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I like these two shows, but some fans of both shows make pornography based on them, which has led to people bashing the actual shows even though the shows themselves are tame and I hate the porn. What should I do?

Unfortunately, fandom/anti-fandom conflicts these days are a hot mess and there are few, if any easy answers for dealing with them at large. I don't know the extent of what you're having to deal with so I don't know how well my advice applies, but here are some suggestions you can consider and decide which might be useful to you:
-Tune out the hate as much as possible. This could mean blocking people who post hate or leaving spaces full of people like this. Try and find people who are less like this, or other hobbies to fill any gaps you have left in your time.
-Be cautious about bringing the shows up. This is not an optimal or fair solution, but unfortunately it can sometimes be necessary if you don't want to get bullied or harassed in a particular space.
-Take a stance. Point out the flaws in the haters' thinking. Just be aware that this will potentially open you up to lot of conflict, and it might be pretty stressful.
-Be careful what kind of information you post about yourself so that people can't stalk you, just in case you get an obsessive hater. (This can include other social media names/accounts, your school, your name, birthdate, etc.)

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How do I write a clumsy character without making them seem like a Mary Sue?

1. Make the character's clumsiness actually complicate things in a believable way, and let it have realistic consequences .
2. Don't frame it as an intrinsically attractive or endearing trait. Don't make love interests fall over her because her clumsiness is so "cute."

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Your article on apocalypses mentioned "pale skin, watery eyes, and a runny nose". Trouble is, I have rather a light complexion and I'm prone to seasonal allergies, so does that mean I can't go on a plane in the springtime?

If you look so sick that they could well believe you've got a serious or contagious illness, you might run into trouble: https://traveltips.usatoday.com/airline-right-refuse-sick-passenger-109144.html

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Hate to mention this, but some of your Avengers articles talk about SHIELD not going around finding super-powered people, unless they cause problems. Does that mean Ava Starr is an exception, or have those articles just not changed since Ant-Man and the Wasp? Sorry this is nitpicky. Love the site!

Yeah, it wasn't updated for Ant-Man & The Wasp, which I haven't managed to see yet. I'll have to do that when I can!

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I get that you're not going to keep calling Wesley Crusher an MS, but I like him, so how do I deal with so many people, even the author of one of my fave sites, calling him that?

M.B.E.S.
Remind yourself that people on the Internet calling Wesley Crusher a Mary Sue will not stop the world from spinning, let alone affect you and your life in any meaningful way. Remind yourself that people are allowed to have opinions that you don't agree with, let alone like. Then, get on with your life.

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I might write a story set way back in a time when prejudice was common, but I don't want to deal with having protagonists who are prejudiced. Any ideas?

There have always been a few people who have been ahead of the curve, so it shouldn't be too big of an issue if your main characters are among them. Just try and avoid the whole "came from a super-prejudiced family but doesn't believe in all that for absolutely no reason at all" trope.

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How do I "show" without audiences not being sure about what I'm implying? I've read several books which "show" and leave me confused.

I find it helps to read over the text later and see if you've actually painted as clear a picture as you thought you painted when you first wrote it. It's easy to get stuck inside your head and fail to realize that what you're imagining is not actually being conveyed through the text.

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I'm have a really heavily stigmatized mental health condition. How can I help my family and close friends understand my struggles without blaming my bad behavior on the disorder or sounding like I'm making excuses?

Best I can think of is to try and explain to them that it 1. is a mental illness and what it all entails, and 2. make an effort to get whatever help is available to you and do whatever you can to avoid harming others (whether physically or emotionally), and make sure they know you're willing to do this. There's no guarantee that they will be understanding, unfortunately - if there's one thing I've seen over and over, it's that getting friends and family to understand and accept things like this is often an uphill battle. That said, it is important that you do whatever you can to help yourself - even if they don't understand, you deserve to give yourself your best shot at being the best version of yourself.

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To writing bonding as questionable: is it still "eat your cake and have it too" if it's never shown as glamorous but more along the lines of "ok, it's wrong, but it's useful, so if we're stuck with it whether we want it or not, we may as well make use of this"?

It could definitely come off that way, especially if it comes off as "well, bonding sucks, but bonding is the only way to win the war so yeah."

