How attached are you to your devices? Could you go 24 hours without access to any online networks?
Yeah easily. In fact I occasionally do, sometimes longer than 24 hours.
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For my Ask page rheme I use the bottle green/British Racing Green colour, but it means I see everyone’s profile in that colour. It’d be nice to see others’ profiles in the colour they picked imo. Anyway - what colour do you use for your Ask profile?
I went with the slate grey
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Have you read The Human Factor by Graham Greene? It's excellent, and may specifically interest you if you've lived in South Africa and now live in Britain.
Greene was a classic spy thriller writer, and that's a genre that doesn't really interest me. I'm always a bit hesitant to read books set in southern Africa written by people who haven't spent extensive time there. Even then, writers tend to overly romanticize what it's like to live there. For anyone who likes a bit of fantasy/mystical element in their stories and realistic slice of Africa, I'd suggest The Girl With The Magic Hands by Nnedi Okorafor. Thanks for the recommendation though, I'll add it to my list of books I should read.
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Is it ok for a 23 year old woman to play with Bratz dolls?
She's not hurting anyone and it makes her happy, so yeah it's ok.
Why would someone sending you a gift be a creepy if you'd been pen pals? My pen pal and I often send each other small gifts. Why is there such suspicion over nice gestures :/
A lot of people see gifts of jewelry in particular as something reserved for close family or has romantic intentions. So when the gift giver and receiver are from very different cultures then it's not such an odd thing to question.
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I had a south African teacher through my high school years who then became penpals with me and sent me beaded jewelry from South Africa when he graduated, is that the culture there or was he a creeper
Beaded jewelry and trinkets is a common gift given to friends and family. Depending on how many of these he sent, I would say you were either a favourite student and friend, or if it was a particularly large quantity then probably a creeper. African culture doesn't always mix well with western/european culture. If he didn't make any romantic interests perfectly clear, then I would say he valued your friendship and nothing more.
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After you moved to Scotland, did you make any trips back to South Africa?
I went for my dad's funeral, then again to visit family. Mom and I stopped over for a few days earlier this year on our way to Australia.
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Oh, do you have a hybrid accent? I hope so. I quite like both South African and Scottish accents so I imagine a mix would be quite pleasing! haha
I've always had a hynrid accent, but apparently it's leaning more to the Scottish side these days. Though I still occasionally swear in Afrikaans or Zulu lol
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Wait, you're from South Africa? Or your parents are?
My dad's family are mostly South African, my mom's family are mostly Scottish. I was born there and moved to Scotland when I was 11
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have you ever had a woman make the first move or are you usually the one to initiate things?
Most of the time the other person has made the first move because I had no idea they were intetested. I have made the first move a couple times though, can't say I'm very good at it lol
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Were your parents pretty open minded? I ask this bc you seem way more so than most other people over 30 I've interacted with. Most seem to still be hanging on to stereotypes. Young people always get trashed for being narcisstic etc but some of the older gens are so bad re racism/sexism/homophobia
My parents were very open minded, which during Apartheid was a bit unusual. They encouraged me to be friends with anyone I wanted, which was borderline illegal in a few cases. My dad worked with an Indian man, and invited the guy and his family around for dinner. This socializing wasn't strictly illegal, but many white people had been fined under the immorality act for doing the same. I think I was about 4 at the time, and the guys daughter was 3. Anyway we got on great and the dads joked that they would split the legal repercussions if we got married. Aside from the joke, I know my parents would have happily faced any legal repercussions. I also spent a lot of time on my uncles farm, where I had meals with the zulu workers and hung out with them all day. My parents were very much of the mindset that everyone is entitled to happiness as long as they aren't harming others. Things like colour, sexual orientation, religion and all the other differences meant bugger all to them. A good person comes in all kinds of varitied. I'm pretty lucky really. My grandparents (mom's parents) were not like that at all. They were kinda judgemental arseholes. At least my gran was when the old git was around, she was ok otherwise.
What signals would you need to realize that someone wanted to date you?
I'm usually oblivious so I prefer it if the person just says so.
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That's enough! I actually love watches - the technical and the aesthetic but in the age of mobile phones, there seems to be less people wearing them.
I like watches, I have a few. My dad's watch and my great grandfathers and a couple of others. I just don't like wearing them. The only clock I regularly use is the one in my car.
Do you wear a watch?
Nope. Don't know what else I can say.
What names would you give to your pygmy goats, fox, dogs and/or cat?
I have a love of ridiculous pet names. Naming a fox Rooster tickles me. The dogs would be Sir Barklington and Lady Howlsworth. Cats should be named after fictional characters, like Yoda, so I'd name my next one Captain Kirk or Logan. Goats need goat based pun names, like Spice Goat or maybe I need four of them named after the Ghostbusters and call them the Goatbusters. Need to think about that one more
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What kind of pet would you like to have in the future?
One of those pygmy goats or a fox along with a couple of dogs and probably a cat lol
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Man, how many exes would you say you have, you lothario, you!
Eight ex's, though not all of them were serious relationships. Some didn't last very long, others lasted years. And I tend to spend quite a while being single inbetween. So I wouldn't say I was a lothario, I've never jumped from partner to partner. My ex's meant a lot to me, even the non-serious ones. Of course there's nothing wrong with an active and varied live life as long as everyone involved is fine with it.
Have you stayed friends with any of your exes? I have and I'm surprised its seen as unusual.
I haven't, but not on purpose. Life tends to drift people apart. I wouldn't mind catching up with one or two to see how they're doing, others I'm completely ok with not having them in my life anymore.
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Have you ever been in love? If you have, tell me the story of how you came to realise that you were in fact in love with this person. Be as detailed or as blunt as need be, I'm just curious ?
What drew us together was our spontaneous and adventurous natures. So many people around us at the time were so boring, needing a week to plan a trip to buy milk. I'm not sure I can pinpoint the exact moment I fell for her. Possibly around the time she sent me a mini note book filled with soppy poems, especially as she wasn't comfortable disclosing her feelings. She chose to tell me that she loved me when I was asleep, I occasionally talk in my sleep so my reply was " Purple apples are really really cool". I can be quite poetic at times. As it turns out, she loved the married guy who worked across from her home more. Looking back now, I loved her dearly but we just weren't right for each other.
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Just finished reading the q & a's about "married man/affair" and found them really interesting. Wish that anon wasn't anon so I could ask her some questions! I totally agree with you about the person in a relationship being the one who needs to police themselves but society seems to blame the other?
Yeah. We humans have these things called free will and self control. It's the attached person who chooses to cheat, no-one else is responsible.
Who let the dogs out? Who? Who? Who? Who?
Well Mr Burns gives the order, but it's Smithers that actually releases them
When you are in someone's house, whether it be a friend or acquaintance, and you use the bathroom, do you look inside any of the cupboards/cabinets?
Nope, people keep some weird shit in their cupboards
Do you think chokers on girls look attractive?
They can do
"More time for painting, writing and friends" That sounds heavenly! I would love to work a 4 day week (& get paid for 5 haha). I just dont have enough time for friends and hobbies and doing nothing :(
Doing nothing is the worst possible way to spend time for me. Unfortunately health restictions often mean the best I can do is nothing.
What’s the worst you’ve seen someone screw up on social media?
Every time Trump goes on Twitter I think he's finally hit bottom, then he keeps getting worse.
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