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My family is really well off. I never tell anyone I date because I don't want them to go out because of $$. My current gf found out. Now I'm worried. How do I know the real reason she stays with me?

Since she didn't know, the real key will be her behavior. If her behavior remains the same, stay with her. If not, the money has made a difference in her feelings.

How do you work out a relationship with two different races and religions? I heard it's almost impossible.

It's NEVER impossible, but it is hard. Seek professional help from someone who has experience in these type of situations. I've had several similar cases, so I know how hard it is on both people when others are tugging on them.

Can a couple still work things out if both cheated on the other?

Things can always be worked out if that is the true goal of both parties. That being said, it requires an extraordinary amount of work and commitment.

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Who gets to keep the ring if someone breaks off an engagement?

There is no one right answer. It was a gift, so most people understand that. There have been many court battles over this. Generally, it's still considered a simple gift and not an arrangement.

My grandma is an alcoholic so I'm super sensitive. My gf drinks more than I think she should. How do I approach that?

Explain your reasons honestly. Just because she drinks more than YOU think, does not make it a fact. It may be that you can't be with someone who drinks more than you should. You'll have to see what unfolds.

My bf checked me out on one of those sites that investigates people. He found nothing but this really upset me. Why didn't he trust me?

It's not that he didn't trust you, it's that he wanted to factually trust you. You should do the same. In this day and age, it never hurts to have as much information as possible in relationships.

I told this girl she had nice legs because she was an athlete. She reported me for harassment. I thought I was being nice. ???

Unfortunately, the world has become so polarized, you can no longer make certain comments, even if the intent was innocent. Your comment could, with certain people, be thought of as a gender-related microaggression.

My husband thinks anything about the kids is my responsibility since I'm the mother. I'm furious. What do other women do?

WTF? Is he living in the 1950's? You need to start setting boundaries. Let him do his own laundry, make his own meals, etc. Basically, go on strike with EVERYTHING.

My gf's family treats her like crap. I'd like to go off on them. Do I step in and defend her?

If she can't do it herself, do it together. Don't do it alone. You won't get anywhere.

Our son is 16. He wants to get his gf a Christmas gift. He wants us to pay for it. We don't care for her. What do we do?

It doesn't make any difference whether or not you like her. You should not have to pay for his gift. He's old enough to take responsibility but evidently not mature enough. This should be a lesson for him.

How do I get my bf to have better manners? As an example, he says it shouldn't make a difference which fork he uses.

He doesn't understand the image he's creating, and does not recognize the potential negative effect it could have on many aspects of his life.

I recently discovered that my bf spent 4 months in jail. He won't tell me why. He says it's all in the past. Now what?

"Now What" is bye bye. Unless he's willing to tell you what's going on, it's time to move on.

My gf does not give out compliments. I try to set an example by always complimenting her but she doesn't return it. Do I just come right out and tell her?

Since she doesn't get the hints, yes, you come right out and say it. Clearly, the way you've been doing it is not working. Change course.

My bf is not very romantic. How do I get him to change?

ask him to watch rom coms with you. eventually, he'll get the idea. If you think he's worth it, work with him.

My girlfriends have refused to throw me a bridal shower. They say it's because I don't realize what a jerk my guy is. I am so hurt. What do I tell them?

This is a hard one because if it's unanimous, there must be a reason. They are trying to protect you. Pay attention.

My parents have been married for 52 years. They are getting a divorce. I don't get it. I've never even seen them fight. Do I try to help?

No because you'll just get caught up in a very illogical situation. They have their reasons, I'm sure. Obviously, they weren't getting along for a VERY long time.

My gf is so disgusted with her parents she doesn't want to get them a Christmas gift. I'm trying to get her to see the long game and not blow up the relationship. Any ideas?

Validate her feelings about the situation, but keep emphasizing that she should not burn the bridge. It's so sad that people make family differences permanent walls.

It's a reversal but my gf of 2 months wants me to do "things" that I'm not comfortable doing. If I don't then she talks about my manhood. I love her but I don't' know how to handle this.

Just because you're a male, does NOT mean you should do things that you're not comfortable with. Stand your ground.

I'm 17. Why do my parents keep saying I don't know what real love is? It pisses me off.

Good question. I tell parents all the time not to say that. Admittedly, teen love is different than adult love, but it's love nonetheless.

My friends have told me my bf cheated on me. He swears he didn't and even has a video of him at a poker party at the time they said he was cheating. I don't know enough about tech to know if he can fake that. What do I do?

In this tech age, it's certainly possible. At some point you have to trust your heart. Your friends are trying to protect you. Do their facts add up? That's the question.

Why doesn't your app Love Shopping List match people? I thought that's the whole idea.

As our motto goes, its purpose is to empower individuals to make better relationship choices. The matching part will be another app.

My gf has decided to be identified as gender neutral. WTF is that all about and how does that affect our relationship?

She chooses not to be identified by gender. The easiest way to find out about your relationship is to simply ask how it affects your relationship. She's the best source of an answer.

We're married for 2 years. Neither set of parents speak to the other (some BS issue about our wedding). Now they're both having Christmas parties the same night at the same time. We think it's intentional. What do we do?

Either split your time, or let them no you're not coming to either. They are trying to put you both in the middle. Don't let that happen.

I'm about to get married. Why am I still questioning my decision? I think he's right but IDK.

Here is where our app, Love Shopping List, could be of great benefit. It will score your relationship and give you real life, real time information to empower you to make a good choice.

My gf is overweight according to her doctor. I tell her I love her but she questions why. She's upset with herself. How can I help?

You can only be supportive and keep telling her you love her. She needs professional help. Self-hatred is dangerous.


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