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I don’t know how to handle this. I’m dating this guy. He told me upfront he was also going out with this other girl. I was ok at first but now I’m starting to get really upset.. How do I handle this? I like him a lot but I’m not interested in open dating.

You knew what the rules were when you started going out with him. He was honest with you from the start. You obviously have had a change of heart. You are either going to have to deal with what he is doing, or you need to end the relationship.

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I went to a local bar where you can meet people and I saw everyone very busy on their cellphones. Maybe they should go home and do it there. This seems rather bizarre to me. This wasn't like this 10 years ago. I don't think I like all this gadget stuff. Is this the way things are now?

Yes, pretty much wherever you turn, people are on their gadgets. There are some basic etiquette rules but not many. Remember that 10 years ago much of the internet was still in it's infancy, and there were no smart phones or smart devices or apps. Welcome to 2015

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My daughter says I’m being old fashioned about her choice of clothes. She just turned 16 and goes out wearing things that could best be described as “revealing.” She says that’s the way everyone dresses today. I’m trying to be open minded. What do other parents do?

And who pays for her clothes??? As long as she is in your house, she lives by your rules. Yes, it's old fashioned, but if more parents acted like parents and set limits, it would eliminate a lot of problems. Now I sound like the one who's old fashioned. The job of a teenager is to test the limits. The job of a parent is to set them.

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My girlfriend and I have incredible sex. But sometimes, like a few hours afterwards, she starts crying. I keep asking her what's wrong but she says that she is okay. Thoughts?

Your gf needs some help that only a professional can give her. There are obviously very deep emotions that are stirred up, perhaps of early traumas. She probably doesn't want to ruin the relationship with you, so she's not willing to burden you with any emotional baggage. Tell her that because you care for her, you want her to get help so that she doesn't have the emotional pain that is so evident.
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hello Dr. Andrew.. how are you? I have a weird thing when it comes to girls. when I would go up to a girl or if a girl comes up to me, I would get nervous and I wouldn't know what to say. I'm 24, male and never had a girlfriend before. What would it take for a cute girl to notice me?

Try just being yourself because if you try being something you are not, you will fail. After you have more experience, you won't feel as awkward. Confidence comes with successful experiences.

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Is it appropriate to try to pick up on women at the gym. There is a beautiful women who goes there, but I feel like it might be bothering her by approaching her and trying to have a conversation.

Some people go to the gym to work out, while others use it as their personal meat market. If this beautiful woman is intensely working out, then stay away until she is done. Don't try picking her up. Try just being a gentleman and having a polite conversation ... after her workout. If you interrupted my workout, I'd be really pissed.

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What is a good age to get married?

A good age is when you and your partner are ready. Some people are ready at 20, some at 30, and some later. There is no hard and fast rule. I was married when I was 22 and my wife was 21, and we have 44 years under our belts. Today, many couples are getting married older when their careers and finances are set. You will know when you are ready.

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I just found out both of my gf's parents have been treated for depression. Now I'm worried she will become depressed too. I don't know whether to break it off now or not before things go bad. Will she become depressed at some point?

As mentioned, she is "predisposed" to depression, but it's not automatic. As long as everything is going well, don't sweat it.

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I have gone out with males and females (I'm a female). I'm not sure which way to lean. How does a person know which is the best for me? I'm open to any suggestions.

If you aren't ready to make a decision, don't. It may be that you are bisexual. Just go with the flow. Sometimes it takes people a long time to figure themselves out. Be kind to yourself, and don't rush to judgment.

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Me and this girl have been going out for three months. This may sound crazy but she's pressuring me to sleep with her and I'm not ready. My guy friends want to know what's wrong with me. I don't think there is but IDK.

Don't fall into the trap of male mentality regarding getting laid. You should NOT sleep with someone unless you want to, and it doesn't make any difference if you are male or female. There's nothing wrong with you.

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How soon is too soon after a spouse passes to start sleeping with someone else?

There is no "magic" amount of time. I've had patients who have lost a spouse start dating after 6 weeks, and I've had surviving spouses who don't date at all, and I've had many time frames in between. It's up to each individual. Hopefully, those around the surviving spouse will respect decisions that are made. Don't mock a pain you haven't endured.

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Me and my bf have been dating for about 6 months. Here’s the problem. He is a health food nut. He measures and counts everything. I don’t. He insists that I do it to if we are to stay together. I love him IDK if I can take this. Any suggestions?

Your bf wants both of you to be healthy, even if it's a bit overboard. My suggestion is to try going with it.

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Hi Dr. Andrew... I'd like to stay anonymous. It's not really a question but much of a state. It's that I get scared to talk to attractive girls at all times, as an example, I'd go up to her and I wouldn't know what to say at and I've been single my whole life. What can I do to help gain confidence?

The best advice is to study the news. That way you'll have lots to talk about. Talk is difficult for a lot of people. Just keep working on it and the confidence will come

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Me and my gf been going together for almost a year. We been talking about getting married. Is there a right amount of time to do this. We both come from divorced families and don’t want to repeat.

There is no "right" time when it comes to getting married. I can certainly understand why the two of you would like some type of assurance, but there is none. You've been going together long enough to pretty much know if it's going to work. Especially since both of you come from divorced families, it would be an excellent idea to get some pre marital counseling to work out any of the kinks before they get too tight.

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My father in law to be has a VERY different view of politics than me. I have tried not engaging because we just end up in a screaming match. I don’t want it to break up my relationship with my fiancé. ????

The best advice is just don't discuss politics or religion with people who are very fanatic about either. You are never going to just have a "discussion." It will generally ALWAYS lead to an argument. You are fine just telling him that you don't discuss either. If he persists, just excuse yourself from the room.

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Why do girls think they have to act like a guy to look tough? It would seem to me that being a girl has its own benefits.

First, not two people are alike, and certainly not all “girls.” Some feel they have to act like a guy just to compete. For a lot of females that’s harder to do. As the old saying goes about the famous dance couple, “Ginger Rogers had to do everything Fred Astaire had to do, but she had to do it in high heels and backward.” It’s generally all about respect.

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