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Why are so many people depressed nowadays?

Its Abi Malik
It is inevitable for a human being to trend towards depression. Reference anxiety makes us feel as if what we have is not enough, and our pursuit for more in life is what feeds our insatiable desire.
Chase not the money, nor the fame, nor any materialistic object- more than anything, you should be chasing relationships. Having healthy relationships with others and settling for less is the key to happiness.
Are we more depressed nowadays, or did we simply lack documentation of the mental disorder a few centuries ago? Depression becomes more apparent in places like present day America (where I live) simply because people are inclined to the American Dream, while the harsh reality of capitalism eats at their soul. Expectations, realizations, and feelings all come together to bring the depression we all wish we never had.
Do not chase excess amounts of money. Do not refer yourself to others. But most importantly, do not give up on finding the right humans. Long-lasting, fulfilling relationships are the catalyst to happiness.

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What does it mean to be wise? Are wisdom and intelligence the same thing to you? If yes, why? If not, please explain the difference. What makes someone wise? What makes them intelligent? Can someone be both? Which do you think you are? (Both is acceptable :P ) (Spam 7) Thanks for answering!

Erin Wolf
I really should be sleeping, but upon reading certain questions, I gained the desire to answer.
My perspective on the two words is as follows:
Intelligence - how fast you can adapt to situations and make adjustments to suit specific needs
Wisdom - an application of your actions based on past experience
To put it bluntly, wisdom and intelligence are two different things (to me), hence why they have two different words to describe and understand.
Of course someone can be wise and intelligent- in the same way someone can be neither.
People can be wise but not intelligent. You will see that in many cases when it comes to expertise/profession- people that practice decades in their field will be far more wise than someone that has no exposure. However, that does not mean that they are intelligent, as their learning efficiency is not being assessed.
People can be intelligent but not wise. For example, Albert Einstein. In grade school, he failed his math class because he lacked wisdom per se in the subject, but in no way does that mean he was not intelligent.
The main way to assess someone’s intelligence is to see how they adapt to new situations, but even then it may be an assessment of wisdom, as they might be able to apply past strategies to whatever the situation may be (basically connecting the dots). This is why intelligence is so hard to assess, albeit being a real, fundamental concept.
In a way, personally, I feel as if it takes intelligence to apply your wisdom adequately, but it does not take wisdom to apply intelligence.
With that said, I feel as if I am both intelligent and wise, but more wise than intelligent (debatable, as the prior paragraph holds some conflicting feelings).
Thank you for the interesting question.

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For how long are you familiar with your best friend?

I’ve been familiar with them since their declaration of sparring with me one day,
Beyond my fateful confession of love’s flutters,
Long enough for the bruises and cuts to heal,
Past the worries of infatuation,
Through our starry nights with tears of joy,
Past the doubts of faith in a single soul,
Through my arrogance and my pride,
Hurdled against our failures and despair.
Through our diary, the length of two hundred and forty two pages,
Of undying love and purity.
Past their special day- the birth of my reason to exist,
Our 11:11 wishes to bless our souls,
And our countless calls where we slept together.
Through my Christmas carol that they don’t remember.
Past our New Year’s promise that made life possible,
And past more hardships that seemed uncrossable.
In other words, I have been familiar with my best friend (quite a strong word) for years.
⭐️•⭐️•⭐️•⭐️•⭐️•⭐️•⭐️•⭐️•⭐️
Add a ring that gives me wings,
Add your smile every mile,
And I will fly straight to you.
It’s as you said- one step at a time, and we’ll get closer over time. Except we’ve taken thousands, and I’m willing to take a thousand more.
“Far apart but close at heart”
Our diary’s motto played its part.
11:11, here you are-
There’s no doubt, not one doubt, as I make my wish and let it cry out.
However, something I will tell you directly, from my heart to yours, is something I won’t rely on a wish for:
Katrina, I’ll marry you one day.
So, wait for your Hikoboshi- wait for Shinchi.
My dear best friend,
Soulmate.
Girlfriend...
Loli?
Right. You are all of those and more-
You are my everything.
I love you, my everything.

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Do you agree that love lasts for the first few years, then it turns into a habit?

