Do something to distract yourself, eat chocolate and sleep, remind yourself when you start to miss them that they lost out on something amazing and that you don't need them
I honestly do find guy friends better. If I don't talk to them for a long while, and then talk to them again, it'll be like we never stopped talking. It has never been that way for me with girls. No one seems to understand or listen or want to that I am naturally more freaking comfortable with guys. I like being friends with guys more and I always have!
continued you say your guy friends are better but I think you should try to reach out to these people because I know they care a bout you and I think that if you showed that you wanted to be there friend then they would want to be yours too.
I tried to! But I can't do this! I am done! They yell at me for my choices and I'm done! I am done!
Sorry again but I happen to know that your old friends feel pretty much the same thing. They feel like you were the one who didn't make an effort and decided to stop just because you did want to put the work into the friendship.
I did but I kept getting crap about staying with Dalton and other choices of mine. All of them kept trying to do what's best for me instead of letting me do what I think is. I was the one that got called a bitch because I didn't want to go to a party.. I'm the terrible person because I didn't really want to go to a party, and didn't want to go to said party because I wasn't comfortable with other people. I have bad self conscious issues and I am self preserved and so I only will let in some people but some I'll let go because they didn't seem to want to stay. I kept getting crap about myself and my choices and I was tired of it. I'm sorry I didn't want to go to a party. Literally the last day I slept and played minecraft and was HAPPY. So I don't regret any choices I made because I was happy. I just don't understand why a week after summer starts I get all the crap just piled on me. It seems like anytime I start to actually be happy and do something I want to, people ruin it. I have changed myself so much just to try to please my friends and people that I don't like and they don't like me back... FOR NO REASON. I am like my mom and my sister. If the friends I have aren't treating me very good, then I'll be fine having no friends. I want true friends, and the friends I had always would judge me and tell me to do things and yell at me for not doing things... So I'm done. I'm staying with my guys. I'm sorry but that's it. I don't want to take this any more. I'm tired of it. Me have been harassed about this for 10-16 days, and I'm tired of it. I just want to be able to be on this app and not hate myself!
Sorry if you feel like you are being attacked but I'm friend with one of your old friends and I just wanted to see if what I heard was true and if you w I ill admit to somethings I've heard.
I am sorry I'm being defensive about this but for the past two weeks I've got nothing on here but crap about this and from the first day it started I've cried every night because everyone is making me feel horrible about it. People who really know me, know I'm a lot more comfortable with guys and make friends easier with guys. So I'm sorry if I make it seem that my boyfriend is my whole life. I still have friends, but they are guys. I have one girl friend that I really trust who is makenna and that's about it for girls. I'm starting to open up to other girls being my friends but if any of them start attacking me about this I'm just not going to be friends with girls. The guys have always been the ones I could trust and they didn't give me drama, and if girls were causing me problems I could ALWAYS go to them and be comforted and not ridiculed. I have my good guy friends, one best guy friend and my boyfriend who also is my best friend. So I don't isolate myself from everyone but my boyfriend, I isolate myself from my girl friends besides makenna. She doesn't give me crap about it and none of my guy friends do. All of the people I'm friends with now are caring for me and are letting me be happy. They try to always make me happy and they actually don't make me feel bad for trying to make a decision and they actually let me make decisions, not they try to do what's best for me. So excuse me. I'm tired of this. I don't mean to be rude but it is exhausting to get crap about this for weeks. And it's getting to the point where every time my phone says I've received a new question, I already start to hate myself. And it's close to the point where I'm just going to delete ask for forever because I get crap about my choices and my past.
Because when you lose a girl friend you make it look like all you care about is your boyfriend and that you can't see that friends are irreplaceable while boys aren't. Also because if you choose a guy over a girl it shows exactly the type of friend you are.
I still have all my guy friends! And honestly I didn't like the way I was treated by girls so I stuck with the guys. People tell me to do what makes me happy, but as soon as I start moving in the direction, every just makes me hate myself for it. I'm tired of this! For weeks I have been getting crap about who I am and aren't friends with and I'm tired of it! I'm tired of all this freaking harassment I'm getting! I tried being civilized but I'm done! Say all you want about me, but no one knows how I really feel besides those I am close to and really trust. And I don't care if it's 5 very close knit friends or 3. I just can't handle this. This site is supposed to be fun but this is about to be the second time I have to delete my ask.
But are you the victim or not? cause that's what you make it seem like.
I don't try to make it seem like I'm the victim.... I just back off... Why does everyone care so much about this? I lose my guy friends, no one really pays attention. I leave a girl fiend and it's the end of the world. I still have guy best friends and it shouldn't matter that one of them is my boyfriend.
You make it seem like you were the person who made the decision that you and your old friends wouldn't be friends like you were the victim? is that true?
Uh I don't know... Both parties kind of just stop...
How do you suggest me going about trying to be friends with my ex then? When he broke up with me he said he wanted to be friends and he's really good friends with his other ex.. I just don't know what to do
Try to talk to him.. I don't really hang out with my exes because I feel like it would be too awkward, but I still text them and talk to them if I see them. I mean, all it really takes is just talk to them and maybe give it time if it's not happening RIGHT NOW. And I just am a lot more comfortable with guys than girls, so being friends with them even if they're exes is kind if natural for me.
You seem to stay such good friends with you ex boyfiends, do you think it's hard to do and how do you guys do it ?
It can be challenging considering the feelings might be there for one or both parties, but if you establish the ground rules of it is over.... It can work out. Sometimes it doesn't but if you guys were friends before, you can try to be friends again.
Different person** from what I've heard and observed, you don't seem to put forth as much effort into your friendships as your relationships. I know you don't want to be pushy, but when someone you allegidly want to be friends with says they want to be friends too, you shouldn't continue as stranger
You and your old friends used to be really close it seemed. What happened and would you ever try to get them back as friends? or do you even know what went wrong between you guys?
I've said it before multiple times what happened..... I thought I wasn't being a good friend so I left them to try to let them be happier without my drama of a life. And I would love them back but I wouldn't force them.