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1 advice that you would never want people to listen or follow?
'Time will heal your wounds'.
Time will only suppress and push your wounds down. Healing is a different story.
Have you ever come across a wall that has had many layers or wallpapers on it?
You keep peeling off later after layer and it ruins the aesthetic of that wall. It's like the owners of that place didn't want to take the previous wallpaper off, it was too much effort.. So they kept plastering newer ones on top. Until the wall started looking uneven and ugly. We do the same with our emotions until they start becoming ugly and then we gotta peel layer after layer to reach the original 'trauma'.
That what times does. It just 'wallpapers', doesn't heal anything.
Time will only suppress and push your wounds down. Healing is a different story.
Have you ever come across a wall that has had many layers or wallpapers on it?
You keep peeling off later after layer and it ruins the aesthetic of that wall. It's like the owners of that place didn't want to take the previous wallpaper off, it was too much effort.. So they kept plastering newer ones on top. Until the wall started looking uneven and ugly. We do the same with our emotions until they start becoming ugly and then we gotta peel layer after layer to reach the original 'trauma'.
That what times does. It just 'wallpapers', doesn't heal anything.
Do you see yourself moving in the right direction? 🤔
I think it's really hard to know whether you're moving in the right or wrong direction sometimes, it's usually in the middle or end of your path when you realise you've come to the wrong path.
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How do you manage conflicts like arguments and fights in a relationship?
A disagreement can turn into an argument, which can then turn into a fight only because of one thing...both of you think that NOW is the right time to prove your point.
Alhamdulillah I and my husband have been married for 1.5 years and we've never fought or argued. We've had disagreements of course because we are two different people but when he is trying to prove a point, I keep quiet and listen. Then later when he's calm, I ask him if we can talk about our previous disagreement please? You should ask so politely that he can't refuse. He usually agrees because I've given him enough time to cool off. Then I present my point of view and he can still disagree with it but I say 'I just wanted you to know what I think and beleive, so that you understand my reactions next time or you understand why I said what I said'.
If he isn't willing to talk that time, I ask again the next day.
And he does the same with me when I'm the one trying to prove a point.
This is the very first thing I discussed with him after getting married, this strategy and he agreed to follow it.
It's hard when you've to be patient but you think you're right, it's very hard 🤣
But in that moment, as yourself whether you want victory or peace?
If you choose victory, please know that he's gonna choose victory too and you both are gonna keep trying to be victorious while the argument escalates.
I tell myself I choose peace and will peacefully convey my message. It's hard but this works.
Alhamdulillah I and my husband have been married for 1.5 years and we've never fought or argued. We've had disagreements of course because we are two different people but when he is trying to prove a point, I keep quiet and listen. Then later when he's calm, I ask him if we can talk about our previous disagreement please? You should ask so politely that he can't refuse. He usually agrees because I've given him enough time to cool off. Then I present my point of view and he can still disagree with it but I say 'I just wanted you to know what I think and beleive, so that you understand my reactions next time or you understand why I said what I said'.
If he isn't willing to talk that time, I ask again the next day.
And he does the same with me when I'm the one trying to prove a point.
This is the very first thing I discussed with him after getting married, this strategy and he agreed to follow it.
It's hard when you've to be patient but you think you're right, it's very hard 🤣
But in that moment, as yourself whether you want victory or peace?
If you choose victory, please know that he's gonna choose victory too and you both are gonna keep trying to be victorious while the argument escalates.
I tell myself I choose peace and will peacefully convey my message. It's hard but this works.
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How do you think manifestation works?
I think you attract whatever you think a lot about. For example, if you think that your friend doesn't like you, your brain will work hard to prove this to you by pinpointing little things she does that may suggest she doesn't like you. Now she may not intend to do those things to annoy you, maybe she has always done those things but now taht you've given your brain this task of proving your thoughts right, it's gonna become extra cautious of everything she does and try to prove your thoughts right.
Which in turn causes you to act on those thoughts because now you have 'evidence' to prove that you're right. When you take subtle steps towards that direction, you're naturally making it your reality 🤷🏻♀️
In this example, you start being rude to your friend or stop being too friendly with her to protect yourself, your friend senses that and starts disliking you for real. You turned your thoughts into your reality now.
Your brain's job is to help your survive and it hates conflicting thoughts. Because conflict is not good for your survival. So it's eventually gonna start looking for things to prove your beliefs/strong thoughts. Which will greatly alter your reality.
