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One of my other friends says me and my bf should get genetic testing to know if there are things that might cause severe problems. This seems kind of artificial. Do other couples do this? I'm kinda scared of what I might find out.

A lot of couples are getting genetic testing to try to make sure they aren't passing really severe things on. Two of my close friends lost their daughter to cystic fibrosis because they were both carriers for the disease.

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My sister's husband is a real jerk. Me and my sister are close so I don't want to go off on him but he always tries to put me down. Do I just let him have it or what?

Since you and your sister are close, have a serious talk with her and ask how she would like you to handle the matter, but that you're tired of the put-downs. He may also be doing this with her behind closed doors, so be open to listening, as well.

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Me and my gf are going to Bahamas. I've put on some weight so I'm kind of embarrassed to put on a bathing suit without a tee. Is there a way around this? My gf never criticizes me, but IDK.

Do what you're comfortable doing. But the more important question to ask is what are you doing so you're healthier? It sounds like she loves you unconditionally, which is great, but you need to love yourself enough to be healthier.

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How can I be in love with two girls at the same time? I don't know how to choose. I really do love them both. They are different but both have things that I love. I'd love to combine them.

Unless both are comfortable with you dating both, you're going to have to choose or your love life could be at risk. Our app, Love Shopping List, is designed to empower you to make better relationship decisions. Use it.

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I'm having trouble with my mom dating a new guy (My dad died). I want to be happy for her but I'm having trouble with it. What do other people do?

It's only natural to have those feelings. You're used to seeing your parents together. Many people feel they're somehow not be loyal to the parent that passed away if they happen to like the surviving parent's new friend. It's not an "either or". The new person doesn't replace your dad. Just give the new guy a chance.

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I met this new guy and he seems really sweet. My gf's tell me not to trust him but they don't tell me why. They just keep saying to watch out. They've got me worried but he's never done anything to make me worry. What do I do?

Certainly do your due diligence. You can have him checked out with one of the online services. Unless they have specific concerns, develop your own opinion based on your research and experiences. They may have other reasons for telling you this.

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There's a creepy guy at work who won't leave me alone. I reported him to HR but they haven't done a damn thing. My bf is upset and says if nobody does anything he will. I'm not sure what to do.

He can go with you and support you, but he should not interfere. This is a self-esteem issue on your part. It's hard, but you need to put on your big girl pants and deal with it. You need to learn to stand up for yourself.

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Are there ever times where you can fall out of love for no particular reason? I just don't have the same feelings for my bf anymore.

Even though you may not know the reason, there are always reasons. The short answer is "yes", you can fall out of love just like you fell in love. Sometimes it's as simple as realizing the person is not everything you thought he/she was.

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I am so tired of my gf's father being critical of her. I'd like to punch the guy. I know it upset her but she just says it's the way he is. What do I do? It really bugs me.

I can certainly understand why it would upset you, but it's their relationship. She is going to need some professional help to figure out what she wants the relationship with her father to look like. Basically, you need to stay out of it.

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Marijuana is now legal where I live. I don't know why my gf continues to give me a hard time. Her argument before was that it was illegal. That's gone. How do I get her to back off? I really don't smoke that much anyway.

Even if it's legal now for you, the basic question is this- Is using mj really worth losing your gf over? That really will answer your question for yourself. Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?

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My gf is moody. I'm not sure what to do. When things are good, they are really good. But when she flips out, she really flips out. I don't know if I can get used to it. I think she needs to get some help. What do I say?

Certainly, there is the possibility that she is bipolar. It's very difficult even for a professional. You can be honest with her and tell her what you are observing. If she flips out, you'll have to make a choice. It's unhealthy to stay in a relationship like you describe.

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We are a gay couple with two sons. Our older son brought his girlfriend over for dinner. It was great. The problem is that her parents blew up about her coming to dinner after they found out we are gay. Our son is really upset. What do we say.

This truly is a job for a therapist who has a lot of experience with families with gay or lesbian parents. That therapist will be a great resource for you. Your son also needs help getting through this time.

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What's the proper amount of time before dating someone who has been going with one of your good friends? Do I ask for permission or what?

There is no formal proper amount of time. There is the unwritten "guy" rule that says if it's within about 6 months, you should just inform them. I'm not in favor of that, but some guys feel obligated to their friends. I know that many females also have this unstated rule.

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