I’m upset with my wife. We agreed to have only two children, but she wanted a third, so she got pregnant. How do I get over being mad. There’s nothing I can really do now. I love kids but I feel like she went behind my back.
First, you have a right to be upset since she did this on purpose and had agreed to limit your children. But then you have to ask yourself what good it does you to be mad. In time you’ll get over it and love the child. In the meantime you should get some short-term marriage counseling, since there are clearly issues underlying her move.