My husband is in Afghanistan and his friend is always dropping by to help me but I think he wants to help himself to something else. What should I say to him?
First, he is NOT your husband's friend! A lot depends on your personality, but you definitely need to clearly define the boundaries. Remember that unfortunately to many guys no means maybe, and maybe means yes. It's better you deal with this sooner than later before things get out of hand. You can try telling him that you and your husband appreciate all the help, but you won't need any help until your husband returns. If that doesn't work, you may have to be direct, but you can still be gentle. " I really appreciate all your help. I would hate to see a good friendship ruined by any foolish action, so thank you for helping, but I won't need any more help now." Hopefully, that will draw the line.