Ask @Nullzone42:

Do you identify as something other then cis- gendered heterosexual male? You very clearly care about social justice issues, so I thought that viewpoint coming from someone who identifies inside the social norm to be special.

This is...complex for me to answer.
Growing up, I learned to associate a lot of habits, behaviors, and preferences in very heteronormative ways - boys like X, girls like Y, and ne'er the two shall meet, unless you're gay. I know, I'm ashamed of my ignorance, but that's basically what it was. My headspace was kinda fucked up.
But in the last...year, I guess? I've questioned a LOT of assumptions, both about myself and how the world around us defines and compartmentalizes certain things, as well as my perception of it. Breaking down what I know, I was assigned male at birth, have always been treated like a boy which doesn't feel alien or "wrong" to me, and I am interested in women as romantic/sexual partners. By definition I think that makes me cis-gendered heterosexual male, though I admittedly should probably research these concepts more for my own education's sake. Feel free to correct me if I'm off the mark here!
Where it gets hairy is dealing with those assumptions I mentioned - there are a lot of things that are generally regarded as masculine which I really dislike, and a lot of things generally regarded as feminine which I really like. Not simply as "things which I find pleasing" from an external viewpoint, like turn-ons - but things which I find "internally" attractive - that by adopting these things, I improve upon my self-expression in a positive way. And it may just be that childhood programming messing with me, but that fact gives me pause when it comes to affirming the typical identity marker noted above. I certainly think that many of these preferences are somewhat needlessly gendered in binary ways, and I obviously don't think that gender identity is so shallow as to be governed by a set of expression preferences...but I'm not sure that those same preferences don't factor into or influence one's identity either.
So in short, I dunno? I hope this all makes sense. I do try to be cognizant of SJ issues in part *because* I am inside the social norm, or at least the perceived social norm; people matter and just because I'm not directly part of group X doesn't mean I can't care about them and making the world just a little bit better for their sake.

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As you've become more open with how you present yourself to the world, how have you found that's affected you?

Well, certainly I think it makes me a happier person. A friend recently commented as much, too, that I seemed happier in the last few months.
It also has a sort of cyclical effect, in that being more comfortable with my own self helps me be more understanding and sensitive to others' presentation, which makes me more comfortable with myself too.
It doesn't come without its challenges, though; having had long-standing and poorly constructed ideas through childhood of what certain things represent or mean as it relates to gender identity, being at a point where many of those things are being challenged (by myself or others around me) means that the identity construct breaks down and calls into question how I am defined (other than just simply "I am me", which is sufficient but hard to reconcile with other people; self-definition is as much a benefit for those around you as it is for yourself, I feel).

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Is a life long relationship enough, or do you think you'd want to get married?

Given the right circumstances, I think at some point I'd probably propose marriage, but I don't need that level of institutionalized ceremony to remain committed. Proposing I think makes my desires and intentions clear enough - I love them and want to spend the rest of my life with them. Foregoing or rejecting the institution doesn't change that, if my partner is uncomfortable with it then I'm happy with a life long relationship outside of marriage itself.
To be honest, I'm not sure *I'm* entirely comfortable with the institution, as it has a lot of baggage that comes with it in terms of maintaining one's identity as something other than "your partner's spouse" to the outside world, particularly for a woman. I would still propose though, at least in the sense of stating the commitment, if not proceeding with the ceremony. It just feels like the right thing to do, if you really reach that point in a relationship.

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