievement because during my a levels (I'm from uk) I suffered from depression/anxiety and ended up missing half of my last year. I basically gave up after that, but recently decided fuck it I've been scared of taking opportunities all my life I'm going to take this one by the horns.
1) Back in 2013, after I just got into 8th grade, during summer vacations, me and my mom used to go to Abhishek dada's home who is my dad's friend's son. But back then I used to often try to intimidate Abhishek dada and even punch him at times too and even make funny faces at him. It was too brave of me because I was only 12 and still brave enough to challenge him even though he was literally 19-20 yr old.
2) Back in 2016, when I was in 11th grade, I used to go to a coaching center during weekends and there one Saturday evening after classes got over, I saw a really tall guy there who was my senior in 12th grade and he was literally 6'1-6'2 for sure and I was 5'7-5'8 and I tried to compare my height with him and even intimidate him for fun showing my fist and walking fast towards him. Surprisingly he was literally trying to avoid me and hiding behind 2 of his friends. It was like a comedy for his friends. Maybe he wasn't in mood for such silly things but it was still brave of me to try to challenge not only a senior but also a guy bigger in size than me.
3) Again in end of 2016, when I was in 11th grade, some 2 college guys who were at least 3 years senior to me came to our school probably to remember the memories. They were in the basketball court and I was as usual making funny faces at them and almost trying to challenge them by showing my fist.

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She was extremely overweight, loud, and managed to make every student she ever taught feel terrible whenever they didn't do their work or failed a test. But she was also the best teacher I've ever had. Why? Because she did something that was very important at the time. She made me want to be a great student.
After chewing me out over a forgotten piece of homework, she said that I would never be a good student if I kept slacking off. So I worked my ass off to prove her wrong. It's thanks to her cruel teaching style that I was the top student of the class in both years she had me. I've never been top student in any other class ever, except her classes. This guy who was an aid for handicapped kids in my middle school. I wasn't handicapped, but he was the assistant basketball and baseball coach, so I grew pretty close to him. I was the captain of baseball in 7th grade and 8th grade, and basketball in 8th grade. This guy was about 70 years old and was genuinely interested in helping others. He had to sit in on my 8th grade science class for a kid named Alex, but he worked with me when I asked him for help.
My Ap economics teacher senior year of high school. I was going through a hard time and he didn't seem to have any sympathy; made fun of me for sleeping in class. I was also on work study and had a job as a waitress. Toward the end of the year, he was talking to me about my plans and started going on about how waitressing might seem fine for now, but the earnings potential will guarantee me a terrible life. I interrupted him to tell him I was accepted to a university and that was my plan. He didn't believe me. I still think about what a total classist dick he was. Later, I taught high school myself, so now I know for a fact that he was a terrible teacher and in my opinion an awful person.
One of my junior high math teachers. We were learning pre-algebra (or possibly algebra, I don't remember what grade I was in) and some of those concepts can be a bit confusing. All I knew was that somehow she made it understandable for me. There was one day when she got done explaining something and asked if we had any questions, and I raised my hand and said, "Can you explain it...like..." and I kind of faded out because I didn't know how I wanted her to explain it, I just knew that sometimes she explained things in a way that I understood. In a split second, at my pause, she cut me off, jumped up, and said, "Sure, ok. Let's say for instance..." And she went on to explain it in a way that totally made sense to me. What I didn't understand at the time is that she was taking an algebra concept and putting it into a real world application, and that's how she had been teaching the whole year, which is why I always understood what she was explaining and why I found her class pretty easy. I still remember that day, being amazed that she knew what I was trying to ask her to do without me even having to explain it.

