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why do I keep picking losers? It just seems like I attract them. There’s got to be something I can do.

This is something I deal with all the time. Basically, it has to do with childhood issues. The best thing you can do to help yourself is to get professional help. You will learn that you are actually advertising for these losers. Get help!!

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My bf is great except he’s not very modest. He runs around in his underwear even when we have friends over. I’ve told him it’s gross but he just laughs. WTF?

Your bf does not respect you enough. This is an indication of what he will be like in your future. Some people are more modest than others, but if the lack of modesty bothers one's partner, it should stop.

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I’m 17. My parents won’t let me date yet so I sneak out. Some people say I’m disrespectful but I see it as gender inequality.

If you are living in your parents' house, you have to play by their rules. Yes, it's disrespectful. You mention "gender equality." Do you have a brother that is treated differently? That would explain your reaction.

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Me and this guy hit it off really well. The only problem is I know nothing about his background. My friends tell me I'm being foolish pursuig him until I know what the real deal is. Does that sound right?

Fortunately, you now have technology on your side. There are a number of sites that can do a very thorough background check. I would highly recommend you do this, especially since you know very little. You need to do your due diligence.

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I'm a 48 yo bachelor. Recently I met this woman and we been seeing each other. It hasn't gone past just hanging out. I don't know how to take it to the next level. I don't want to push her away. Do I just bust a move or what?

Busting a move could bust your relationship. Be patient. It's sounds like she's just not completely comfortable yet. If you are interested, your job is to always make her feel comfortable. Let her decide when the timing is right. You'll be much happier.

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My gf has recently decided she needs a bunch of plastic surgery. I love her just the way she is so I don't understand what that's all about. She also seems more depressed lately. What's up with all that?

Your gf has a big problem that requires professional help. She may have developed Body Dysmorphic Disorder. She may have a distorted view of her body and body parts. This is a real disorder, and you are not trained to handle this. Encourage her to get help.

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I sent a cute pic of my bf to one of my close friends. I can't believe she posted it. I am pissed. Why would she think she could do that and what do I do now?

Whatever reason she had in mind, she has violated your trust. You need to be clear if you are sending something to someone that it's not for public consumption. She needs to know how you feel. You have every right to be upset, but be clearer about your wants next time.

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My bf wants me to get a Brazilian wax job. I don't really want to but I figure if it makes him happy why not. Does this make any sense?

If you were indifferent, I'd say go ahead. However you said your really don't want to. With that in mind, don't be forced into doing anything you really don't want to do just to please another person. Have more respect for yourself. Sure, it's sexy, but not if you don't want to do it.

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I met this guy who is really great. The only problem is that he is into bodybuilding and that seems to be way more important than anything else including me. I'm not sure how to handle that. Is this the way all bodybuilders are or is it just him?

Bodybuilders are very dedicated to their craft and sometimes to the exclusion of those around them. It's not just him. That being said, they are still human and love being in relationships. Just be patient.

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I'm 22. My parents have always been controlling but they just went overboard. My father met with my bf and came right out and asked him about his intentions and whether he is financially stable enough for me. I was mortified. I haven't talked to them at all for days. I've apologized to my bf but

First, most dads are uber protective of their daughters. Some people view this as sexist, and maybe it is since they would probably not do it with a son. The reality is that it’s not going to change anytime soon. As long as your bf is cool with it, don’t worry. Daddy-daughter relationships are very different than Daddy-son relationships. This doesn’t mean he thinks you are weak.

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This other couple is getting married. They are having a destination wedding. She comes from a wealthy family, but we have been very close friends for years. Me and my bf cannot afford to go. She asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. What do we do?

To a lot of people, destination weddings, especially when they are far away and expensive, are selfish because many people would not be able to come. I think you need to thank her but be honest with her. You shouldn’t go into debt over her wedding. Accessible destination weddings are ok, but when they’re far away, it always limits who can come.

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I'm worried about our son. He went from a scrawny little kid to a super good looking stud. He's only in his last year of high school but is already going out 3-5 times a week with girls. He's that popular. Do we just let him get this out of his system?

Your son is trying to compensate for the years he felt so inadequate. If he’s getting lots of new found attention, it’s only natural that he’s going to play with it. As long as he’s making good decisions, just let him figure this out. If he runs into trouble, then get him some professional help. Other than that, it sounds quite normal for that age group.

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My best friend married a wonderful woman. The three of us often did fun things together and sometimes I'd bring a date and sometimes not. We were just all good friends. Unfortunately he died several months ago from a rare disease. All of a sudden I'm having strong feelings about his wife.

First, you need to give her time and space to grieve. You are not double crossing your friend. Just don’t take advantage of his wife’s vulnerability. Being that the two of you are grieving the same loss, it only makes sense you feel closer to each other. Just let things unfold organically.

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I met this girl on an online dating site. I was very worried about a false profile so I did my research. She's almost too good to be true. Now I'm feeling a bit intimidated. I think she's way out of my league. What do I do next?

If she agrees to go out with you, she’s making a decision for herself. Unless she has super low self-esteem, she doesn’t think she’s out of your league or vice versa. Get out of your own head and just relax and enjoy. BTW, what’s up with your self-esteem?

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This girl and me are friends with benefits. We've known each other for about 4 years and several relationships. It's weird because we're both starting to have real feelings for each other. Is this possible?

Besides the sex, you are friends. Maybe what’s happened is that you’ve realized you both are more than just friends with benefits. Great. Just relax and enjoy the new level of your relationship. Time will reveal how far the relationship will go.

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Me and my bf were at a comedy show and in the front row. The comedian starts his routine. He looks at us then at me and asks what I'm doing with someone like my bf. Of course it was just comedy but when we left my bf blew up at me. I don't know what to do.

Your bf is EXTREMELY insecure. There are clearly much bigger issues under the surface than just that night. Additionally, it’s not okay that he used you as his personal toilet because he was embarrassed. It’s called comedy, and if you can’t take a joke, don’t go.

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We are a young couple. We are constantly being asked when we're going to start a family. WTF? Why do people think that's an ok question to ask? I feel like flipping them off most of the time but I don't.

I think that a lot of people see a young couple and think romantically about living the dream of a family. The best thing to do is smile politely and tell them just that you haven’t decided yet. Then don’t say another word.

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