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These two guys got in an actual fight over me. The problem is that I'm not interested in either of them but now everyone in school thinks I'm a bitch and put them against each other. My friends know the truth but others are just mean. ??

Don't get involved in the gossip stuff. As long as your good friends know, you don't need to say anything. People will always gossip. Nothing you can do about that.

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I just found out that my last bf died. I wasn't shocked because he was an alcoholic but I feel bad about being mean and confronting him with the reason I was breaking up. I just couldn't take it anymore. How do I get rid of the guilt?

First, understand that the whole situation is not your fault. You can certainly apologize if you'd like to. That may make you feel better. Besides, you knew his father, so out of respect you can give condolences.

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My gf is 10 years older than me. She gets shit for this all the time. It really upsets her because she says that wouldn't happen the other way around. What do we say to people when they make rude comments?

You can either just look at them and smile without saying a word, which drives people nuts, or you can directly say that you don't remember asking for their opinions. You need to let them know you are not rattled. Be strong.

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My trainer is older than me. The last session he came onto me. I didn't know what to do. Isn't this like a professional boundary violation? I don't know if I should keep working with him.

In certain professions, it's grounds to either be suspended or lose a license. It's DEFINITELY a professional violation. He needs to be reported. You need to look him in the eyes, tell him to back off, and get a different trainer.

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My mom started going out with my coach. It's really weird at practice to see him and have him yelling at everyone including me. It messes with my head. I'm thinking about quitting the team. Do you have any suggestions?

As long as your coach treats you just like everyone else, concentrate on your performance. Yes, I can understand how it's a bit weird, but just stay focused.

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I'm not sure how to handle this. I just caught my bf up in the middle of the night watching porn. My first thought was that I'm not providing him with enough "entertainment." Is that the way it works?

Not necessarily. There are lots of reasons, not the least of which is that he's addicted. This is real. Don't shame him, and don't think that it's you. You may want to see a couples' therapist to help you with the situation.

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If you been going out for a while, who pays? My gf has never even offered. I know it's traditional for a date or two but when is she supposed to kick in? You wanna be equal then do it.

You can certainly have that discussion after going out for awhile. This is 2018, and there's nothing wrong with splitting the bill or trading off who pays for each date. However, you should consider her financial situation ... and yours... before arriving at a solution.

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My dad is starting to date again after him and my mom got divorced. I don't like his choice. What do I do? She's nothing like my mom.

No one will replace your mom. Unless your dad asks for your opinion, you should just support him in his decision-making. It's very hard to start dating again, so he'll have a learning curve. Don't pass judgement on something with which you're not familiar.

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I love having my grandkids over but my son and d-i-l have never had the kids clean up. They have a bunch of help in their house. It really bugs me. I'm thinking of saying something to my grandkids. What do you think?

It's your house, so there's nothing wrong with telling them that when at your house they are expected to help clean up. Their parents are not doing them any favors by not having them do chores, including cleaning up.

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My bf uses edibles instead of smoking. He's got anxiety. He says it helps him. I'm cool with that but my folks are not. He's got a medical card and all that. My parents want me to break up but I don't want to. ???

You may want to provide your parents with educational material and research. The fact he's using edibles would indicate he's not a typical pothead. You can explain that, too. Weed has been shown to handle anxiety quite well.

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My bf's best friend is gay and we're both totally cool with that. In fact we've double dated a bunch of time with him and his bf. We get really weird looks (sometimes comments). We want to be able to say something to these people but don't know what to say.

You don't need to say anything. Why would you? You don't say anything when you go out with a heterosexual couple, so why not just think about it as just couples double dating?

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Our son and his wife have kicked my 18 y.o. grandson out of the house because he's dating someone from a different culture. We are not as rigid and he knows that. He wants to come and live with us. How do we pick between our son and our grandson?

This truly requires family therapy. First you're going to need to find a highly qualified therapist. You are being placed in a situation that you're not trained to handle, AND you are emotionally involved. Don't do this alone. If there's a chance to salvage the family, it will require a lot of work.

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I seem to attract guys who are jerks. I know it has to have something to do with me but I can't figure it out. Is there a way to understand? I'd just like a nice guy.

The best advice is to get some short term therapy to figure out your role in the problem. Clearly, you are sending out messages you're not aware of and to the wrong people. A good therapist will help you sort it all out.

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I'm really attracted to this guy. I found out he's trans. Surprisingly this doesn't bother me. I just think he's really nice & a lot nicer than other guys I've dated. Should I get help to sort this out?

You seem to have a good handle on your feelings, which is very good. Some professional help would go a long way to helping you sort more things out. That way your mind will even be clearer.

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There's this guy that pops up in our social group all the time. He started hitting on my gf. She doesn't like it but doesn't know what to do because she is sweet and doesn't like to hurt anyone. Do I step in or let her handle it?

Ask her what she'd like you to do. Sometimes people need someone to advocate for them. She genuinely may not know how to handle it. Be gentle. Don't be a jerk handling it.

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