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This is kind of a two-for teacher story..Mr Taber. It was halloween and I decided to dress up like this one teacher. He was an old balding fat guy that used to wear a giant handgun shaped belt buckle with his first name embroidered on the back as "Tony" (it wasn't his name), and he used to wear these gigantic glasses and had a horrible mustache. Well I had the costume almost perfect and was feeling great about it until school started. I was in the bathroom fixing my hair (balding wig/skull cap) when in walks Mr. Taber. He looks me up and down, doesn't say a word and takes a piss in the urinal. As he is pissing he just says in his really weird hillbilly voice "Who you supposed to be?" Thinking quick on my feet I mutter "Burt Reynolds"...it was way uncomfortable and I really regret thinking the costume was a good idea.
During college, I was part of the school's jazz big band. There was another bass player, so we both learned about half of the set list. We got invited to play in Washington DC for the Christmas tree lighting ceremony at the white house. One day, the other bass player splits, so I have to learn a bunch of new material. I did not do that, though. I showed up to a few rehearsals winging it. The leader (who was also a teacher) stopped us in the middle of a song and in front of the entire group called me out. "MrDominoe, listen, you've been making the same mistakes every night. I can call someone and have this covered tomorrow if you can't do it, so I need to know right now that you can do it. Right now, I'm not sure." You bet your ass I went home that night and practiced harder than I've ever practiced before.
I didn't have him as a teacher personally but the Irish/Gaelige teacher in my high school was the life and soul of the party. He also looked like a ginger Louis Walsh and he was always first to take part in any fundraising or charity gigs. One year for St. Patrick's Day, he came to school dressed in an inflatable leprauchaun outfit and taught all his classes in it without a second thought. He also loved to sing kareoke and at the annual school talent show, he'd often join in with the younger girls singing Beatles and Elvis tracks, complete with dance moves. He was mad but everyone loved him. Ahh, Mr. Kindlin, ye mad bastard!
He was scary and loud, but awesome and inspiring at the same time. Everyone loved band because of him, and we wanted to to our best while in marching because he inspired us to actually give a damn. He left at the end of my Junior year to works towards becoming a principal. The last song he conducted was Stars and Stripes. Almost the entire band broke into tears after we finished. Some started crying during the song.
My English teacher in sophomore year of high school. She had me and my brothers in all her classes at one point and gave so many good advice whenever I went to her class during lunch to talk with some friends and her.

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I'm 28. I hang out with friends between 1 - 3 times a week. Depending on how busy I am and how social I'm feeling. Usually on weekends. We drink. With different friend groups I'll do different things. Some friends I go to pubs with. Some have house parties. Some I'll play video games with. Some I'll go camping with. Some I'll fix or build things with. But the common element is usually alchohol. Not always in vast amounts, but it's usually present somewhat.
At least 4 days a week. We'll usually spend a couple days going to the bar after work, but other than that we usually hang out and one of our houses and take turns with who cooks dinner, then we'll just drink and watch a movie/show or BS. I have a very small circle of friends(5) but things couldn't be better. We're all mid 20s, if you were curious.
Depends on the friend, usually I'll see about 1-3 friends every week. Sometimes we're all together, sometimes it's just me and one other person. We usually sit around and watch TV/movies, play video games, hang around a campfire and chat, go shopping. We all make it a point to see each other often even if we're just sitting around doing nothing. I hang out with friends almost every day. I'm 25. We all just like to hang out at someone's house drinkin beers and joking, or throwing house parties, cooking dinner, going to the movies together, beach days. We all just like to be together. Last weekend a bunch of us went to a camp out desert party and raged it. The weekend before a bunch of us flew to Denver for a concert at red rocks and some silly Denver adventures. I love my friend family so much they are the best. Next week a bunch of us are going to Bonnaroo!

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Not depressed anymore but used to be (manic depression). For me it was more or less random. The smallest thing could make me happy (such as a good cup of coffee or someone being nice/supportive to me) and if I was lucky it lasted for 1 or 2 days. However it also worked the other way around and usually the depressive episodes lasted longer.
I can be not happy, but content for days/weeks at a time, but I'm not truly happy very often. Sometimes, something like a book or a show will really pique my interest and I'm happy about finding a new thing to discuss and take my mind off things, but it dies out. My wife is also very helpful during these times and even a gesture, like a hand on my back, can make me feel loads better.
I've struggled with Bipolar disorder and PTSD for... A while now. I've been on medication for a few months which has helped but I still get bouts of depression and anxiety. Before the medication, I was depressed a lot of the time, maybe 70% of the time, had numerous break downs and panic attacks. I found happiness in meaningful activities and connections. Investing in my personal interests and making some several goals for myself. Arts fartsy stuff, reading, hiking and being with nature when I had the energy, the deep connections I share with my few close friends (I seem to have a small range of topics I obsess over and having some friends I share that with brings me lots of joy). Also rewarding experiences when I push myself outside of my comfort zone (going dancing, connecting with strangers or coworkers). But knowing my boundaries is important - if I'm really not feeling like pushing it, then it'd be a bad night and waste of time. Baby steps in a way. At work, I took on responsibilities and tasks that meant something to me. I got too invested at the time but that's another issue altogether.
I don’t really get happy anymore I just act happy and adjust the appearance of my mood based on who is around me, I do to good of a job of it too though as I often hear people telling there happy to see me this happy or that you smile/ happiness spreads onto everyone but every time I hear that it just makes it worse as it makes everyone happier but me and that brings me down even more but I keep that under the act honestly.
Living day by day, planning for near-future events and enjoying the little things as they come. When I find myself spiraling now I resort to my lessons in self therapy and try to be my own friend.

