I'm paying with my own money, and living under my own roof, so if I want to have fried fish (without tartar sauce) and chips WITHOUT any vegetables on the side, I will.
I was extremely sick as a kid and I had to be fed certain foods and certain amounts, even when I wasn’t hungry. It made me constantly feel more sick. Now it’s is really hard for me to eat and I have an eating disorder.
My sense of smell wins me over most times. If something doesn’t smell good enough, or straight up stinks, I will not try/eat it. Also, if the plate I am offered/served has an ingredient I know I don’t like, I won’t eat it neither.
I starved myself too. Food has been a struggle for as long as I can remember. I have no idea why. I'm still skinny and I still don't eat much on a daily basis. But force-feeding me has only made it worse. If my parents had tried another way maybe I would have been able to eat normally now that I'm adult.
I was too, but it was only because I had a habit of starving myself out of pickiness. I do wonder if that hasn't contributed to my eating problems as an adult.
At restaurants and stuff, it's not too bad. They usually have something I can find that's alright, or I just order it without/with a bunch of stuff (I always feel bad for the waiter/ress though because I'm so high maintenance). Same thing goes with the cafeteria food at uni. It was a little harder in high school, so if the entree was something I didn't like, I'd either not eat or just eat the sides. It's kind of hard at other people's houses. I'll usually just not take a lot of it and stomach what I have to to be polite.
I've been a picky eater for as long as I remember, but I'm not a dick about it. I'm not a vegetarian, and I don't have any dietary requirements... I'm just weird when it comes to food. I usually have a packed lunch instead of cafeteria food and when I stay at my friend's we usually get a takeaway or I just eat what they give me.I was a very picky eater in my younger years! Interestingly, I read that picky eaters consume a diet of mostly orange/yellow coloured foods. This proved accurate in my case so I began trying to create colourful meals.
So far every person I know that is picky about food was forced to eat things they didn't want as a child. Since my parents never forced anything on me I grew up liking most everything. When I was little I loved broccoli and brussels sprouts and just couldn't fathom that none of the other kids would touch them.

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I haven’t counted but it would probably be around 30 as well. My food issues were a primary driving factor that made me realize I could be autistic, and I discussed them with my psychologist. Having an explanation makes it much easier for people to understand and respect my food tolerances and intolerances. For years, I would start with “I’m a vegetarian” and then get offered a full plate of vegetables that I couldn’t eat, and it was always awkward. I’ve switched to “I’m autistic and struggle with eating a variety of food. I’d be happy to eat before the gathering / bring something for everyone to share.” Much better.
Today I wrote a list of all the foods I will eat because I’ve been told I’m a picky eater and I wanted to find out if I actually am. I included things I make myself eat to stay healthy (like vegetables.) I broke down full dishes into their ingredients, but I counted pre-made things like chips or peanut butter as 1. In total my list has 33 things on it. I’m curious to know if anyone else has done this and how many foods do you eat? There are 3.1 things I refuse to eat. Kale cause it's bitter, Celery cause it's like trying to eat hair, Figs cause of the wormy texture, and the brown part of a banana because it looks gross.
I’m extremely picky and therefore eat extremely unhealthy since vegetable, some fruits and other healthy food are a big no-no from me❌ I used to be a really picky eater - everything had to be plain (no sauce or spice) no foods touching etc. I think that was a learnt trait though because white my parents were eating other foods later in the evening after work, my brother and I were fed by the babysitter 5 nights a week who made us plain pasta with tuna on the side or potatoes and fish fingers - those kinda meals.

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I only have one food that's linked to a bad experience and that's yoghurt. Was made to eat it once by a teacher cause it was the only thing left in the canteen at lunchtime. Despite insisting I hated it, she forced me to - came home after school and puked up all night long. The thought of it and texture just make me want to puke to this day (this happened around 13 years or so ago). I'd say expose your child to as many flavours as you can and let them try your meals if you are eating something different. I gradually came around and now at 21 I'd say I like quite a wide variety of foods - mostly due to moving out and experimenting with what I want to cook. For me, I think it was lack of exposure to a variety of foods, and being forced to eat. My mom rotated the same 3 or 4 meals for dinner, and would always include something she knew I didn't like. To this day I despise sweet potatoes because she would force me to eat a pile of them at dinner. I didn't even have the option of going to bed hungry, which I think I gladly would have taken.

