Do you identify as something other then cis- gendered heterosexual male? You very clearly care about social justice issues, so I thought that viewpoint coming from someone who identifies inside the social norm to be special.

This is...complex for me to answer.
Growing up, I learned to associate a lot of habits, behaviors, and preferences in very heteronormative ways - boys like X, girls like Y, and ne'er the two shall meet, unless you're gay. I know, I'm ashamed of my ignorance, but that's basically what it was. My headspace was kinda fucked up.
But in the last...year, I guess? I've questioned a LOT of assumptions, both about myself and how the world around us defines and compartmentalizes certain things, as well as my perception of it. Breaking down what I know, I was assigned male at birth, have always been treated like a boy which doesn't feel alien or "wrong" to me, and I am interested in women as romantic/sexual partners. By definition I think that makes me cis-gendered heterosexual male, though I admittedly should probably research these concepts more for my own education's sake. Feel free to correct me if I'm off the mark here!
Where it gets hairy is dealing with those assumptions I mentioned - there are a lot of things that are generally regarded as masculine which I really dislike, and a lot of things generally regarded as feminine which I really like. Not simply as "things which I find pleasing" from an external viewpoint, like turn-ons - but things which I find "internally" attractive - that by adopting these things, I improve upon my self-expression in a positive way. And it may just be that childhood programming messing with me, but that fact gives me pause when it comes to affirming the typical identity marker noted above. I certainly think that many of these preferences are somewhat needlessly gendered in binary ways, and I obviously don't think that gender identity is so shallow as to be governed by a set of expression preferences...but I'm not sure that those same preferences don't factor into or influence one's identity either.
So in short, I dunno? I hope this all makes sense. I do try to be cognizant of SJ issues in part *because* I am inside the social norm, or at least the perceived social norm; people matter and just because I'm not directly part of group X doesn't mean I can't care about them and making the world just a little bit better for their sake.

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