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Lonesome Dove in Fort Worth, TX. My FIL goes there so often that he has his own personal book that he keeps there. Every visit he’ll ask for a new bottle of wine, and the restaurant will take the label off the bottle and laminate it into a new page in the book. He’ll then right the date and a little note, and if he’s dining with someone else he’ll ask them to write something too.
That burger guy who looks like the lead singer in smash mouth - guy feiri or whatever - I was on a carnival cruise and he had his own burger place on the ship. The burgers were free, and all you can eat. I ate 16 of them over the course of a week. Best burgers I’ve ever had in my life. Totally worth the 9lbs I gained. There was a bar around the corner from our place. The bar had a steak night and it was awesome, but the burgers were something I’ve still been unable to replicate at home or find in another restaurant, every time friends were in town we’d take them to this little dive bar and they were like “I thought we were getting dinner?” Then they’d try the food and be amazed. Then after I moved to a different neighborhood the chef changed and the food was never the same. Chef Bob where did you go?!
Donovan’s in LaJolla, California. I’ve lived and traveled around the world, and have had some fantastic meals. But this place never fails in impeccable service and incredible food. Not to mention the views. I only go there once a year, visiting family, but when I make my reservation, they have never failed to give us the best table.
There's a really nice carribean restaurant, that flies a bit under the radar. There aren't many of those restaurants around here. Beside tasty carribean dishes, that guy makes kick-ass steaks and burgers with a twist and is generally chill AF. Odette in Florence, Alabama. Locally sourced ingredients and a regularly-changing menu of great stuff. Great catfish, great steak frites... but I can't stop myself from ordering their house-ground cheeseburger. I've always been on the hunt for the best cheeseburger ever; I stopped looking after I had the one at Odette.
I was in Nashville a few months back. I'm usually fairly critical when I go out to eat because I work in the restaurant industry and have most of my life. I got to say, every restaurant I went to in that town was amazing and I didn't have a bad meal anywhere I went. I don't think I've ever been able to say that about any town I've been to.

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I'd say: be open minded Honesty is important, a big lie can kill a friendship. But I've had friendships just....fade away because one or both of us just keep doing exactly the same things. Like only playing video games together, it's fine for a while, but when years pass and you realize that's all you do together, you just get bored and gradually lose touch
Similar sense of humor, I like people who I can say stuff to, and wont get offended because they know it's a joke. Obviously I don't just say 'fuck off' to people on the street, but you get what I mean, probably.
Showing up for plans you've made with them and things that are important to you, even if it's not the "most fun" thing they could be doing at the moment. Not a huge fan of plays? Doesn't matter, my friend invited me and it's important to them that I be there to support them. Low-key plans with a friend but I hear about a fun party at the last minute? Sorry party people, friends don't flake out on each other. On the flip side of that, being understanding and making your friend's life easier. If my friend makes plans with me but later finds out their favorite author is going to be in town for a book signing or something, I'm going to be the one who proposes that we reschedule so they can go to this cool thing and not feel like a jerk for ditching me. If my friend is super busy with work or rehearsals, I know there might be situations where I don't see them for a month at a time, and I'm cool with it because I know they genuinely would like to hang out with me if they weren't so swamped.
This is how my roommate and I are, I met him in the lounge in college where he was bashing a friend's Mac and I was laughing, started talking to him. We either see eye to eye on everything, or just have fun berating the other person's clearly wrong opinion on what's better.
Sex and loyalty. In a marriage, citizenship, sex and loyalty.