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I've noticed quite a few people around me with ADHD personality, are also picky eaters. I, for one, diagnosed and a very odd picky eater (people say it's odd). If you are what the foods that you cannot eat, and the reason for it? I have a few I cannot eat, I don't really have a reason for some except that I can't stand the taste or the smell or I don't know images I get when I eat them? lol.. Eg: I can't stand cucumbers, the whole melon family, I don't like them lol watermelon, cantaloupes etc,, I can smell/ taste the distinct melon taste in them, although sometimes I will eat watermelon (very few pieces) because it doesn't have such a strong melon taste. I love pickles though, they don't have the melon taste. So it kind of throws people off when I tell them that, they don't understand what I'm talking about.. wondering if it's an adhd thing being a picky eater. I have the same exact deal with melons. Can't stand any of them other than watermelons (which I am ok with sometimes and only if it has no black seeds and is super sweet). I don't like puréed food like applesauce. The mushy texture is a no-go for me. I hate 98% of seafood. I'll only choke down scallops (if they aren't too "fishy" tasting), shrimp (if I prepare them myself), and salmon (rarely). I like red meat, but I have to cut all the fat off. It the piece of meat is too fatty, I simply won't eat it. For veggies, I have to drown most of them in salt to make them edible and I really only like crunchy veggies. If you steam my carrots I will straight up murder you. I can't have most dairy products, but that's because my body can't process them properly. Lactose intolerance is a bitch when you're a picky eater. Even with this laundry list, I can usually find something to eat when I go to restaurants. Probably because I like meat and I can put aside my hatred for seafood in moments of desperation.
I can't stand mint. Even the smell of it. It just burns, but not in a hot way. I also can't have any condiments or seasonings, excluding salt, I just really dislike them. Fish are a no, as are some meats(pepperoni, sausage, hot dogs mostly). Most spicy foods are also off limits. Melons for me too, actually in almost exactly the way you said. There's some more stuff, but these are the odder ones. I also can't stand mixes of different fruits, even if I like them all a fruit salad or cocktail or w/e where the juices mix is disgusting to me.
I don't do green shit and I'll know if you slip a piece of lettuce in my bean and cheese burrito (I swear to god its essence seeps into the beans and I'll know a few bites before I hit it, and then that entire portion of the burrito has to be discarded). I also have a lot of problems with texture of produce. I think I outlasted my parents as a child due to oppositional defiant disorder and their fear of my dying from malnourishment.

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OOOHHHH que oui, l'amour se travail sans relâche, il ne faut pas rester sur des acquis. Il faut sans cesse étonner l'autre pour entretenir cet amour et ne pas le laisser tomber dans l'ennuie. Croire qu'une personnes nous appartient c'est faux ce n'est pas parce qu'il vous a dit je t'aime qu'il le dira pour toujours surtout si le chemin est parsemé d'embûches. L'amour est compliqué à trouver mais aussi à garder. La vision romantique de l'amour, seul et unique, fait plus de mal que de bien, surtout à notre époque, ou nous vivons plus vieux, ou nous avons plus d'occasions d'aimer, depuis l'adolescence jusqu'à un âge bien avancé. On rend l'amour solennel, on le place sur un piédestal La peur de l'échec joue beaucoup aussi. La confiance, mais aussi la fierté ressortent avec des bosses d'une demande déclinée, et, croyez-moi, même si c'est refusée poliment et avec la meilleure volonté du monde, ça fait quand même mal. Les sentiments sont parfois si forts qu'on s'y accroche, et qu'on tombe avec. L'amour prend une vision unique, à la fragile et forte, mais on oublie aussi, dans le même temps, que ça reviendra, à un moment ou à un autre.