Its Abi Malik
I do not agree.
What you are referring to is the romance in love. Romance is no exception to conditioning and a human’s ability to adapt, meaning that regardless of your methods, the romance in love technically should weaken as time passes.
However, love exists in more forms than that.
Sexual love, platonic love, unconditional love- they all come with their own, unique feelings. If you can learn to identify them and not take them for granted, then those feelings will adhere for much longer than if they were to run on their own.
But who am I to say? I have been in love with a girl since late 2017, the same girl that has been with me for over a year now, and I still love her just as strongly, if not stronger.
So, what I say comes from prior experience, and I cannot back up my statement with my current relationship just yet.
I believe that love dies off when people take it for granted. Love is not a reward, nor is it something that can be controlled, but it is something that can be taken care of and appreciated, like a child.
I believe that love’s lifespan depends on you, while mutualism (a relationship) depends on both.

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Final question: What did you think of the questions? Were they to your liking? Did you feel like they were engaging or interesting? Should they be more or less open-ended? Do you have a preferred format or length for questions? How many questions should there be in a "spam"? Thank!! (spam 4)

Erin Wolf
Questions were too direct. It felt as if they were targeting a specific audience. I think they’re fine- just not my cup of tea.
In a spam? A spam is called a spam for a reason- run wild to your heart’s content, and it someone has an issue, they can tell you.

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Ooh, see now things get interesting. Do you consider yourself a moral/ethical relativist? I've honestly quickly become dissatisfied with many people for their "feel good" actions, in that they do things not to do good but to feel good regardless of the real results, or lack thereof, of their actions

Erin Wolf
No idea.
Never have I taken a philosophy class. The only thing I research on my own time is astrophysics, time, general relativity, et cetera.
But based on what I skimmed off Google, I would say a moral relativist. Ethical relativist seems correct, but it seems as if it... eh... does not oppose moral relativist views? It is true that society influences the morality of people, but it is also true that there is no set standard for morality itself.
Feel free to teach me what you know.

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+4 answers in: “What is the meaning of life?”

And you strike with another inspiring female character, namely one Kurisu Makise XD You have good tastes, Nora.

Erin Wolf
Makise Kurisu is my favorite anime character and one of my inspirations to this date.
No surprise that I would feature her on my page as often as possible.

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+1 answer in: “I find it interesting that you use Okami-San, CC, and Chihiro as mainstay pictures on your account. Do they hold some significant meaning to you?”

How is reality subjective?

I have to go. Hardly the time for this.
“My reality” refers to the result of an individual’s experiences that define how they observe life today.
I can see what you mean about reality in retrospect. But that is not the case. The comparison was “my reality” and “life”, not “reality” and “life”.
Let’s not make this complicated.

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+4 answers in: “What is the meaning of life?”

Could you make it sound less like I've died in a not so "heroic" battle? I'm not surviving. I'm living. Life changed, emotions radiate.

Hirato
From the man himself.
Whoever @Hirato_kun ’s admirer was, the man is on his way to adulthood- living his best life.
If you are to miss him, then either miss him quietly or catch the train because he does not plan on staying.

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+3 answers in: “What keeps you here on ask.fm? Even though a few of people you mentioned before deleted their accounts. Ask will never be the same”

I find it interesting that you use Okami-San, CC, and Chihiro as mainstay pictures on your account. Do they hold some significant meaning to you?

Erin Wolf
Ōkami simply reminds me of my arrogant, prideful phase in life.
CC taught me that it is best to love at a distance- the profile picture was active when I was in acceptance that I lost someone dear to my heart.
Chihiro was due to an infatuation I had with some kid that had the same exact picture.
So, for the most part, meaningful? But Chihiro is just hanging around in all honesty.

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I agree with your sentiment that life doesn't have any particularly inherent meaning. Granted, nihilism can also have some kind drive to it, in its own way, I suppose. Too often I see people trying to give others THEIR meaning of life like it is the ONLY meaning of life, which simply isn't right.