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I really admire you taking time out for other people, to put someone else that you hardly know before yourself. That's really admirable of you and God sees that and he recognises your heart and he will honour that. I agree with what has already been said though in the sense that helping them to the point of your own detriment (especially if they are not even interested and you feel like they are taking advantage of your kindness) bordering along the lines of it being unnecessary for you to be putting in the effort of a responsibility that is required of the teacher. Maybe the next time they show a disinterest or you feel taken advantage of maybe have a straight talk with them. Say what you have put on your post, that you are potentially putting your own grades in jeopardy for this person and it feels like they don't care and that something in them needs to change or you are going to have to end your sessions with them and focus on your own study. Some may say that you are giving up on them but I wouldn't see it like that. I would see it as you exercising wisdom - you tried to help, if they fail that isn't your fault. They need to put the effort in. Hope this comes across in the right way. I really admire you for doing something so kind for someone. It really shows your heart.
I am feeling really conflicted. I have a classmate who struggles academically whilst I do well and get good grades. Part of the reason they struggle is due to a language barrier. At the start of the academic year, I was happy to help tutor them and explain concepts they did not understand and explain things more slowly than is taught by our professors. I was grateful for an opportunity to be selfless and to help another person. However, over time the amount of help needed has increased a lot and it is getting to the point where I feel completely overwhelmed with it. I thought the classmate was my friend but really I think they are just using me. The help has become expected with no gratitude shown. It really has been getting me down. I explain simple concepts over and over again in different ways and they just do not understand. I spend hours helping them, often to my own detriment and postponing things I need to be doing. They do not have a passion for the subject either so it is just so unrewarding for me. But I know if I stopped studying with them they would almost definitely fail. This all just feels to me wrong in some way. But the Bible said about our enemies that we should offer them the other cheek, let alone someone who is pretty harmless but just demanding of our time and mental energy. I really need a Christian perspective of this please. I feel so drained from it.

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My favorite place is my own mind. Whenever I want to be somewhere new, where the struggles of life aren't dragging me down. I can imagine laying in a field with rolling hills, looking up at the constellations while stars shoot across the sky, or imagine overlooking the cliffs and hills of scotland where a fog sits in each of the valleys, I can imagine just floating in the emptiness of space with distant suns and stars my only company.
It's a normal park in my hometown. It's normal here to go out in this park and meet friends or party a little bit. It's a small park and I've got so much memories that happened in this place so it's my favourite. I love my balcony. It is a place for me to enjoy the outside, and remain safe from skunks and rain. It is only 16'x10', wooden planks and railings painted white, but feels both open and cozy at the same time. I have spent countless hours reading, making music, redditing, and staring off here.
I love the variety of stuff from geysers, mud pots, to beautiful colorful "Lakes" that stink to high heaven. I also saw all kinds of wild animals. I stayed at the Old Faithful Inn and spent around 4 hours at night drinking beer and watching Old Faithful blast over and over. I was the only one out there. I couldn't get enough. The first national park I ever went to was Yellowstone. In hindsight, this was a mistake. My advice to to see the other national parks first because once you go to Yellowstone, you will be spoiled and nothing else will favorably compare.
Probably the roads close to the port to Islay in Scotland, through the mountains, absolutely beautiful. I think just staying at Islay was awesome to me, kind of wish I was more versed with Scotch back then but that’s what got me interested in working with drinks afterwards.

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More recently than that....I was at the Franklin Institute with the family and they had a chunk of meteor that they did was older than the solar system. My kids couldn't figure out why I was so mesmerized by this chunk of rock. I was able to reach out and put my hand on something that was older than the earth upon which I stood and every conceivable thing around me.
Japan, as a whole, is my favorite place I've ever visited, but to narrow down my answer a bit, I'd say Tokyo is the coolest. The city itself is massive and has so much to offer in terms of attractions, entertainment, shopping and food. Around every corner there's something fascinating to experience. I've heard plenty of people say it's over-hyped, but it seriously has it all if you're into Japanese culture.
For my 19th birthday, my sister took me on a trip to Salem, Mass. Salem on Halloween night is one of the coolest parties I've ever attended. So many wonderful costumes, street food, and people watching. And, that was only part of the trip! We, also, went and visited some cemeteries, took a bus tour of Boston, threw up on a Whale Watch, went to Cranberry World... Oh, we even drove to NY to visit my friend at college. We had so much fun!
Birmingham Alabama is actually pretty cool. They have this huge outdoor bar, can't remember the name, where they have live music and sell their microbrews. Also you can get a big plate of crawfish pretty cheap and right next door are a great pizza place and a place that makes sushi burritos. Bruh, sushi burritos are a game changer. Everyone comes out and drinks and brings the kids/dogs, super friendly environment too. And close by is a bar that makes some great Moscow mules. I visited the site of the St Francis Dam a couple years ago. It was during a late night hike some people organized on the anniversary of it breaking. Really cool experience, sat on some of the rubble and listened to stories about some of the people who survived, some of the people that died. Wrote our names in a book to show we had made the hike, then walked back down. Simple, but a really cool thing I wabt to do again someday.
Ha Long Bay in northern Vietnam. It's a bay with around 2000 tiny islands (said to have inspired James Cameron's floating mountains in Avatar.) I spent 3 days on a junk boat in the bay. Our first day was blanketed in this dense, eerie fog. Each island felt like a monster emerging from the mist. The next morning, the fog cleared and I saw the most incredible sunrise I've ever experienced. There are "floating villages" sprinkled throughout, where people live on sprawling structures floating on oil drums, and one of the islands holds one of the largest natural caves in the world.

