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I hate getting mixed signals from a guy like yeah I get that we're "friends " (if that's what you call a person who comes in out of your life when they want) but I know my feelings werent just one sided here

This is not a relationship. This is friends with benefits. If you're wanting more, you'll have to move on. If not, just go with it.

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I'm not sure how to handle this. I just caught my bf up in the middle of the night watching porn. My first thought was that I'm not providing him with enough "entertainment." Is that the way it works?

Not necessarily. There are lots of reasons, not the least of which is that he's addicted. This is real. Don't shame him, and don't think that it's you. You may want to see a couples' therapist to help you with the situation.

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If you been going out for a while, who pays? My gf has never even offered. I know it's traditional for a date or two but when is she supposed to kick in? You wanna be equal then do it.

You can certainly have that discussion after going out for awhile. This is 2018, and there's nothing wrong with splitting the bill or trading off who pays for each date. However, you should consider her financial situation ... and yours... before arriving at a solution.

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My dad is starting to date again after him and my mom got divorced. I don't like his choice. What do I do? She's nothing like my mom.

No one will replace your mom. Unless your dad asks for your opinion, you should just support him in his decision-making. It's very hard to start dating again, so he'll have a learning curve. Don't pass judgement on something with which you're not familiar.

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I love having my grandkids over but my son and d-i-l have never had the kids clean up. They have a bunch of help in their house. It really bugs me. I'm thinking of saying something to my grandkids. What do you think?

It's your house, so there's nothing wrong with telling them that when at your house they are expected to help clean up. Their parents are not doing them any favors by not having them do chores, including cleaning up.

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My bf uses edibles instead of smoking. He's got anxiety. He says it helps him. I'm cool with that but my folks are not. He's got a medical card and all that. My parents want me to break up but I don't want to. ???

You may want to provide your parents with educational material and research. The fact he's using edibles would indicate he's not a typical pothead. You can explain that, too. Weed has been shown to handle anxiety quite well.

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My bf's best friend is gay and we're both totally cool with that. In fact we've double dated a bunch of time with him and his bf. We get really weird looks (sometimes comments). We want to be able to say something to these people but don't know what to say.

You don't need to say anything. Why would you? You don't say anything when you go out with a heterosexual couple, so why not just think about it as just couples double dating?

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My parents let my bf sleep over. I'm 17 so they figure I'm old enough. We've had "the talk" and all. His parents are freaking out. They said if I get pregnant they'll disown him. What do we say?

Don't say a word. You don't need to. Be smart and make sure you use protection. You are not going to change his parents' minds. That's between your bf and them.

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How can I politely tell my gf she's put on some weight without starting world war III? I care more about her health than her looks but I do care about how she looks especially if she continues to gain more weight.

Approach it from a health standpoint. Let her know how much you care about her and that you are worried about a health concern. Be a gentleman.

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Our son and his wife have kicked my 18 y.o. grandson out of the house because he's dating someone from a different culture. We are not as rigid and he knows that. He wants to come and live with us. How do we pick between our son and our grandson?

This truly requires family therapy. First you're going to need to find a highly qualified therapist. You are being placed in a situation that you're not trained to handle, AND you are emotionally involved. Don't do this alone. If there's a chance to salvage the family, it will require a lot of work.

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I seem to attract guys who are jerks. I know it has to have something to do with me but I can't figure it out. Is there a way to understand? I'd just like a nice guy.

The best advice is to get some short term therapy to figure out your role in the problem. Clearly, you are sending out messages you're not aware of and to the wrong people. A good therapist will help you sort it all out.

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I'm really attracted to this guy. I found out he's trans. Surprisingly this doesn't bother me. I just think he's really nice & a lot nicer than other guys I've dated. Should I get help to sort this out?

You seem to have a good handle on your feelings, which is very good. Some professional help would go a long way to helping you sort more things out. That way your mind will even be clearer.

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Me and my gf are 19. We been going together for two years. People seem to think they need to tell us what to do because we are young. How do we politely tell them to F.O.?

Here's a fun way to handle it. Instead of getting mad or saying anything, just look at them, don't say a word, and SMILE. It drives people nuts. The key is not to say anything. Works every time.

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I just found out my brother's gf has been cheating on him. I'm in the same female social circle she is so I know it's true. Do I tell him or just let him find out on his own?

If you are reasonably close to your bro, yes, you should warn him. Usually the one cheated on is the last to know. Family is worth protecting.

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There's this guy that pops up in our social group all the time. He started hitting on my gf. She doesn't like it but doesn't know what to do because she is sweet and doesn't like to hurt anyone. Do I step in or let her handle it?

Ask her what she'd like you to do. Sometimes people need someone to advocate for them. She genuinely may not know how to handle it. Be gentle. Don't be a jerk handling it.

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This guy is getting a divorce (He showed me the papers from the filing). I told him I don't want to take our relationship further until the divorce is final. He says he's been living separately for over a year, so there's nothing in the way of us. I don't know what to do.

In any relationship, both partners need to be comfortable. If you are not comfortable until his divorce is final, then keep your boundaries so you won't regret it later. If he's really interested in you, he'll just have to wait. Don't ever be pressured. Always blows up later.

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My gf's father is constantly putting me down. My gf says he jokes with everyone that way. I'm not sure what to do. Do I joke back with him? I thought that might be disrespectful.

You can certainly poke back, but don't cross that imaginary line of disrespect. He may just be trying to be playful and would enjoy you playing back. If the put downs are personal, you'll need to be honest with him about how you feel.

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I went camping with my gf's father and some of his friends. He started telling me what's wrong with his daughter. I just listened. I can't believe he would do that. I didn't know how to handle it.

From what you're saying, there are major issues in that family that are sitting just below the surface. For her father to try to undermine the relationship says that there is a major rift between her and her father. You're stuck with a no win situation. If you tell her, he'll blow up at you. If you don't tell her, then he'll keep doing it. Get some professional help on this one.

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I'm playful online with some guys but I never cross the line. My bf says that I'm cheating. I don't think so but I'm open for discussion. Is this cheating?

The most powerful element of a person is her or his mind. Cheating doesn't necessarily need to be physical. Obviously, this is upsetting to your bf, so if you know that, you have to ask yourself why you keep doing it. I'm guessing it's about your self-esteem.

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My bf's father is a womanizer. His parents are still together but I guess his mother just puts up with it. Now I'm worried that his father is his role model and he will do the same. Is there a way to make sure?

Unfortunately, his father has provided a crappy role model on how to handle a relationship. That doesn't mean your bf is automatically destined to do the same. Talk to him honestly about your concerns and see what he says. His father's behavior may be just as upsetting to him as it is to you.

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My gf doesn't drink regularly but when she does she usually drinks until she passes out. Is she an alcoholic?

That behavior alone doesn't make her an alcoholic, but it certainly sends up a giant red flag. Tell her that you are concerned and would like for "both of you" to live a healthier lifestyle. If she continues the behavior, you may have to end the relationship if it bothers you that much.

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Every time we go out with this other couple, the guy gets out the calculator and computes how much each couple owes. I find this obnoxious. Whenever we go out with other couples, we just split the bill. They are nice but this is getting to the point I don't want to go out with them anymore.

Beat them to the punch. Tell them what they owe before they can compute it. If they push back, just tell them you are more comfortable just splitting the bill. If they persist, you need to disengage with them.

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