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Im planning to make my protagonist the son of the "primary" antagonist, a dark ruler. However, he always wants to treat him out and cares deeply. However, his son doesn't want to be evil. Is this a bad character design?

It seems to be a little over-simplistic. Why do they think of themselves as evil/dark, rather than as just doing what needs to be done or as the ones who know better than the ignorant masses or somesuch?

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What if you're genuinely hurt, and trying to tell them so, but the person accuses you of being a pathetic bully. How do you know whether you're really a pathetic bully or whether they are actually one, but projecting it onto you, and what do you do.

These pages are relevant:
http://www.springhole.net/other/how-to-recognize-a-moral-abuser.htm
http://www.springhole.net/other/how-to-recognize-gaslighting.htm
http://www.springhole.net/writing/spot-and-handle-parasitic-roleplayers.htm
Read the pages through, and especially read the parts on running a self-check. Spend some time reflecting on your behavior versus what this person expects you to do. As yourself how you'd feel if someone treated you or your friends the way you've been treating this person. Ask yourself how you'd feel if this person treated your friends the way they've been treating you.
I hope that helps. It's not always easy to tell whether one is the problem or not, so I wish you the best of luck.

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Can you give me tips for how to write a story set in the past?

Research the time period. Don't assume anything you know so far about it is absolutely true. Don't assume that anything people to today that you take for granted, is what people used to do back then. Don't assume that because something was legally permissible, meant it was common practice. Written language wasn't necessarily spoken language. Question any source that makes it out that the past was either super-amazing or horrifically grimdark.
I hope that helps!

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Regarding your last tip in your article More Tips For Portraying Believable, Functional, & Healthy Relationships, if the character has an internal flaw and is not a bad or broken character, can they become lovers after the friend helps them break out of this flaw in regards to character arc?

Sure! Nothing wrong with that! Have you seen this article? It goes into that kind of thing a little: http://www.springhole.net/writing/building-up-romances.htm

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I get why the best way to show that characters are non-white is through cultural markers, but I don't see how that can be done in a fantasy world that doesn't take place on Earth. I can code in elements of culture that readers of various backgrounds can relate to, and I can show humanoids with (1/2)

(2/2) different skin colors, but it wouldn't make sense to imply that those things have anything to do with each other. How do I say clearly "this character looks Asian" without breaking immersion or implying that they ARE Asian?
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You might take it down to the elements of what these particular people are supposed to look like: their skin color, eye color, hair color and texture, and the presence of epicanthic folds, if applicable.

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Joining the apparently popular lately discussion about mental bonding... I used a similar premise in a story I wrote but I replaced with telepatic link. The dragons are incapable of speech so they communicate by telepathy. It's hard to achieve, so at first the dragon has a link with only one person

(cont) that relies xir words to others and with time and practice the level can be reached where the dragon is able to quickly form temporary links to anyone to communicate. Many choose to keep permanent links with people they like (kinda like having your friend on speed dial) and between each other(cont) that relies xir words to others and with time and practice the level can be reached where the dragon is able to quickly form temporary links to anyone to communicate. Many choose to keep permanent links with people they like (kinda like having your friend on speed dial) and between each other (cont) dragons communicate freely as they all can use telepathy. This way I kept the fun stuff (talking via their minds) but down on most of the creepiness. Propably not a perfect solution, but I consider it good enough. Thoughts?
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I think it works! The dragons have meaningful free will in the matter, so yeah.

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I think a predator may have labeled me a pest. The smart thing to do would be to disengage, but unfortunately, they are near a place I have already put a lot of time and effort into, and people I have already built relationships with.

That's really awful. Is it possible you might be able to interact with the people you've built up relationships with in a different community or over DMs, or something?

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Psychic animal/human mental bonding, like in Eragon and Pern is one of my favorite genres! How could I improve it to make it less offensive? I know of a book that perfectly reverses this concept and shows why it's unfair, with humans, The Wild Boy by Warren Rochelle.

