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I want my bf to go to counseling just to make sure we are on the same page. He says it's a waste of time. Do I just let it go? He hasn't done anything to make me wonder but I just think it's a good idea.

As a psychologist whose specialties include relationship counseling, I assure you it is NOT a waste of time. If everything is really good, couples counseling will only validate that. If there's something amiss, that will come to the surface, too. Don't give in. You are correct.

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My husband was killed by a drunk driver two years ago. We were married for five years. I don't know if I'll ever be able to be with anyone else. I feel it would be disloyal to him. What do others do?

My cousin had the best saying when I lost my wife of 48 years. "There is a giant gaping hole in your heart that will never close, but after a while you'll get used to the draft of air coming through it." Life goes on. The best suggestion I can give you is to seek out a grief group. It will help you get through and move on with the rest of your life. You are young enough to have a good "chapter 2" in your life.

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My gf broke up with me and I'm devastated. I've been crying for almost two weeks. I don't know how to get past this. We are both seniors in high school. She says she does not want to go away to college with "attachments." What do I do?

Neil Sedaka had a song originally recorded in 1962 called "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do." Yours is not an unusual story. It will take time, but eventually you will realize it's really over. The scars of the breakup will always remain. If your grief persists, get some professional help.

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My girlfriend's father is a gun toting, right wing nut job. He really sets me off. I've talked to my gf about this but she just says no one in the family pays any attention to him. Do I just confront him myself?

He keeps doing it because, in your words, no one has put a stop to it. The whole family just enables the behavior. You trying to address him as an outsider won't work. He'll probably tell you to get the hell out of his house if you try to talk with him about it. Tell your gf that you just can't be around him. It may cost you the relationship, but you will at least be taking a strong position.

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I screamed my head off in the middle of the night because my bf left the toilet seat up and when I got up to pee I fell in. I've talked with him before but he keeps doing it. Nothing seems to get through.

I'm guessing that this is not the only thing he does that is inconsiderate. Unless he changes his behavior, this is probably an indicator of your future. At least he puts the seat up as opposed to the guys who pee all over the seat and don't clean it up. Try posting a sign on the toilet.

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I am a 6 foot female and my boyfriend is about 5'9". I don't know what to say to people when they ask why I'm not with someone taller. I'd like to say it's none of their f-ing business, but that's not my style.

Take the higher ground and just tell them that his height is not important to you because he's such a wonderful person. Just keep smiling, and don't say another word. Sometimes silence is the best form of communication.

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I wrongly accused my bf of cheating on me with another girl. I found out the rumor started with another person we know who was mad at him. I feel like an idiot. I don't know how to begin to repair the relationship. He said he can't be with me anymore.

I hope lesson learned. It sounds like the damage your reaction did might be beyond repair. All you can do is apologize. It's up to him as to whether or not he accepts it. Obviously, in the future get your facts before you react.

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My husband is a massive man. What he has done now is to try to be the least intimidating person around. He lets people walk all over him. I've tried to get him to find middle ground but he doesn't. How can I help him?

Somewhere in his background someone told him he was intimidating and it really bothered him. He's trying to compensate. You can either help him directly by offering observations on different ways to be forceful without necessarily being intimidating. If that doesn't work, he might try professional help.

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My bf's father is an "expert" on everything! It's really annoying. My bf jus shines it on, but I can't seem to let go. What do I do? I want to tell him he's full of crap.

You are not going to accomplish anything except alienating everyone. This blowhard has been allowed to get away with it for probably longer than you've been alive. Unless it directly affects you, or it's factually incorrect, put your attention somewhere else.

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Me and this girl have been going out for three months. This may sound crazy but she's pressuring me to sleep with her and I'm not ready. My guy friends want to know what's wrong with me. I don't think there is but IDK.

Don't fall into the trap of male mentality regarding getting laid. You should NOT sleep with someone unless you want to, and it doesn't make any difference if you are male or female. There's nothing wrong with you.

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I am in a threesome with two other girls. We are perfectly happy but we get really nasty remarks from people. Is there an appropriate response when someone criticizes us?