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D'un autre côté, beaucoup de gens que j'ai connu voyaient dans l'amour une sorte de religion, de divinité, qui arrangerait tous leurs problèmes, mettraient fin aux conflits ou les porterait loin du danger. C'est faux, ça peut même être pire, car un amour inconditionnel peut aveugler la personne qui s'y livre. Je pense plutôt que l'amour est comme une sorte de main tendue à l'occasion, qui peut vous aider à aller mieux, à faire de grandes choses. Cependant, l'amour ne fera rien pour vous directement. L'amour vous donnera l'entrain, une atmosphère, un début de soutien, mais ne vous sortira pas du monde ou de vos obligations. Le manque de communication et de clarté dans la relation peut compliquer les choses. Si l'un et l'autre ne savez pas ce que vous voulez, la relation ne marchera pas à terme. Ce n'est pas mauvais de vouloir quelqu'un pour passer la nuit ou se retrouver de temps en temps, pour une relation platonique ou quelque chose de fusionnel. Par contre, si vous ne le dites pas expressément à l'autre dès que ça prend une bonne tournure, ça va faire mal. La peur de l'engagement joue aussi. C'est un comble, car le principal problème des gens avec l'amour est qu'il ne lui laisse pas le temps de se déterminer (entre l'attirance platonique, l'amitié, le désir sexuel, etc…), ce qui peut prendre du temps. Or, au bout d'un moment, il semble y avoir une peur du sentiment en lui-même, malgré tout ce qu'il apporte. Il y a une peur du précédent, de la limite à franchir. Or, c'est dans l'ordre des choses, et ce n'est pas une si grande limite que ça, si on reconnaît la puissance des sentiments qui y mènent. Si les sentiments ne sont pas assez forts, autant ne pas continuer ; dans le cas contraire, la relation stagnera. Je ne crois pas qu'il soit complexe. Je pense plutôt qu'il est rare.

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But to answer your question I would say being able to tread water/not drown for at least 15 minutes in any depth of water. Hold your breathe underwater for at least 30 seconds. If are afraid of the deep end at the pool then I wouldn't get on a board.
Swimming is the best preparation for surfing you can do that doesn't involve a board. You don't have to be a competitive swimmer (though at least one Olympic swimmer was also the top surfer in the world) but you have to be able to swim comfortably in surf as big as any you hope to paddle into, under conditions of fatigue and stress (eg just wiped out and held down by a set wave).
You need to be prepared for the surf you're in. If you're not a good swimmer, the worst thing you can do is go out in rough waters. If you can swim decently without exerting too much energy, then use your best judgment on what you think you can handle. If you have to question yourself, it may be too rough.
I am 36M and reasonably lean, and work a busy desk job. I grew up in India and so never had the ability to learn to swim. Pools are rare and my parents were already paying for private education that was very expensive for them. I have lived in Australia for over 17 years, a nation with a great swimming culture and teachers. So I finally took the plunge in Sep 2019 and joined a Masters Club. The first few sessions felt like I could not keep my body above water. But as I learned to relax, I gained more confidence. Also watching tonnes of free content on YouTube was helpful. The pool that I train in is 50m and mostly quite shallow, so I could do drills safely and practice myself several times a week without paying for extra lessons. You can also ask lifeguards to watch your technique and give you tips. And I train with the Masters club 1-2 times per week. Great bunch of people! Now after about 20 months (including the Covid closure for several months through 2020), I can do up to 2.4K per session and keep up with the others. My fastest is 50m in 40sec freestyle. So I believe with consistent practice and some coaching you will be able to achieve Masters level ability in say 12-18 months. Hope this helps! Good luck :-)
I started swimming at 41, I am 55 now. It took about 2 years of swimming almost daily to become OK. It took 3 years to become average masters swimmer, but it took about 7 years to be in the top 30% of competition in my favorite events. I am still improving my stroke and efficiency and have not slowed down from when I was in my late 40's.
Still working on being able to do a crawl without feeling like I'm dying halfway across though... Pool getting closed for 4 months due to Covid restrictions just as I was getting good put a big brake on my progress.

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When I was 13 my mom told me I was not good enough to be a baseball player (did that growing up, but then hit a growth spurt) and that I needed an athletic scholarship to go to college... she suggested swimming. Once I got 'good' at around my junior year in HS, I loved competing. Nothing made me happier than winning races and proving I was the best at the meet. Practice was the same way, I always figured ''well I'm here for 2 hours and wet already, so fuck it let's work our ass off and be the best''... I never liked people beating me, practice or meets. I absolutely love the rhythmic meditative breathing dictated by my movement, the sounds of water rushing by my ears, and the smell of chlorine. I think of nothing but counting laps and what to do next. I was never "good", if good means fast, but I still swim regularly as I approach 30. I finally paid the dues for the master's team, so I can think even less by having a coach tell me what to do. It would also make me better, but that's not really why I'm joining.
I'm in my 50's. I swim because I like my coach and the people I work out with, and I see real opportunities to get better. I don't expect to ever be "good" at swimming, where "good" means winning races. But I can still go to a meet, swim in my heat against people with comparable seed times, and have fun trying to better my times. I'm not particularly stressed out at meets, as I have nothing to prove, so I enjoy meeting and talking to people while I'm waiting for my events. This is all fun.
I swam because i was good at it. I enjoyed pushing myself, making myself better. Getting out of the pool barely able to walk after practice was the best feeling ever. Once i got hurt, couldnt preform for a long time and had surgery with a quite lengthy recovery; i lost my passion for it, i couldn't practice hard or race. Im sure with time i could have. But i couldnt start from the middle to get back up to the top after all that time, when i swim i just want to push myself and just cant. I still regret it to this day, my dreams and future changed so much. But i can live with it.
I love being in the water, I love the smell of pools (brings me back to my childhood), I love the tired feelings in my shoulders after a swim. I did used to find it boring, but after 20 mins I would find myself in a really nice calm zoned out place. Now I have a waterfi, so I listen to some incredible podcasts these days.
I enjoy spending time in the water and underwater. It is the best place to let all my excess energy thrive. Swim meets have always been a blast to me. I like the competition of swim meets. Practices are one of the few places I can be "me." Most of the kids I met in college do it for these reasons: mom and dad, to be the best, and because i have always done it. I have been asked, when are you going to stop swimming competitively? My answer: when I don't like it anymore.
I admit I swim purely to get better. There's no joy or fun for me except the moment I lift

