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There's a guy on our football team that is really cute. The only problem is that I wonder if he'll run around telling teammates about anything. Does that happen?

Kiss and tell is not limited to football players or even just males. To me it's a classless behavior. What goes on between two people should remain that way. It's no one else's business. Be classy and don't accept anything less than a class act.

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My gf's family is from a culture that has huge weddings, like 300-500. My parents want to contribute but say that it's too many people. Her parents want to split the wedding cost. This is all creating a huge mess and resentment. What do I do?

Either the two of you can put your feet down, or you can tell both sets of parents that they need to talk to each other because it's putting too much stress on the two of you. You can also insist that each family pay for their own guests. That way your parents are not responsible for all their guests.

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I'm dating this guy who has a daughter. She resents the hell out of me. I'm always nice to her but she disrespects me a lot, especially when he's not around. I've tried to be the adult but she's testing my limits. Absolutely this could interfere with our relationship. ?????

My guess is that you're talking about a pre-teen or a teen. She's being very protective of her mother and is also concerned about you "stealing" her father. Just be patient and kind. They usually come around. Some take longer than others.

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My gf wants us to go have "proper table manner lessons." I'm not sure what this is all about. Is she trying to tell me something? I feel like I'm being judged.

It could be that she just wants both of you to learn proper etiquette, or it could be that your manners aren't exactly great. Don't overthink it. Just go and have a good time together. BTW, people will absolutely judge you on your manners.

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My bf's kid brother is a heroin addict but no one is doing anything about it. They all pretend everything is ok. My bf says he's tried to talk to his parents but they just gaslight him. Any ideas?

Denial is very strong. Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot you can do if the family is not willing to face reality. It is regrettable because they are playing Russian Roulette with his life. The two of you can try sitting down with them again.

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I was shocked to learn that my bf's cousin is a white nationalist. We saw him at a family event. Now I'm concerned that maybe his family is infected with this. It disgusts me. I don't want to ever see him again. How should I handle this?

You can explain to your bf that you do not ever want to be at any event where his cousin is present. You have the absolute right to set that boundary. You don't say if anyone else has made racist comments. It may just be this one person.

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My gf says we can't tell anyone we are dating yet. I asked her why and she said it's just too soon. I don't know what to think of this. Any ideas? What's the big deal if others know?

Some people just want to take things more slowly and are much more private about their lives. Respect what she wants, and you will be much happier in the long run.

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My gf's family is from a culture that has huge weddings, like 300-500. My parents want to contribute but say that it's too many people. Her parents want to split the wedding cost. This is all creating a huge mess and resentment. What do I do?

Ah, yes. Weddings!! They are supposed to be such a wonderful time. Either the two of you need to take control of what you want, or you need to tell both sets of parents to meet and figure it all out since it's creating too much stress.

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I'm dating this guy who has a daughter. She resents the hell out of me. I'm always nice to her but she disrespects me a lot, especially when he's not around. I've tried to be the adult but she's testing my limits. Absolutely this could interfere with our relationship. ?????

This is very common. She looks at it like you are stealing her father, so she's fighting you for him. Get some professional help with someone who has experience with this. It will make life much easier.

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My bf's kid brother is a heroin addict but no one is doing anything about it. They all pretend everything is ok. My bf says he's tried to talk to his parents but they just gaslight him. Any ideas?

If his bro is under 18, they can commit him. If not, it complicates things. The best thing to do is contact an interventionist. That's a person who specializes in exactly what you're asking for.

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