Erin Wolf
I agree to it not being “right”.
And while the topic is at hand, I might as well do a mini-rant.
Right, wrong. In general, those are the opinions I really cannot deal with.
“I hurt him, but only because I was defending myself.”
Was it right of me to hurt him or was it wrong?
“You pass someone in the street who is in severe need and you are able to help them at little cost to yourself.”
Are you morally obliged to do so?
Then my History teacher is all like, “Who was worse? Hitler or Stalin?” Or “Is Hitler a bad guy?”
I find morality the most pointless shit in the world simply because it consists of two or more idiots fighting to get their sense of justice across to the other. Might as well take the easy route in life and go with majority.
Save yourself a few cases in court and follow the rules.
But this is also why I use ASKfm- to give people a dose of reality.

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+4 answers in: “What is the meaning of life?”

What is the meaning of life?

Life has no meaning. There is no purpose behind
the sadness we fake,
the breaths that we take,
or the things that we make
Unless we give it one.
Life, as it stands, is objective.
Reality, as we observe, is subjective.
Therefore, I can only truly tell you the meaning of my reality.
The meaning of my reality is to have a future with Katrina. More than anything, I want to provide her with a happy family, a comfortable place to live, a safe haven in my arms, and a peaceful life.
Who gave me this meaning? No one other than myself,
The lone observer of my reality.

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Btw do you know why Lily deleted her account? Seems like you both communicated. She never left any contacts of her. And no matter how I tried I couldn't find her anywhere on social medias.

What does it matter?
Like Hirato, she is gone. Leave her be. If she comes back, then she comes back. If not, then accept that.

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+3 answers in: “What keeps you here on ask.fm? Even though a few of people you mentioned before deleted their accounts. Ask will never be the same”

What keeps you here on ask.fm? Even though a few of people you mentioned before deleted their accounts. Ask will never be the same

Rae is gone.
Hirato is gone.
Andy is gone.
Katherine is gone.
Katrina is gone (mostly).
Lily is gone.
Kaylon is gone.
Mia is gone.
Saku is gone.
Kami is gone.
Yuuki is gone.
Yori is gone.
All of these people that I met on this website and valued at some point are now gone.
Why am I still here you ask? Is that not obvious?
Because I use this app for myself, not others.
I will leave it permanently when I want to leave it permanently. As long as people keep challenging my mind and providing me with unique, powerful questions, I doubt the day of my departure will ever come.
Not only that, but people I value, like @Summerthoughts , are still on this website. I would not leave them behind without a proper goodbye.

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I hear you, I’m grateful to you. Even though you didn’t need to answer, you did. Even though you have life happening to you, you cared to wish me luck on my own road. I can’t see you, I don’t know actually anything about you, but what your words to me make me feel is love and a wise soul behind them

I might be heartless, but deep down inside, I am still human.
Love and patience will almost always be met with love and patience.

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+1 answer in: “🌹 ”I read your posts” I just ”found you” today but your account or diary as you like to say already inspired me to learn more English, cause you have such a gift on expressing yourself throw writing. But really it’s not about the language or even words... it’s the actions behind that you have made”

🌹Mind is beautiful, it allows us to think, question and explore, so I ask you Nora... How would you define a thought? Could you change your life situation better by your thoughts that you give power? - And how you see intelligence? What is it to you? 🌹

Rohkea Ruusu
A thought is an opportunity. It makes us capable of understanding, setting us apart from any other animal in the world.
A thought is something that propels us forward. It makes us capable of reasoning, setting us apart from any other animal in the world.
Thoughts are mankind’s ultimate weapon behind any force that opposes. Steadfast, crafty thinking enables you to oppose evil with a weapon greater than guns.
Power is not in the words, nor is it in the intimidation that you throw at someone. Power is not in the muscles that people flex, nor is it in the rich and wealthy.
Power stems from the mind. Power is how effectively you shape your reality to your liking. I could, and I am attempting to, make my life better with my thoughts. But even thoughts cannot make it happen overnight. Some plans take time, and you have to be willing to see them through.
If you wish to bring change, you also have to be willing to sacrifice, no matter how big or small the sacrifice. Without sacrifice, nothing will be changed.
Intelligence to me is not the grades on your paper. It is the ability to think on your feet when it matters most.
Intelligence is the trolley question. Your best friend is tied to one railroad track. 100 people are tied to another. You have the switch to control which track the train goes on. Would you pull the switch and save your best friend? Or would you sacrifice your best friend for 100 people?
Intelligence is finding your answer, regrettable or not, swiftly.

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