So the thing with bonding is that it has some disturbing ramifications that (as far as I know) aren't really acknowledged as such in their respective universes. I'm going to use dragons as a specific example for this.
One issue is that sentient beings are placed into a lifelong partnership/bond with someone at infancy. They don't have the chance to grow up and experience the world for themselves before making this commitment, let alone deciding whether they /want/ it.
Another issue is that these relationships are usually very one-sided in favor of the non-dragon's agendas. The dragons are sentient beings, yet their lives ultimately revolve around serving the needs of humans (and/or other humanoids) without a whole lot of choice in the matter.
So - with these uncomfortable implications in mind, you might try thinking up some alternative approaches that avoid them, and write them down. You might find these articles useful:
http://springhole.net/writing/how-to-get-ideas-for-your-story-setting-character.htm
http://www.springhole.net/writing/mistakes-writers-make-when-trying-to-avoid-cliches.htm
As you develop ideas or think about what other authors have done with bonds before, you might also try and imagine a situation where the positions of the dragons and the humanoids were reversed - this often makes it easier to spot imbalances and other weirdnesses. Look and see if things start looking a little odd or disturbing. Also, imagine if the same kinds of things going on between all humans, and see if you can spot anything off there. Take notes of anything odd you find, and then start thinking of alternatives and writing them down.
I hope that helps!

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Why does unsolicited advice make people so angry? If someone gives me advice that doesn't apply to me, I just acknowledge it, but then ignore it and do what I was going to do anyway.

While it's easy to do that sometimes, after it happens for so long it can get very nerve-wracking. It's a bit like having somebody constantly invade your personal space without permission.

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Is wish fulfillment roleplay and writing, such as having a character with lots of cool powers, really rich, or really attractive all that bad? Aren't several books that follow these patterns successful anyway? Is this a stage of writing we all go through? Is it harmful, or just simply boring?

Okay, to answer each question...
"Is wish fulfillment roleplay and writing, such as having a character with lots of cool powers, really rich, or really attractive all that bad?"
It depends. Are you writing it in a way that will be genuinely entertaining and interesting for your target audience/other players in the game? Or are you just putting in whatever you think is fun without any regard for anyone else's enjoyment? The problem with most wish fulfillment is that authors fail to do it in a way that's genuinely fun for anyone but themselves.
"Aren't several books that follow these patterns successful anyway?"
Which ones do you have in mind?
"Is this a stage of writing we all go through? Is it harmful, or just simply boring?"
Many young writers start out this way, yes. They don't really grasp that there's often a huge difference between what's personally satisfying to write and what's going to genuinely entertain other people. What they do isn't harmful, and there's nothing wrong with writing a wish fulfillment story to entertain yourself and a few friends. Where it becomes a problem is when they don't realize that in order to entertain *other* people, they need to take other people's expectations and tastes into account.
So, writers who write wish fulfillment stories are mostly harmless, but they are setting themselves up for disappointment if they don't learn to take what what their target audience wants and expects into consideration.
With roleplayers, it's not so harmless. People who design characters simply for their own wish fulfillment while discounting what everyone else wants will ruin the game. Here are some examples:
1. Players who give their characters preternatural beauty powers so that characters they want to ship with will /have/ to fall in love with them, regardless of what these characters' players want.
2. Players who make their characters so powerful that they can solve every problem with no effort, leaving everybody else with nothing interesting to do with their own characters.
3. Players who make their characters so powerful that they can bully everybody else's characters into submission whenever they try to do something they don't like.
I hope that answers your questions!

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Is it feasible to make my fantasy elves as a race look latino when their culture has nothing to do with real latino cultures? Even if some live in forests or different climate? I just don't want the 'standard' tall, pale, fair haired elven race.

Yes, this is perfectly feasible, especially if they live in a warmer and sunnier part of the world. This map can give you a rough idea of what kind of complexions you might find in various climates: https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Mercator_style_projection_map_showing_human_skin_color_according_to_Biasutti_1940.png

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Can there be a reasonable way to have a fantasy race/ethnic group that's known for dark-colored skin and blonde/golden hair? I liked the idea when I first came up with it but now I worry if it's not too contrived...

I read the article on predators and I'd previously been thinking of writing a character who's kind of known for being hard to amuse (like people tell jokes and she just stares blankly). How do I not make her seem like a predator?

An apparent lack of a sense of humor on its own can mean a lot of things, so it's not necessarily a problem here. Unless it turns out that the only thing that makes your character laugh is seeing others get hurt or humiliated, I wouldn't worry about it.

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Whoa! That revelation skeeved me out, but I suppose it's good to know. Do you have any tips for telling if something is sexual or not? Because, and I think it's 'cause I'm asexual, that stuff goes over my head sometimes.