There are several responses, but it depends on which fit you the best. You could say, "I'm sorry but I don't remember asking you for your opinion about our relationship," or you could just not say a word, maintain eye contact, and smile. It often gets the job done without having to do anything else.

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My grandmother continually lectures me and my gf about what is "proper." I want to be respectful but it's getting to a point where we don't want to be around her. She's a very important person in my life so it's important I handle it well. My gf is getting to the point where she said we may have t

Tell your grandmother that you love her very much, but you would appreciate her not lecturing you. As long as you are respectful, you are certainly entitled to speak up. If your gf is comfortable, do it together.

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There's this guy I really like at school. The problem is I don't even think he knows I exist. I'm not sure how to get his attention. I don't want to seem like a stalker. Do I just go up to him or what?

If the context is right, you can certainly go up and introduce yourself. That's not stalking. It's just being friendly. Do some homework and find out what he's interested in so you have something to discuss. Be a friend first and then see what happens.

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My father is an alcoholic. My bf does not realize that when he drinks even one drink it triggers me off. I apologize but the pattern continues. I don't want to lose my bf. I need some strategies please.

The best advice I can give you is to attend Alanon. They are people who have been through what you are experiencing. Obviously, you are projecting the issues with your father onto your bf. You already know this is not fair. Help yourself by letting others with experience help you.

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My mother-in-law is dating this loser. I've tried to point this out to my wife but she just says it's none of our business. I love my m-i-l and don't want to see her hurt. Do I just wait to pick up the pieces?

It seems there are forces at work from before you were with your wife that you may not know about. Regrettably, you just may have to take a "wait and see" approach. It certainly would seem your wife would want to protect her mother, but maybe she knows her mother will not listen. The only exception would be if you had concrete evidence.

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Hey guys. I’m getting really fat and idk how to start at the gym. I go to work 10hrs a day and after that, I really want to push myself but everytime I do, it would just sink in that I’m so tired and I wanted to rest instead. Any suggestions or insights? Much appreciated.

Most people don't realize that, while exercise is very important for your body and your brain, the real key to weight loss is nutrition. I would suggest consulting a registered dietician. That way you can get on the right track with a professional.

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My m-i-law keeps telling my husband what to do. He just shines her on but this really bugs me because she tries to do it to me too. He just ignores it but I start getting mad at him for not stopping her. What should I do?

Don't get in the middle between them, but absolutely have a serious talk with her. There's nothing wrong with standing up for yourself in a respectful fashion. It's important for your self esteem.

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Me and this girls been seeing each other for about 6 months. She's starting to put pressure on to take the relationship further. I've tried to say I need more time. I really like her and don't want to lose her. IDK. Advice?

Do NOT go further in the relationship unless you are ready. You can tell her that the pressure is really making you uncomfortable. If she continues, you probably are looking at the same kind of pressure you currently have, but intensified.

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This other couple's kids are out of control. We are pretty strict with ours. We like the couple but don't like being around their kids or have our kids around them. Is there a way to still see them socially without the whole kids thing?

Yes, there is. Just go out to fancy restaurants with them in the evening. That way they are not likely to spend money at a fancy restaurant with kids.

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My gf is really smart but she doesn't think she is. I try to encourage her but she always has a reason why she's not good enough. What can I do to make her see herself as others see her? She's so amazing.

You are dealing with the effects of a critical person in her younger life. All you can do is to keep encouraging her. It is hard to overcome growing up with criticism.

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Our cousin and her bf always make plans then change them This bugs both of us. I don't want to cut off the relationship but we're thinking about confronting them about always changing or bailing at the last minute. Should we do this? We don't want to lose them.

It really depends on which is more important to you, being with them or confronting them. If they change all the time, at least you know what you are dealing with. If you want to continue to see them, I'd just go with the flow.

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My dad wants me to be his best man. He's remarrying. I feel like this would be disrespectful to my mom. My dad says whatever I want to do is fine but now I'm worried I'm ruining it for him. I'm caught. What to do?

You are not being disrespectful to your mom. Obviously, you and your dad are close enough that he considers you his best man anyway. It's up to you, which is what your dad says. You can have a good relationship either way.

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