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I was in the military for 20 years and traveled all over the place. I have not been everywhere but I have almost seen enough. So far my favorite place in the entire world is my home being with my loving family, wherever that may be. Alaska was awesome and I want to live there for the rest of my life...but I'm stuck in Texas.
Most people in NZ who dislike auckland are southerners, and they have zero reason to dislike us, most of them have never even been here. For a city, it is one of the nicest in the world and i have been to many cities abroad. We have lakes, LOTS of water, beaches, a nice harbour, volcanoes etc etc.
As far as cities go, at the end of the day it is a city and cities are all machines. But the term JAFFA (just another friendly fucking aucklander) is generally from southerners who have no understanding of auckland, think we all live in a concrete jungle and have never seen the countryside (which...auckland is surrounded by, my house has a view of bush and i wake up to the sound of birds, to be fair im 25 minutes out with no traffic in east auckland which is a nice part) Auckland as a city compared to other cities is amazing, but living here is a different story - traffic is a cunt. But yeah, if anyone from outside of auckland talks badly of auckland or aucklanders, they have a chip on their shoulder for no reason, aucklanders dont dislike anyone, but for some reason the cantabrians have a problem with the major city they never see, and get most their tax money from.
Mykonos, Greece. My family and I rented a little Suzuki and drove all over the island. We shopped some and then by lunch we found an awesome beach that was essentially a large alcove that was protected from the waves and at the entrance of a tourist boat cave. We rented some kayaks and spent the rest of the day doing nothing.
The Star Mountains of Papua New Guinea. It is a remote forested island with birds so beautiful, your heart stops. The Star Mountains are a section of the country that has to this day been little explored. The country itself has over 680 linguistically original languages, and many being tribal haven't evolved into writing. Many of these tribes live contactless in the forest, some of which are cannibalistic.
Tolo, Greece. It's both quiet and full of life at the same time. The beach offers great food and the shopping streets are lit with clothes, desserts and entertainment. If you walk away from those streets you will get a quiet and peaceful sleep. I can't wait for covid to go away so i can travel there again
The town itself really isn't anything special, but the harbours and the shipwrecks and the light houses and the islands more than make up for it. It's right on the tip of the Bruce Peninsula, and is almost entirely surrounded by national parks with huge forests. The islands in the bay/lake are uninhabited and completely forested with a couple light houses from the past when the corridor was much busier and technology was much worse.

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Norway. Sognefjord, and all the little towns dotted along it in particular because it's SPECTACULAR. I went in winter during a particularly cold snap (-17c average while I was there) and the fjord was frozen, with the ferry breaking up the ice and we cruised along. It was cold like I've never experienced before (I'm Australian, living in Scotland) but I spent the entire time outside on the deck because I just couldn't get enough. Argh.
I studied abroad in Florence, Italy, during college, and after the program was over, I backpacked around Italy by myself. I knew I really wanted to visit Cinque Terre during my travels: the sea is my happy place and I love hiking, so it seemed like a no-brainer. But it was super crowded during that time of year, and since I wasn't planning more than a day or two in advance, most places were all booked up. I was, however, able to snag the last open bed in a hostel in the town just north of the northernmost of the five villages, called Levanto. It is a sleepy fishing town nestled around a bay filled with the clearest turquoise water. The town really had just the basics: one market for groceries, a few restaurants and bars, one park, one beach, a train stop, and access to some hiking trails. But it was my favorite part of my trip. What a surprise. I can say that Japan, Taiwan, and the Philippines are 3 places I always want to go back to (and do). And it' all for different reasons, except that all 3 have great food (but different cuisines of course). They're places I want to take friends and my boyfriend and share experiences with them there. All 3 have beautiful nature. But in order of tourist friendliness, it goes Japan, Taiwan, Philippines. I went rafting & camping on the riverbanks of the Colorado River, down the Grand Canyon. Amazing, beautiful, indescribable, I didn't want to leave. I think I need to stop visiting the same 3 countries, however, and explore more of Europe. I like the nature and old stuff in China, but not fond of the cities. Germany/Belgium/Netherlands, I loved the beer (did NOT go during octoberfest so I don't know what the binge times are like) and the food (ice cream! coffee!). Architecture in Amsterdam was beautiful but I wasn't fond of my fellow American tourists. They acted like college freshmen who are finally enjoying 'freedom' and overcompensating. Western Sichuan, China. Such deep and interesting culture, and totally unlike any other place I have been to in China. Beautiful landscape, clean air (hard to find in China), very friendly people, and few tourists. For anyone wanting to visit Tibet, I'd look into going to West Sichuan instead, they're very similar in culture and ethnicity, but West Sichuan is easier to get into (no special additional visa needed) and more freedom to explore without a guide.

