I've been going out with this girl for 3 months. I just found out she's a closet smoker. Whatever she was doing, I never knew until I surprised her at her place. She had just smoked and stunk. I walked out. Am I being too judgmental? How do I get her to stop? She's a really neat person.

For many people smoking is a nonstarter. She may be a nice person, but you need to have a discussion with her. Let her know that you think she is very nice, but you do not like having anything to do with smokers because of thirdhand smoke, The bad stuff that gets on clothes and furniture and carpets and walls.

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