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Le sourire et l'empathie sont les deux principales origines du charme, ajoutez une dose d'humour et voilà un séducteur !
Je ne sais pas si vous allez aimer ma réponse. Je trouve du charme à tous les gens que je croise. C’est vraiment très facile. Tout le monde a quelque chose de spécial, de particulier, et ça peut être n’importe quoi. J’adore les rides, les dessins qu’elles forment, les histoires qu’elles disent sur les gens, les rides des sourires, celles du travail, celles des souffrances. J’adore les sourires, les yeux qui rient, les gestes théâtraux, mais aussi l’humilité de certaines personnes, leur écoute, l’absence de besoin de reconnaissance. J’adore les vêtements de toutes les couleurs, ces cris de joie silencieux, mais aussi l’élégance, l’attitude, et j’adore aussi les coiffures. J’adore surprendre un geste tendre échangé avec quelqu’un qui compte, j’adore suivre les traits fatigués, et m’expliquer pourquoi, je trouve toujours que la fatigue a une certaine noblesse - bien que ça n’ait aucun sens. J’adore les histoires et chaque personne raconte son histoire, à sa façon. Chacun est riche de son expérience, de ses connaissances, de ses émotions, tout cela concentré en une petite boule de charme unique. Parfois on la voit, parfois non, parfois elle nous explose à la figure, parfois elle est complètement masquée par l’agressivité et la vulgarité, mais elle est toujours là. Je sais d’expérience que si je me mets à parler avec quelqu’un, je vais lui trouver du charme à un moment ou à un autre, quelque chose de particulièrement admirable, sans même en avoir l’intention. Quand la personne sort du lot pardis ! Quand elle ne ressemble pas à tous ceux que je croise dans le métro le matin…quand elle n'est pas ennuyeuse pour ne pas dire désagréable..quand je peux la regarder sans avoir envie de la gifler.quand elle rend ce monde de merde meilleur.son savoir rassurant et sa joie enfantine dénuée d'hypocrisie voilà ce quest le charme.qui n'a pas peur de dire ce qu'elle pense qui n'a pas de tabous qui n'est pas coincee dans un carcan de bien pensance…et qui me ressemble tout en comblant mes lacunes…ça c'est l'idéal.quand la mocheté du monde s'en va un peu quand je vois cette personne je me dis qu'elle a un pouvoir assez exceptionnel et c'est ça qui fait son charme.
L’intelligence, un certain charisme (pour ne pas parler de beauté qui est subjectif), sa façon d’etre ou de faire (on reconnaît assez vite les gens bien ou pas selon comment ils se tiennent ou font…), l’honnêteté à défaut de la sincérité, la gentillesse ou bienveillance,
C'est variable, certaines choses me sembleront charmantes chez une personne et tout a fait insupportable chez une autre… il s'agit de mélanges subtils. mais l'ouverture d'esprit est primordiale.