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Last summer, I went to China for two weeks. We visited Beijing, Xi'an, Shanghai, and Guilin. By far the coolest thing I ever did! The culture is amazing. I went with a school group, and because our group was so large we had a lot of say in where we went and what we did, whereas most tour groups follow a set agenda. We visited a high school and a university, volunteered at an orphanage, visited an authentic, non tourist market, rode bikes through the hills of Guilin, and then we visited a farm, checked out the farmers house, and then helped them toil in the fields. I've been invited back this summer to a small village outside of Shanghai that's never had a foreigner visit, to teach English in the local school. I can't wait!
Phi Phi Le which is just off the Phuket coast in Thailand. Also known as the island they filmed The Beach on. Hired a private speedboat driven by some insane thai teenagers and got there at 7am before the tour boats. Had the whole place to ourselves and as we got off the boat, the sky flashed with lightening and we got soaked in a tropical thunderstorm. Just floating in the warm turquoise sea watching the sun come up as the lightning forked over our heads and feeling the heavy rain massage my head and shoulders was magical. I was once afforded a week in Burma. It was controversial, because we were on a study abroad trip with 500 wealthy american students traveling through a heavily UN sanctioned failed state. Basically, Burma has been controlled by a militaristic junta for 40+ years, and a tourism ban had just been lifted when we traveled there. The monetary system is very important in Burma, supporting a majority of the country's young people. Children can voluntarily go there to study, I'm not sure on the status of the public school system but I doubt there is a state run system (maybe just a few private colleges). Basically though, the people in Burma support the monasteries by donating food and other goods every single day. The people you would meet there though guys, it is mind blowing, I was met by few people who weren't glad to see foreigners. If you've never wondered about the meaning of the word 'contentment', some time in a country like Burma would quickly show you how privileged you truly are.
The east coast of South Florida. From Lauderdale to Key West is just perfect. Yeah it’s crowded and traffic is a nightmare but between the huge yachts in Fort Lauderdale, how lively Miami is and how laid back the Keys are it’s the coolest place. It’s warm, the palm trees are so nice, the water is beautiful and the fishing can’t be beat. The best thing is getting on the plane in New Jersey with snow on the ground and then walking out of the airport in Florida to the heat, sun and blue skies. My dream is to have a house or condo there so I can spend time away from these horrible coastal New Jersey winters.

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Est-ce que tu t'es fait plaisir? T'as pris ton pieds? Si oui, c'est l'essentiel. Quand on laissait traîner des bols dans l'évier, ça rendait ma mère folle ! Du coup, dès que je me suis installé avec ma copine, j'ai pris un plaisir fou à accumuler la vaisselle sale pendant des jours. Ça a fini par créer des tensions dans mon couple. Nous n'habitons pas encore ensemble, mais ses blocages sur le ménage ne me donnent vraiment pas envie de franchir le pas. Je ne suis pas maniaque, je suis même assez bordélique. Mais ma tolérance a des limites. Chez Sacha, il y a toujours des boîtes de pizzas et des barquettes de kebab éventrées sur la table basse. Bonjour les fourmis et les mouches l'été ! Dans sa salle de bain, c'est la totale : poils de barbe dans le lavabo, cheveux dans la baignoire et éclats de dentifrice séchés sur les murs. Miam ! Quand j'avais 15 ans, je suis sorti avec une nana vraiment dégueulasse ! Elle ne se brossait jamais les dents le soir, parce qu'elle avait la flemme. Et uniquement de temps en temps le matin. En plus, elle fumait comme un pompier. L'embrasser était parfois un supplice ! Elle se douchait à peu près tous les jours, ou tous les deux jours, mais elle ne se lavait pas souvent les cheveux et ils sentaient très fort le tabac et le vieux grenier humide. En plus, elle ne changeait pas beaucoup de vêtements, elle portait presque toujours un gros pull camionneur qui schlinguait le moisi et la transpi ! Bref, elle avait beau être l'une des plus jolies filles du bahut et avoir plein de qualités, je l'ai quittée. Franchement, je dois changer mes draps une fois par trimestre maxi. Et pourtant, je passe ma vie dans mon lit ! J'y mange, j'y passe des heures à regarder des films et des séries ou à parler au téléphone. De temps en temps, j'y reçois aussi des amoureux. Ou juste des potes qui ont loupé le dernier métro et qui s'écroulent tout habillés sous ma couette en fin de soirée. Je suis sans cesse obligé de passer derrière elle pour lui montrer ou il faut ranger les choses, passer un coup d'éponge là ou elle a fait à manger (quand elle fait à manger), lui expliquer que la vaisselle se fait à l'eau chaude, de jeter les pubs qu'elle a lu sur le canapé plutôt que de se coucher dessus après coup, de jeter ces mouchoirs en papiers quelles disperse partout etc etc etc etc... mais rien n'y fait, lorsque je lui "rentre dedans" une bonne fois, elle le prend très très mal, elle se vexe et ne pouvant rien dire pour sa défense car elle sais qu'elle est en tord (et elle le sait), elle se met à tous ranger d'un coup et puis.....plus rien pendant des semaines! Je ne supporte plus cette situation qui pèse sur notre couple, elle y met toute la mauvaise volonté du monde et est prête à mentir pour me prouver qu'elle a fait quelque chose à la maison alors que une fois ces dires vérifié, RIEN n'a été fait comme elle me l'a annoncé!
La seul chose qu'elle fait est remplir la machine à laver et étendre le linge car "je le fait mal"...