Which in turn causes you to act on those thoughts because now you have 'evidence' to prove that you're right. When you take subtle steps towards that direction, you're naturally making it your reality 🤷🏻♀️
In this example, you start being rude to your friend or stop being too friendly with her to protect yourself, your friend senses that and starts disliking you for real. You turned your thoughts into your reality now.
Your brain's job is to help your survive and it hates conflicting thoughts. Because conflict is not good for your survival. So it's eventually gonna start looking for things to prove your beliefs/strong thoughts. Which will greatly alter your reality.
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Share any old ♻️ movie, posts, song, joke, poem, meme, quote, memory (shortstory), etc.
Found this screenshot from 2018. 🙃
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Fomo ko avoid kesy kreyn?
Depends on what's causing you that feeling. But in short, try to make your life a lot more happening and set minor goals for your health and mental development and try to achieve them.
Everyone out there is living an ordinary life with some good moments, just like you and me. Just seeing their good moments and thinking that they're living an amazing life is silly. They'd feel the same about us if they were to see our good moments only.
Everyone out there is living an ordinary life with some good moments, just like you and me. Just seeing their good moments and thinking that they're living an amazing life is silly. They'd feel the same about us if they were to see our good moments only.
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If you die, who do you think would stand the longest at your grave?
My mother, if she outlives me. Or my husband.
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Something you hate but can't get rid of?
My habit of overthinking everything, especially when I'm trying to fall asleep.
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Askfm users that you met in real life. 🔍💎
Currently married to one :p
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What phase of life you are in right now?
Motherhood. And it's the most difficult but the most beautiful phase I've been in, so far at least.
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Do you have any "Characters" in your family? Which one's most interesting/favourite?
My nani ami's brother. He is like the funniest, most positive man I know. He's bedridden now, extremely sick and the doctors have given up on him but you'd still see that man laughing, making jokes and just enjoying every moment of his life,despite being in so much physical pain.
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How good are you at managing your life?
I think I'm okay it at. So far, things are going fine.
Are you a good counsellor?
I try to be but a good counseller needs to have time for the people he/she counsels and these days I don't have much time. So I'd say, no.
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um congratulations. MA SHA ALLAH :')
Thank you 😊
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🔂 Post anything that has been on repeat in your life. It could be situations, music, thoughts, feelings, or if you ever had a deja vu, etc.
The number 535.
Idk if it means anything and I don't beleive in angel numbers and stuff but I've been seeing 535 everywhere since I was like 14 :p
Idk if it means anything and I don't beleive in angel numbers and stuff but I've been seeing 535 everywhere since I was like 14 :p
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What's the worst thing humans have ever invented?
The word 'sorry'.
People will do anything and everything to hurt you and then seal the whole matter off with a simple 'sorry'. 🤷🏻♀️
If you don't forgive once, they'll say it 10 more times and it takes a second to say this word. Now you're the bad guy for not forgiving 🙃
People will do anything and everything to hurt you and then seal the whole matter off with a simple 'sorry'. 🤷🏻♀️
If you don't forgive once, they'll say it 10 more times and it takes a second to say this word. Now you're the bad guy for not forgiving 🙃
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Why boys first approach you, make you fall for them, when you get attached and dependent on them, suddenly boooooom they are not interested at all WHYYYYYYY
Because winning feels good. Whether it's a game or winning over someone's heart. It makes you understand how capable you are. To such boys, it's a game and it's all about winning over as many girls as possible. So that they can later sit and think about how capable they are. Usually they are quite insecure and aren't really doing well in other areas of life (financially, professionally or physically), so this is the only way they get to feel a sense of achievement.
Shouldn't you be loving yourself first?
I do. That's why I'm able to love others too.
Life regrets but not regrets!
What does that mean?
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Do you enjoy being somewhere no one else knows you? If yes why do you feel you enjoy that?
I do. In fact, I crave such solitude every single day. Why? I think when you are alone and away from distractions, all your suppressed emotions start coming to the surface and you can process them. At least that's how it is for me.
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Past or present is there someone you wish you made amends with? If so, who and why?
Yes. My best friend of 8 years. We stopped talking in 2020.
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Salam. How are you?
Waalaikum assalam. I'm good alhamdulillah, you?
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What do you do to protect your peace?
I stop emotionally investing in anything that disrupts my peace. When I realise that it's costing me my peace, I immediately tell myself that it's not worth it and that helps.
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