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About the humour thing, I don't see it as a "negative emotion" that needs to be "dealt with", just as a funny little quirk I have. And also, I'm very self-aware. I just was wondering if like, this was common and had a reason, but I don't see it as overly negative.

I mean, the way you phrased it, it sounded like you were asking me to figure out why *your* mind works a certain way. As I can't really answer that, I linked you to pages with information on working out for yourself why you think or feel a particular way.
But as to whether it's common, I don't really know. I haven't observed enough in this area.

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We estabilished that bonding/imrinting is creepy. But would it be ok for the story to feature it in original form when main characters recognize that's there're things wrong with the concept and try to raise awareness of others? As in, A gets bonded to B (dragon) without informed consent and

realises that it's not right, but tries very hard to treat B with respect and mind xir rights and teaches other people why the bonding isn't ethical (most people handwave it, but some come to understand her point). As in, the in-universe thing is creepy but still widely accepted, but it gets adressed as problem (even though in the end A and B come to appreciate some elements of the bond (telepathy) and consider each other friends, but consent&equality are important). Would that hurt the story? I need some parts of bonding for the plot to work but I'd like to avoid the questionability...
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If you explored bonding in a critical way, it could be interesting. But you'd want to be careful to avoid having a "have your cake and eat it, too" story, where you act like you're disavowing the thing but still play it up as glamorous and desirable.

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Do you have any advice on creating an uncanny valley effect, especially in an RP where you can't reliably use other characters' reactions/behaviors (or writing styles) as a baseline? Specifically, I have a character whose "robotic" tendencies are supposed to alienate her from the rest of the group.

Yeah, find out what constitutes the Uncanny Valley in real life, make the ones that work with your character into traits, and then describe them in the story.

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Why do I find things less funny if it's meant to have a moral? For example, this kids' cartoon had a scene where two girls are walking dogs and they go out-of-control, and initially I laughed but when I found out it was to teach kids to be prepared, I thought it seemed less funny somehow.

I've seen several Tumblr posts about Dumbledore's actions meaning he is evil, even a predator. Some things cited were his letting Sirius rot in Azkaban, and leaving Harry in an abusive home. (The posts insinuated he did the latter intentionally so Harry would become the martyr [continued]

[continued] he needed.) It isn't that clear cut to me, and while Dumbledore's actions in some cases were certainly questionable, I hesitate to slap a label of "evil" onto him. What are your thoughts?
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Well, here's basically what happened:
Harry Potter, early on, started out with a lot of Roald Dahl-esque dark and quirky humor. That's fine, there's nothing wrong with that. But about midway through the series, it had a tonal shift where everything started becoming Serious Business. So a bunch of the stuff that was written as dark humor early on started becoming dissonant, and as often as not Rowling never even noticed the dissonance herself. (There's still a lot of content that's pretty disturbing for a franchise that's trying to have "destroy fascism, value love and compassion!" as a moral.)
So what you have now are characters who were initially written for one type of story being perceived and framed in another, and a franchise that fails to acknowledge this dissonance. Rowling seems to want to have her cake and eat it too here, and she doesn't seem to have the skill necessary to blend dark humor and serious business without it coming out distasteful. (We're STILL getting love potions played up as harmless gags, yikes.)
Additionally, many of Dumbledore's early decisions seem to have been written long before she worked out any real justifications for them, and she seems to have created a lot of new content without asking herself what kind of ramifications they had for the rest of the world and everyone in it. Thus she has a lot of stuff that sounds good if you don't think about it much, but falls apart with just a little scrutiny.
So while Dumbledore's actions might be questionable to heinous if a real person did them, I think it's important to remember that there was no actual malice involved, just JK Rowling being a clumsy writer.

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I have a story written in first person. One complaint I got from my readers was that they couldn't imagine what the protagonist, the narrator, looked like. I read your article on character descriptions, and you painted a pretty clear picture of what not to do for first person descriptions, but

do you have any advice on what *to* do instead? Third person descriptions are much easier for me.
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Personally, what I do is have my characters take a moment to describe themselves when they think it's going to be important, in whatever way *they* think is reasonable. So a character who is a bit vain might put a lot of unnecessary detail into it, but someone who is mostly focused on everything else is going to give only bare basics and get to the action right away.

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