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Je ne me sens pas concerné. Je ne suis pas visé par cette question étant donné que je n'ai jamais touché à une seule cigarette de toute ma vie. Parce que j'ai été assez stupide dans ma jeunesse pour essayer et que je suis gravement accro'. En outre, une part de moi n'a pas envie de vivre vieux. Dépression, quand tu nous tiens…
Pour faire parler les non-fumeurs. Je les aide à occuper leur journées en nous critiquant. Ils auront un cancer mais pas Alzeimer. Ils ne peuvent pas avoir que les bons côtés de la vie. Parce que tout simplement souvent je le prends comme un passe temps, des fois l'excès de joie ou de tristesse.
Est-ce que j'ai essayé ? Oui oui au mariage d'une tante quand j'avais moins de 10 ans, j'ai demandé à une autre tante présente si c'était bon de fumer et elle m'a allumé et tendu une clope et l'horreur, ça m'a vacciné à vie. J'ai arrêté 3ans et dernièrement après une période très dure. J'ai repris la nicotine mais avec une vapoteuse. La cigarette, c'est arrêté pour de bon. Je pense également de nouveau arrêter la vapoteuse en temps voulu. Même si cela semble moins mauvais, c'est toujours une dépendance. Si j'ai réussi à me passer pendant 3ans de nicotine, je pense que c'est possible de m'en passer pour de bon.
J'ai arrêté net. C'est la meilleure méthode. On en bave un peu. Il faut prévenir l'entourage qu'on sera imbuvable pendant un certain temps. L'addiction physique passe assez vite, c'est le psychologique qui résiste. Il faut arriver à se passer du geste. 3 décès du cancer du poumon dans ma famille, dont un très âgé et 1 en traitement actuellement. Même si on atteint un âge respectable, ce n'est pas une façon de mourir paisible, c'est long et douloureux. Je n’ai jamais été un gros fumeur mais j’ai complètement arrêté à mon premier incident coronarien ; j’avais 61 ans et j’en ai 90 actuellement; pour les coronaires une seule cigarette peut entraîner un spasme; par contre pour le cancer et la bpco , c’est l’accumulation qui joue et on pourrait prétendre que fumer 2 à 3 cigarettes par jour entraîne peu de risque. Je ne m’y fierai pas. Arrêtez complètement et le plus tôt possible.
Non, je ne fume pas et n'ai jamais fumé de ma vie.
Nous sommes une famille non fumeur, mes enfants non plus ne fument pas. Parce que j'éprouve un malin plaisir à cracher la fumée de ma cigarette au visage des mecs.
C'est drôle je crois que je fais partie de ces gens jamais devenus accros. J'ai fumé en soirée étant ado. Je fume maintenant des fois à la pause ou en soirée. Je fume des fois de la weed CBD. Je sais que c'est mauvais mais je limite pas mal. Les grosses semaines 1 par jour mais la plupart du temps bien bien moins. Je pars pour 2 semaines en famille où je compte pas allumer un seul truc.

