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Is there a certain point at which you know a relationship is basically over? Me and my gf have bee fighting for over a month. I'm not sure this is good for either of us.

Minor disagreements are normal in relationships. Major fights are a different story. You don't say what the argument is about. If it's something that's really important to you, you should stand your ground. If it can't be resolved, then, yes, you should break up. You are correct that it is not good for either of you.

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My bf is very upset. He failed the psychological part of his interview for law enforcement. I've been trying to tell him he needs help but he just tells me I'm the one that's crazy. Now what?

Hmmmm??? Your bf is gaslighting you? Those tests have been around a long time and are quite valid. Simply put, it's time for a new boyfriend, not one that continues to stay in denial.

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It's hard for me to know when the right time to ask this girl out is. I don't want her to feel I'm pressuring her. I'm also scared to ask her. Should I give her a cute card?

I'm always in favor of something cute. It may appear corny, but if there is any interest at all on her part, it's a good way to go. Tangible things often work quite well, despite eye rolling.

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My life partner's family treats him awful. I'm not even sure why we go to family events. The make fun of us as a same sex couple. My partner says that even though they do this he doesn't want to abandon his family. I love my partner but I don't like his family. Do I just not go with him?

You should not have to go anywhere that you are made uncomfortable. I'm sure your partner is not comfortable either, but it's his family. If he's open to it, both of you should sit down with his family and tell them how you feel. Neither of you should be subjected to not being treated well.

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If they are going to make pot legal in CA, are people right just to say to ignore anyone using right now? I don't know what to think. My bf says he will continue to smoke now but not worry about being illegal.

While it's not legal right now, it will be in 18 days. Especially in CA, there's not going to be a lot of enforcement now. So, probably the answer is YES, just ignore it now unless it's really out of hand. The only exception is that it has been clearly researched that pot use in adolescence can cause a stoppage in growth of the frontal cortex, the decision-making and impulsivity center of the brain.

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Me and this guy really hit it off online. We been out a few times and he's great. My friends tell me not to trust him unless I get him checked out fully. Now I'm worried I might have made a mistake. He even said he thought it was a good idea for me to check him out so I can get my head clear. Doe

In this day and age your friends and this guy are right. Have him thoroughly checked out. That way you'll be able to be in the relationship without worrying. If something shows up, you can end it. Be confident in your decision.

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This woman wants to go out with me. The problem is she's 20 years older. I don't know how to politely turn her down. I don't want to hurt her feelings. I've tried just not returning texts or calls but she keeps going. What is a nice way to do this so she'll stop?

Since she will not take a subtle hint, you are left with no choice but to be direct. "I am flattered by your wanting to go out with me, but I respectfully am declining. Thank you in advance for respecting my decision." That should do it.

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This girl started this rumor about my bf that he harassed her. I know this is false because the night she talked about he was with me. I even have the movie stubs from the movie we went to. Do I confront her or what? She started in on social media about him.

The easiest and most effective way to handle this is to tell your story including a picture of the movie stub. Many would say to ignore it, but that will just give her permission to continue. Don't say anything negative about her. Just present the facts.

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What is the number one thing people want in a relationship? Is there a difference between males and females?

Male or female, there is no “number one” answer. There are some relatively similar answers in the top five or six characteristics, but everybody is individual so the answers vary greatly.

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I'm in love with two guys. They both even have the same score on your app. Now what? I don't want to hurt either of them.

Love Shopping List was designed to empower you to make better relationship choices. It was not designed to have the final say so in your decision. Ultimately, you have to go with what is in your heart. Fortunately, you have two good choices from what you described.

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Me and this other guy had a one night thing. I don't know if that makes me gay or bi or what. How do I sort this out? He wants to do it again but not me.

This sounds more like you were experimenting with your sexuality. It doesn’t mean you’re gay or bi. Regardless of what he says or anybody else says, never do anything that you are uncomfortable with.

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My friends tell me this girl in my history class really likes me. I don't know how to approach her with that. I'm happy but I don't want to get hurt.