A big tipoff is that the writer obsessively focuses on some weird trait or element that has pretty much no story or entertainment value for anyone else.
Your giant child player is a good example of this. The player keeps adding giant children into everything whether or not it's appropriate, and "six times the size of an office building" is not something that other players can meaningfully interact with. At best... they're going to be toys for the giant child.
Another example of this is somebody I call "Sneeze Guy." Sneeze Guy made his character sneeze practically every other post. Obviously, sneezing every few minutes doesn't actually add anything of value to the game, and it's a really weird thing to fixate on. He later admitted that he was doing it simply because he had a kink.
So yeah, I hope that helps.

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One of my characters is half-Japanese and wears glasses and I just recently read that there's a racist stereotype of Asians with glasses! The character is nearsighted and I have other Asian characters without glasses and non-Asians with glasses. Am I doing OK?

By mixing things up like this, yes, you should be just fine. Some Asian people really do wear glasses, so there's nothing wrong with depicting it like this. You'd probably only have to worry if you ended up diving into the "Asians in glasses" stereotypes the rest of the way - EG, the whole "buckteeth and squinty eyes" thing from the mid-20th century, or the "Asian super geek" stereotype from more recent times.

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On this RP website, there's this one user who, while not necessarily a bad user, is seemingly *obsessed* with people (especially young children) growing really huge. Most of the time, I have no problem with writing about huge kids, but sometimes they make it so that having a huge kid around is the o

nly option. Also, they sometimes describe the huge kids as being over 100 feet tall or "six times the size of an office building", which I have great difficulty imagining. That user is also more inclined to kill off characters. They don't go around randomly killing people, but other users don't even see killing people as an option, but this user does. On a side note, I'm in charge of one other roleplay but it's just me and this other user and we're having trouble kicking off a plot.
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Oh, YIKES.
Okay so, there's pretty much only one reason a player is going to be "obsessed" with putting giant children into the game like that, and that reason is that it's the player's fetish. There might not be anything overly sexual going on, but when you've got descriptions like "six times the size of an office building," (it's not a meaningfully playable concept, plus the wording is like badly-written erotica), you can be pretty confident that this player is in the game for the purpose of exploring their "magical realms."
As far as kicking off a plot goes, have you looked into the plot generators, and the articles on making RP plots/campaigns? If you haven't already, those might help you.

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If I'm describing everyone's skin tone in a diverse cast, what's the best way to do that? I'm trying to avoid food comparisons, but do I just "she had fair skin" "he had an olive complexion" "the woman had dark skin" etc?

Hey :) I'm the girl who asked the ridiculously long question for a novel. You have no idea how thankful I am for the answer, considering how much was there in the way of questions. The very fact that you did means a lot. But, the link you posted with answers asks for a password and I don't have it..

Yikes, that's weird - I don't remember setting a password on it! Here's a new link: https://framabin.org/p/?eb170a201db42612#fMC2pETC4OX+PfisHWKBWGBCmlkph2JLAcoLmbAc8A4=

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I'm a condescending a-hole. How can I stop being a condescending a-hole while still speaking confidently?

First of all, understand that "condescension" and "confidence" are not the same thing at all. Confidence is feeling assured that you know what you're talking about. Condescension is speaking in a way that belittles others by framing them as stupid or ignorant.
If you haven't done so already, look up "mansplaining examples" and see what you can find. Whether or not you believe "mansplaining" is a uniquely male problem (I don't - I've received this nonsense from all sorts of people), take note of how the people they're talking about presume excessive amounts of ignorance on the part of whoever they're speaking to.
Things you can do to avoid "mansplaining" include:
-Assessing how much people already know before you start trying to advise or correct them.
-Acknowledging that they might know something you're about to suggest already.
-Admitting to yourself that you're in a spot where you don't actually know that much, and there are better-than-normal odds that you're wrong or ignorant.
-Remembering that it's better to admit you're wrong or ignorant than to make yourself look like a total ass by pretending otherwise.
I also notice that a lot of condescension stems from control issues. You might take a look at this article: http://www.springhole.net/other/voice-of-reason-vs-control-freak.htm
Also, learn to be a good listener: http://www.springhole.net/other/how-to-be-a-good-listener.htm
And do whatever you can do nip any other assorted bad behaviors in the bud: http://www.springhole.net/other/how-to-spot-abusive-and-manipulative-people.htm
I hope this helps!

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