My bf of two months is perfect in every way except he smokes. He doesn't do it around me but I can always smell when he has. I've told him how much it bothers me but he just says he won't do it around me. My dad was a smoker and died of lung cancer so this is a trigger for me. What do I do?
For many people (me included) smoking is a non-starter. He is going to have to choose between his smokes and you. He will try to gaslight you and tell you that you are trying to control him, but you are not. You are just setting a clear boundary.