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but if a strong man has found the woman he wants but she is not being affectionate to him like she should be. then is it wrong if he cheats?

A man of strong character doesn't fix this problem by cheating on his woman 🌚 That just goes to prove that he is so desperate for a woman's attention that he went out and got it from another woman since he wasn't getting it from his woman. A man of strong character isn't desperate for attention. That's the point I've been trying to prove this whole time.
If she isn't being affectionate to him then he can confront her and ask her what's causing her to act that way. Tahts how problems are solved.
Only a man of weak character would conclude that if she isn't affectionate towards her, it his ticket to go out and seek validation from another woman.
And as I said in the first answer of this thread, keeping up with such people is too much work 🙄. I personally would rather say goodbye and leave than try to always provide validation, affection and attention he doesn't act on his desperation and cheat on me. It just kills all the love for that person for me tbh.
I hope this answers all the other questions you've sent as well 🌚

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+4 answers in: “What would you say to someone who cheats on you?”

So your saying men who cheat are weak?

In my opinion, of course they are.
A strong man knows which woman he wants in his life and wouldn't do anything that might cause him to lose her. Same goes for strong women, they're aware of what they want and wouldn't do anything that might deprive them of it.
Strong people know what they want and also know how to value it.
Weak people on the other hand don't know how to value what they have. Their constant need for validation and attention causes them to cheat. Strong men and women can't put up with this weak people behaviour and I don't blame them for leaving.

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+4 answers in: “What would you say to someone who cheats on you?”

You won't forgive and give another chance?

You forgive people for their mistakes. Cheating isn't a mistake. It's a conscious choice. Every man and woman on this planet knows that you'll have to face the consequences if you go ahead and cheat on your partner(unless you are drugged and made to cheat:p ). If one still chooses to do that then its clear he/she doesn't care about the feelings of hi/her partner. And if you don't care about my feelings then I'm not gonna waste even a second of my life caring about yours 🤷‍♀️ Lets become strangers and be happy in our own lives 🌚 That's my motto because I really REALLY value my peace and time :p

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+4 answers in: “What would you say to someone who cheats on you?”

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Pakeeza Zehra
I really REALLY love your name. In fact, when I first came across your page,I decided that I might even name my future daughter Pakeeza because it's such a pretty and unique name.
In my opinion, you are one of the very few people who are really subtle but have the most impact on the world around them. You may not know this though because I'm sure most people don't tell you that subtle people with influential personalities(like you) can impact others around them in great ways.
By having the most impact I mean that if you were in a group of 10 people, your influence on all of those 10 people would've been the strongest. The best part is that you will only influence others in good and positive ways. As they say, with great power comes great responsibility. Being subtle yet very inspiring/influential is great power but you don't have to worry about consciously trying to be a good influence to others because you are good and pure by default. Not a lot of effort required to be good for you. Masha Allah!
I hope and pray that you always keep being yourself so that you can be a great source of change to the world around you. Aameen.

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What's the funniest thing you did as a kid, that your parents still talk about to this day?

Taunting and saying things that would anger or provoke the "jinns" around me just so they could make themselves visible and I'd be able to FINALLY see what they look like :)))
My curiosity could've killed me but Allah saved me :p

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But it always happens with me. Just because i dont have the courage to confess my love.

It happens with you not because you don't have the courage to confess your love,the same would've happened even if you had confessed your love.
It has happened because it's all going according to a plan that is best for you and him.
Your heart will tell you all kinds of things atm because it's hurt. Your heart will tell you that you were at fault, the timing was at fault, maybe he should've tried,maybe you should've tried and bla bla. Your heart will not act rational atm because it's grieving. A grievibg heart wouldn't ever act rational. Hearts don't act rational anyway. But sometimes they do let the mind do it's thing. A grieving heart though 🙄🙄
A grieving heart only wants to be sad and blame you and blame the world and wants to think that everything that is happening is wrong. All you can do right now is help your heart grieve and get done with it fully.
Once it's done, you'll start understanding that NOTHING is wrong. Everything happened exactly how it was supposed to happen and you'd thank Allah for saving you a few years down the line. Because you'll meet someone who is created EXACTLY the way your heart would want your life partner to be.
Grieve for a while but know this at the back of your mind that it's nobody's fault. Not yours and not his. It's all according to a plan that's saving you from a million regrets.