You will have to get out of your comfort zone. It is actually not very complicated. Just go up to her and introduce yourself. That is a good start. Yes, you have a risk, but it might be worth.

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When my in-laws come over they just complain about everything. My husband says that's what he grew up with and that I should just ignore it. I don't think I should ignore someone criticizing me in my own home. I'm mad at them but I'm also mad at him for not backing me. What should I do?

You have every right to expect that you not be criticized especially in your own house. If your husband is not going to stand up to his parents, then you most certainly should. Do it in a respectful fashion, but lay down firm boundaries.

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How old do you think a teenager should be before going on a vacation with a boyfriend's or girlfriend's family? Our sixteen yo daughter is giving us grief for not letting her bf come with us over winter break. She says if he can't go then she's not either.

It is up to the parents in the house. Everyone has different beliefs regarding the proper age. Parents’ house, parents’ rules. A lot depends upon the culture and the religious believes of the parents.

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Is it really true that it takes decades to really cement a relationship? That just seems so long.

Social scientists have estimated that, yes, it takes decades. That doesn't mean the relationship is not good up to that point, but it just takes a very long time to iron out the inevitable differences. Like everything else worthwhile, relationships take a lot of work.

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so I don't know whether to thank my bf or be upset with him for punching the jerk.

I can't say I would not do the same thing as your bf. Yes, you can stand up for yourself, but no one should be subjected to that. I know there are many who say that the physical "violence" is not the way to handle it, but sometimes you just have to go with your gut reaction.

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My bf is over the top protective of me. I was standing at a party and he went to get me a drink. This other guy came over and tried to hit on me. When I politely turned him down he called me the c word. My bf heard this and knocked the guy out. I can stand up for myself so I don't know whether

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I'm a college athlete. This other guy at school started a rumor about me when our team went on the road and my girlfriend got really upset. I tried telling her it wasn't true but she's furious. I don't know whether to be pissed at this other guy (not a teammate) or her for not believing me.

If you've not given her any other reason to not trust, then SHE has issues with trust. I'm guessing you're upset with both of them and rightfully so. If she persists, get a new gf

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I saw that Prince Harry is marrying a biracial woman. I'm thrilled because that's me AND my bf. What do I say to the people who are critical? They think I'm white because I'm so light skinned.

You don't need to say a thing. Look at them, smile, and don't say a word. That's a classy way to handle it. If that doesn't work, tell them that opinions are like a-holes, everybody has one.

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I did your app, Love Shopping List. I think I was very honest. My boyfriend came out really high. My parents are convinced he's the wrong person. Any ideas?

If you were honest and not just filling in characteristics that your bf already has, the score is legit. BUT, listen to your parents' concerns. Then go from there.

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My gf's kid sister keeps hitting on me. I don't want to cause a problem in the family so I haven't told my gf yet. I'm not sure what to say. I'd like to shut this down before things go south. Should I sit them both down together? That's what my friends are saying but it doesn't feel right.

First, talk to your gf. You don't know what other issues are involved between the two of them. She may want to handle it herself or she may want to have both of you sit down with her sis. Talk it out.

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My parents think my bf is great (which he is) but his parents ignore me. I think it's because I'm a different religion. My bf says to ignore them but I can't. I don't like being around people who judge me because of my religion. Do I confront them or what?

I would not confront them because I don't think they would listen. I would tell your bf that you are no longer comfortable being around them and that he needs to deal with it.

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Cont-My bf says not to give her anymore opinions but she always pushes me. What should I do?

Your bf is smart. Don't give her any more opinions. You can certainly tell her why. You are NOT her therapist and should not be put in that kind of situation.

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My mother had me when she was really young (15). Now she treats me like her bff. My dad has never been in the picture. My mom asks me for my opinion when she goes out with a guy. I've told her whatever makes her happy but she insists so I told the truth with her latest. He's a POS. Now she's mad

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Can you really ever get over a cheating spouse and make a marriage work?

Yes, but several things have to take place. First, the infidelity must be addressed openly and apologized for unconditionally. Then the couple will need a strong couples therapist to guide them through. Anything less than a 100% commitment won't work.

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