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Your name, it’s an anime movie, it has stunning visuals and doesn’t follow your typical romantic plot. I don’t even like romances but I can appreciate this film a lot, also the OST is beautiful, about half way through it can get a bit convoluted, but it does explain it self so don’t worry. I would suggest not writing it off because it’s anime, for me it’s better cause it doesn’t follow all the stupid romantic movie tropes. I'd say Annie Hall, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, and The Graduate. I think they represent all aspects of romance, from infatuation/obsession to actual love to breaking up and all the pain and complication that comes with all of it. They're the most realistic portrayals of "romance" that I've seen.
I also liked Letters to Juliet. This was another dumb-ish rom-com that just knew what kind of movie it was and excelled at it. You want beautiful people? Got it. Gorgeous travel photography? Got it and good. A simple story that leaves you feeling a-okay about love and life? Right here. The romance going on between the older couple (whose real life story seems to be the basis for the movie) is actually much sweeter than the youngsters. Anyway, it's just a simple pleasure.
I don't actually find it romantic, for me it's more about using romantic relationships as a way to explore the character development of the leads. Recommending it because it's a really good movie either way and I didn't find Casablanca that romantic either so it might be a personal thing. I’ve always been drawn to movies where finding love is kind of hidden in a bunch of other shit. Buffalo ‘66 is my favorite movie of all time and somewhere in there, there is a beautiful love story. Also Moonlight and Django are not necessarily romance films, but the love story in those are beautiful as well. For me The Terminator is my fav film of all time. Even from over 30 years back, I recognized that it was a love story. I dont think people really classify the movie as a romance film because of the action. I think its quite a poetic love story that involves time travel and sacrifice. Highlander is my second fav. That too has a unique love story. Where you have a man who cannot age. A man that loves his wife so much that he stays with her till she dies of old age. I remember a health teacher in high school once told me, "if you look at that person you say you love, picture them as an old elderly face...do you still feel the same way about them? if yes, then you truly love that person. if not, then you only like whats on the outside." That really hit home for me when I went back and watched this movie time and time again.
I've never really been into Romance movies but after watching some great ones I've become a fan. Casablanca, Before Sunrise, and The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless mind were fantastic. The one that touched me the most was Before Sunrise/Before Sunset. I just finished Before Sunset and I got really emotional over it. It feels so real and genuine.

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You should build yourself up to such a strength that you could become a monster, but then use that strength benevolently.
Even when it comes to recreation, try and make the activities you do focus as much around self improvement and increase in skills and knowledge as you can.
Make sure your life is in absolute perfect idea before you try and change the world. Your life never will be perfect, so just keep focusing on ways to better yourself and then you can help people on the individual level, rather than getting bitter about how apparently better the would would be if the government subscribed to your politics.
Don’t see how long you spend doing something as proof that you’ve done something good, as something better than a smaller amount of time that was more productive.
And similarly to that, don’t trade time for money. Develop a high income skill, and monetise it to be as passive as possivble.
Don’t seek instant gratification, delay it and build up something more meaningful.
Having the self discipline and sacrifices needed to develop a slim, strong and healthy body is much more rewarding than that cake.
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Don’t take the ‘I’m on this group’s side and agree with everything they say and anything the other side size is wrong without needing to check because they are [buzzword]’ approach to politics
Assume everyone knows something you don’t and is valuable
Freedom of speech is so important that it should be viewed as a divine freedom
Aim to be a better version of yourself by the evening, than you were in the morning, rather than aiming to be as good as some person on the internet
Aim to serve people, the community, your family, and success and happiness will follow. Loving with all you've got is never wrong, but don't forget to love yourself too. Don't love someone too much to the point that it consumes yourself. You may reach a point where no one else is there but only you to carry and support yourself - and it's even harder when you don't care about yourself anymore. You don't have to like everyone and they do not have to like you. Stop trying to make everyone happy because it is nearly impossible. Focus on what you need to have a happy, healthy life. If that means keeping some people at arms length (including relatives) or just deal with them on the minimum professional level necessary, then so be it.
Your parents will never think badly for you. But, they aren't aware about the situations of your life. Plus, the times have changed. Take their opinions, but make your own decisions and own up to them.
Things happen, so it’s best to plan for a few thing that you can help your future self out. For example have an emergency fund, like for a new spare tire or something like that.
I can accomplish anything if I set my mind to it. But it will always cost me more than I anticipated and will almost never be worth the effort or the sacrifice. But I CAN accomplish anything I set my mind to.

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