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He liked me too. I dont know what and where i did wrong

You should know one thing always. If a man truly likes you, he will make sure he mentions you to his parents at least once. He will make sure he tried his level best to get you. A man who truly likes wouldn't risk losing you. NEVER!

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I liked a guy so much. Thought I would marry him one day. Couldnt express my love to him. Just got to know that he got engaged yesterday. Im shattered. 💔

God removed him from your life because He knew that your life with him would've been really bad. Not because he is bad or you are bad, but because you both weren't compatible with each other.
What you call love now would've turned into hatred and regret few years down the line if you were to be with him. Then you'd have regretted your decision of choosing to ruin and waste the rest of your life with him. It's perfectly normal for you to be sad and mourn his loss for a while. Do that!
mourning for a week or a month is better than being stuck in an unhappy marriage for life.
If two people are gonna be a source of pain and distress to eachother forever, Allah separates them because HE created you two and He knows very well that you both just fancy the idea of being together. Once that beautiful idea comes to reality,it's nothing but hell. He saved you, be thankful.
Mourn for a few weeks or a month and then be happy you didn't get stuck in a cycle of constant pain and regrets ❤

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How to reject a proposal?

"I know myself and I know that I can't keep him/her happy. It'd be unfair to me, him/her and our future kids if keep quiet marry this person just because my elders want me to. None of my elders are gonna be solving the issues that come between me and my spouse in the future. I have to deal with it all on my own,I have to endure it all alone. So i think I have the right to choose who I want to and can endure. I choose not to endure this person. Again, it'll be unfair to him/her because I won't be able to form a connection with him/her ever. Which also makes it unfair to our future kids because they'll grow up seeing parents who live like room mates and that will lead to a whole generation of broken people.
Even islam gives me full permission to choose my spouse,even against the will of my own parents. A religion that respects parents alot but has given us the permission to do that. Because Allah is wise and he knows we can't force connections with others if we don't want to connect with them. It's my basic right to choose the person I've to spend the net 60-80 years with all alone, let me do it. Thank you for understanding"
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I know it's alot but it may help if you take a stand and stick to your decision with softness and politeness.

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Why do some people not even bother arguing with others but instead do what they intend to do, whatever that may be?

▲HMAD
I'm definitely one of those people and I do that because people who argue with you are nothing but time wasters. There are people who genuinely advise you but they don't force or argue. The ones that argue mostly don't want to see others succeed.

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What is something that most people learn only after it’s too late?

سائرہ
So many things:
- Actions do speak louder than words
- words can make or break bonds too
- genuine love exists but needs to be attended to and taken care of. Love just can't be earned and kept in a corner. It's like a plant,it needs constant care in the form of reassurance through actions and words. If it's taken for granted then it will die.
- once you break someone's trust, you can't bring it back fully even if you try to do that for years. Some part of it will be replaced by doubt forever.
- Love without respect isn't love. It's us satisfying our egos.
- Trust doesn't fall from the sky, it is earned. Sometimes you have to prove yourself to earn someone's trust and strengthen it.
- Blood relations are not everything
- Parents can make wrong decisions too and can ruin your lives too with wrong decisions(unintentionally of course)
- People who truly care for you are rare. You will find many people who love you at their own convenience, but you rarely find people who genuinely care for you.
- Just because you love someone or someone is related to you by blood doesn't mean you are obliged to sacrifice your own happiness for them every time.
And so many more tbh. I can go on and on.

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U know why u get uncomfortable? Because deep down u are afraid of getting attached to them and losing them. :)

I think it's the other way around tbh,based on all my past experiences.
I think I fear that some day I'd want to leave suddenly but that person would've gotten attached to me. Suddenly disappearing from that person's life will hurt them.
Because I don't get attached to people so it is very easy for me to leave. Unfortunately!

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