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When is a good time to introduce my gf to my family?

It really depends on your family. Some families don't want anybody coming into a family setting unless it's really serious, while others are comfortable with anyone you might bring home. Ask them if they would like to meet her. Their response just may surprise you in a good way.

I don’t know how to handle this. I’m dating this guy. He told me upfront he was also going out with this other girl. I was ok at first but now I’m starting to get really upset.. How do I handle this? I like him a lot but I’m not interested in open dating.

You knew what the rules were when you started going out with him. He was honest with you from the start. You obviously have had a change of heart. You are either going to have to deal with what he is doing, or you need to end the relationship.
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I don't think my boyfriend likes my hair color (Brown), should I change it?

Don't change just because your bf MAY not like your hair. If you want to change it for you, that's different. You need to be comfortable with you and how you look.
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I went to a local bar where you can meet people and I saw everyone very busy on their cellphones. Maybe they should go home and do it there. This seems rather bizarre to me. This wasn't like this 10 years ago. I don't think I like all this gadget stuff. Is this the way things are now?

Yes, pretty much wherever you turn, people are on their gadgets. There are some basic etiquette rules but not many. Remember that 10 years ago much of the internet was still in it's infancy, and there were no smart phones or smart devices or apps. Welcome to 2015
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My daughter says I’m being old fashioned about her choice of clothes. She just turned 16 and goes out wearing things that could best be described as “revealing.” She says that’s the way everyone dresses today. I’m trying to be open minded. What do other parents do?

And who pays for her clothes??? As long as she is in your house, she lives by your rules. Yes, it's old fashioned, but if more parents acted like parents and set limits, it would eliminate a lot of problems. Now I sound like the one who's old fashioned. The job of a teenager is to test the limits. The job of a parent is to set them.

My girlfriend and I have incredible sex. But sometimes, like a few hours afterwards, she starts crying. I keep asking her what's wrong but she says that she is okay. Thoughts?

Your gf needs some help that only a professional can give her. There are obviously very deep emotions that are stirred up, perhaps of early traumas. She probably doesn't want to ruin the relationship with you, so she's not willing to burden you with any emotional baggage. Tell her that because you care for her, you want her to get help so that she doesn't have the emotional pain that is so evident.

hello Dr. Andrew.. how are you? I have a weird thing when it comes to girls. when I would go up to a girl or if a girl comes up to me, I would get nervous and I wouldn't know what to say. I'm 24, male and never had a girlfriend before. What would it take for a cute girl to notice me?

Try just being yourself because if you try being something you are not, you will fail. After you have more experience, you won't feel as awkward. Confidence comes with successful experiences.

Is it appropriate to try to pick up on women at the gym. There is a beautiful women who goes there, but I feel like it might be bothering her by approaching her and trying to have a conversation.

Some people go to the gym to work out, while others use it as their personal meat market. If this beautiful woman is intensely working out, then stay away until she is done. Don't try picking her up. Try just being a gentleman and having a polite conversation ... after her workout. If you interrupted my workout, I'd be really pissed.
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What is a good age to get married?

A good age is when you and your partner are ready. Some people are ready at 20, some at 30, and some later. There is no hard and fast rule. I was married when I was 22 and my wife was 21, and we have 44 years under our belts. Today, many couples are getting married older when their careers and finances are set. You will know when you are ready.
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We are two gay men. We have a 6 year old son. We are trying to set up play dates but finding it difficult. Any suggestions?

The best advice I can give you is to seek out a local (or as close as possible) LGBTQ support group and seek the advice of others who have already experienced this. They will know best.
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Our 14 yo daughter is in a "relationship" with someone online who says he's 16. He says he lives about an hour away and she wants to meet him in person. What do we do?

You do a deep dive into this person by going to one of the sites that will perform a very thorough investigation. You will have all the information you need to make a parental judgement.
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My aunt and uncle raised me because my dad was never around and my mom was a druggie. I want them to walk me down the aisle. Now my parents want to be involved all of a sudden. What should I do?

The two of you should do what YOU want to do. Your parents will have to deal with the consequences of what they did.

Do opposites really attract each other? Doesn't that cause a lot of problems?

It all depends on the two people. "Opposites attract." "People who are the same are attracted to each other." Both are true, and both are simply justifications for being together. Enjoy.

My gf's bff won't shut up. She talks over everyone and interrupts constantly. Whenever I try to say something to my gf she goes ape shit on me. WTF? Now what? I don't want to break up over this idiot.

Tell her you want to have a serious talk and ask that she please listen to you before reacting. Present facts, not feelings. And listen to what she says, as well. If she continues to choose her bestie over you, you have a decision to make.

I'm a gay man. My partner is 12 years older. Some people say that's too big a spread. How many years is too much?

The fact that you're gay has nothing to do with the decision. As with any relationship in which there's a significant age difference, it's entirely up to what the two people are comfortable with.

We've been to a couples' therapist but my bf says he's tired of going. Our problems are still not straightened out. How can I convince him to keep going? I think it's helping.

Explain exactly what you just said, but leave with love. Tell him you love him, and you want it to work, but the problems have to be addressed if it's going to work.

How soon should two people move in with each other if they've been dating for six months? I heard it should be a year.

It is ENTIRELY up to the couple. There is no right answer other than what the couple feels is right for them. For some, it could be months, while for others it might be several years.

This guy at school has been sending me sexual texts. I've asked him to stop. He says he just wants to take me out. How do I stop hi without looking like a bitch?

Firstly and most importantly, you need to report this to your counselor at school. Do NOT agree to go out with someone who clearly does not understand what he is doing in the way of harassment.

I just found out both of my gf's parents have been treated for depression. Now I'm worried she will become depressed too. I don't know whether to break it off now or not before things go bad. Will she become depressed at some point?

As mentioned, she is "predisposed" to depression, but it's not automatic. As long as everything is going well, don't sweat it.
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I have gone out with males and females (I'm a female). I'm not sure which way to lean. How does a person know which is the best for me? I'm open to any suggestions.

If you aren't ready to make a decision, don't. It may be that you are bisexual. Just go with the flow. Sometimes it takes people a long time to figure themselves out. Be kind to yourself, and don't rush to judgment.

What would you do if your bf/gf is constantly locking you out of your room while there in there with a friend of yours who has a crush on them?

As with the previous answer, get rid of them. NEVER allow someone to disrespect you. No one deserves to be treated that way.
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What would you do if your gf/bf makes your best friend spit on you constantly and then runs off with them to their place and spends more time with them than you?

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Drop them like a hot potato. That's not something a real friend does. Don't allow anyone to treat you that way.
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I may be old fashioned but I don't kiss on the first date. My friends tell me I'm being too rigid. Am I?

It doesn't make any difference what label they put on it. If those are your standards, and you are perfectly comfortable with them, don't give them up. You'll regret it. You are the best judge of what's comfortable for you.


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