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I guess a youtuber by the name of "L22" changed me a bit aswell. I've stopped watching him since due to him aiming towards a younger audience, but he canged the way I like things, well, certain things. A lime car with purple wheels look disgusting, whilst a simplistic white/black car with black rims can look super nice. Basically, I no longer like things that's even slightly over the top, and I think he's the main reason.
A shitty 5 year relationship where I allowed my boundaries to be trampled and lost my sense of who I am and what I love. My amazing therapist. Anti-represents. Focusing on developing intense, loving friendships. Me, who is so committed to the tough work of finding happiness and understanding myself. It’s an uphill climb, but it’s working!
I assume you mean personality wise. I guess what makes me “me” is how I try to be a good person in any situation I’m in. Be it really life or in a game where there’s the option to be a bad guy. It’s more rewarding to be the good guy rather than the villain
My core values and the boundaries I put in place to keep them intact.
I make me who I am. The combination of specific character traits that I have acquired, built, edited and adopted were all chosen and crafted by me. I am Thenyn!
The varying experiences and expectations have shaped me.

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Uhh brown hair, green eyes somewhat tanned skin. Crazy random conspiracy theories and a love for books. Devistatingly good looks and a decent taste in music. I don’t let people in easily but when I do I’ll care for you no matter what. Kinda on the sarcastic side which honestly In the case of a hostage situation would be my downfall.
There are countless ingredients that make up the human body and mind, like all the components that make up me as an individual with my own personality. Sure, I have a face and voice to distinguish myself from others, but my thoughts and memories are unique only to me, and I carry a sense of my own destiny. Each of those things are just a small part of it. I collect information to use in my own way. All of that blends to create a mixture that forms me and gives rise to my conscience.
At least not in the way people think. Genetics have a significant influence over your development, but the other portion is vastly generated by the experiences others impart on you throughout your life. All of your values -or even the aversion to certain values- are strictly defined by what the adults in your childhood exemplified, meaning you are the combination of all the character traits you were exposed to growing up and there is not a single original thought in your mind, just a milkshake of all of the information you were given. "You" are a compound entity that works within the limits of its programming, that can, of course, grow and expand through your interactions to thought models that are new to you but still imparted by others. Changing a single event in your upbringing would have changed who "you" are entirely. So you and I and everyone in the world are just happy random accidents that carry on with us snippets of the people that came before us.
The greatest mistake is to be continually fearful of making one. A stumble may prevent a fall. To say that we have made mistakes is to say that we are alive. When we cease to make mistakes that is the moment when we cease to be. The Buddha has once asked if he'd ever made a mistakes, he answered "I am making a mistake even now, nothing more."
My abusive step dad, well used to be step dad. Me and my mom got away from him last year but everything he tried to make me do I did the opposite and I got a boyfriend even though I wasn't supposed to and he saved my life.( I was suicidal). He's been harrasing us since we left, and I've found out he wasn't just mentally and emotionally abusive, he also physically abused my mom, I want to put his name on here just for people to see this man for what he is if y'all ever see I'm and not get tricked by him.anyway yeah I'm me because of him

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I've replaced coffee with tea many times in my life. Right now I'm doing about 75/25 tea/coffee drinking. That said, you can definitely double the leaves but I prefer just to drink more tea. I would find out what you like to drink before doubling up. There are definitely black teas in my collection I would double on a particularly sluggish day and others I wouldn't.
Tea provides a slow and steady push of energy because the caffeine is balanced with L-Theanine. I used to take L-Theanine separately as a supplement, but it naturally exists in a lot of teas. I'm not a fan of caffeine, and I'd much rather take tea than coffee if I were looking for an energy fix.
Coffee for me. Tea is nice, but that's my night time drink. I imagine tea bags would be more popular in the morning, as loose leaf is more hassle. Tea bags are quick and easy if you are busy, but taking the time to enjoy loose leaf is worth it if you have the time. I've recently got into blooming teas, and they do need to sit in the cup for a while.
Coffee first thing for me as a pick-me-up, I go more for tea in the afternoons. Loose leaf is ideal but it is a struggle in work due to the mechanics of brewing and disposing of it. Most people go for teabags as really it isn't a gourmet thing, it is a casual drink they may have a few cups of a day without putting too much thought into.
I used to drink tea when living in Turkey but that has had the unfortunate side effect of meaning unless I concentrate on making it, I presume tea should be brick red by default. Needless to say, people im the office rarely ask me to make them a tea...
The great British tea drinking tradition is being seriously eroded by the fashion trend for coffee. It started with 'Friends' and Starbucks type places, and has now infested the home with these cartridge machines. A huge amount of tea is still drunk but coffee has become a national obsession now. Before, we just had instant coffee, which isn't wonderful, but now we can easily make really good Java in the mornings, to get our hearts started. I can't remember the last time I had a cup of tea.

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