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Does pot really make an orgasm last longer?

Interestingly, the answer is a qualified "yes". But too much will make a non response.

We are two females. We just got separate invitations to a wedding. Shouldn't they have just addressed one to both of us since we are a couple?

Give the people the benefit of the doubt, and consider yourselves honored they have invited both of you. They probably just don't know exactly how to handle the situation.

My husband has been out of work for 2 years and just sits around and drinks. How can I help him?

First, he's probably suffering from depression. Ask softly if he'd be willing to talk to a professional either with you or alone. You absolutely have to go to Alanon for support for yourself.

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What does it mean when a girl says she "thinks" she loves you? Isn't it a yes or no thing? I'm confused.

No, it's not a simple yes or no thing. She has feelings, and she's trying to sort them out and make sense of them. Give her some space. If you push her too hard, it will be a for sure no.

I'm a 46 yo female. Me and my wife constantly argue but we really love each other. We want to stop the arguments but we don't know how.

You are both in fight mode. You need to switch to problem solving mode. Until you both give up trying to win, you will continue to argue.

Me and my husband have big fights over our son. Our son and his girlfriend are artists. My husband says our son is just copping out to life. This is really the only thing we argue about. What do we do?

Your husband is unaccepting that his son is an artist. If he is truly an artist or even a quasi-artist, it would be great if his parents could be his biggest cheerleaders - both of you.

My bf is obsessed with working out. I think he looks great the way he is. I need to know that he won't spend more and more time away from me and his family if we get married. How should this be handled?

There is no way to know. It needs to be discussed. And you are right to have doubts now.

My mom died about 7 years ago. My dad is now in a relationship and I really don't like her. I want to say something about the way she treats him but I don't know if that would help or hurt. What do you think?

I think you can GENTLY offer your father some of your observations, but I would definitely not "say something". He needs time and space to get back into dating.

Is it ok to be in a relationship not to be alone? Some people say that's not a good reason.

It can be one of the reasons, but it should not be the only reason. It's not healthy for the relationship for a person to be needy.

I just got out of a long relationship and I feel really vulnerable right now. This guy I met would like to take me out but IDK. I'm worried about a rebound relationship. How do I figure this out?

Don't go if you feel too vulnerable. Just explain that you would love for him to take you out, but you just need a little time since you're coming off a relationship. If he's any good, he'll understand and respect you.

This guy I've been going out with has kind of a regular type job. I've met his parents and they are like regular middle class, but this guy has a whole bunch of REALLY nice things and takes me really nice places. When I ask he just smiles. This makes me really nervous. What do I do?

You absolutely need to do your due diligence and find out what's going on. You don't want to get heavily involved and then find out something you really don't want to know.

Me and my husband split up for about 3 months. He went out with somebody and won't tell me who. He says we were split so all bets are off. I think it's cheating. Is it?

Sorry, he's right. You are split up, so all bets are off

I like to cook. My gf says it's my fault she's put on weight. I've tried just giving her smaller portions but she goes back for more. Do I just stop cooking altogether for now?

That's BS. She's just using you as an excuse. Yes, stop cooking for her, but tell her it's just an excuse.

My gf keeps delaying me meeting her parents. This is after 6 months. Do I just keep going out or what? Makes me feel she's embarrassed or something.

If you feel strongly about it, you need to set a deadline and explain that if they are her family you really want to meet them. You need to find out the reason for the delay

Our best friends couple split up. Now they're both mad at us because we won't take sides WTF? What do we do now?

don't do anything. It will be worse if you try to get in the middle.

Are there ways to know if someone is using drugs without actually testing them? Me an my bf are gay. I suspect he's using but he keeps saying no but he acts like he's stoned all the time. I don't want to live with him if he is.

There is no way to actually confirm it without testing. You might find evidence of drugs, but you can't completely know. He could always come up with an excuse for a pipe or anything else. The only other possibility is that someone who did drugs with him tells you.

No matter what I say or do my gf is ALWAYS late. It really bothers me to the point I'm thinking about break up. Any suggestions?

Explain to her that it's a matter of respect. Use an "I" statement.
When you are always late, it makes me feel like you have no respect for my time and that whatever you're doing is more important. I need you to make a bigger effort to be on time.

My gf is really smart but she is scared to go back to school because she thinks she's dumb. How do I get her to see how smart she really is? It really makes me sad that she puts herself down all the time.

She should talk to a professional with expertise in educational psychology. That will definitely help. Just keep being her cheerleader.

I'm going with this really great guy. The only problem is he's constantly in debt. I've tried getting him to cut back spending but he just says not tow worry about it. Am I headed for trouble?

Yes, you're headed for trouble. Keep in mind that if you decide to get married, you inherit all his debt.

I'm a workout nut. I started dating this girl and she started working out too but then quit. I've explained that it's really important we both stay in shape but she won't listen. What do I do?

It sounds like staying in shape is on your "A" list of things. It doesn't mean you're right or she's right. It just means you're not a match.

Me and my gf got caught by the cops in the backseat in a parking lot. The cops were cool but she now says it's too embarrassing and we have to break up. I don't know what to do.

The way it should be handled is that after the embarrassment the two of you laugh about it and move on. You are not the first couple to have that happen. The cops were probably laughing, too, because they've been there. If she's still freaked, you'll have to move on.

My bf is 18. All of a sudden he's gotten bigger. I've asked if he's taking steroids but he swears he's not and he's just working out harder. Is there a way to find out?

It certainly is possible at that age to put on a goodly amount of muscle mass with really intense workouts and the proper diet. Do you really want to go the route of insisting he get a blood test? If you don't trust him, you should probably not be with him.

My good friend broke up with her bf. She's started cutting herself. I've tried talking with her but it don't help. What do I do?

This is not something an untrained person should be handling. She needs to be in the hands of a highly skilled professional. If you two are teenagers, you should go to her parents. If you're over 18, tell her you'll go with her. There are deeper issues here and not anything you'd be able to handle on your own.

Me and this guy are both in our late 20's and both have been divorced for about 4 years. People say we're just together on the rebound but it doesn't feel that way. How do I know if they're right?

It's amazing how many people give advice without being professionally trained. It will take a professional to really help you decide. A good couples' therapist would be wise.

My bf's parents are born agains. I don't judge but they do. They keep telling him that he has to dump me because I won't be born again. It makes me furious. What do I do?

As long as your bf is with you, he's choosing you over his parents. That's the only thing you need to know. Just always be respectful when you're around them. It's their issue.


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