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Love porn, I live next to my office and will go home for lunch just to watch some.. or nap.. but I'm mildly worried it's not healthy or is getting into my psyche in some insidious ways (feel the same way bout adverts). How bad should it get befor I seek help? I can stop for 1-2 months max.

At the point you're leaving work to go home and bust one, it's a problem.
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"paychecks from stuck up ass auntie and uncle" are taking care of that child, though. be humble. be grateful and learn some respect. Thanks Belle. Thank you for putting up with all of us...especially this one. thank you.

Welp.
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oh k I spit did I stab him did I shoot him is he dead its spit wipe it off girl you are doing the most right now you aint got nothing better to but have me on your mind cause I show aint thinking bout I asked for help you said no the end Nextt

Ma'am. I've responded to questions you've asked and questions asked about you.
And you MUST be thinking of me as much as everyone reading is thinking if you. You are back AGAIN after saying goodbye twice before.
Perhaps this time when you see the general response to your behavior is shock and disgust, you will recognize how UTTERLY OUT IF POCKET your behavior is.
I want someone to spit in you and you just wipe it off and carry on like it's nothing. No one's told you how DISGUSTING AND VILE AND DISRESPECTFUL that act is. It's trashy, gutter behavior, and not something to be taken lightly.
I feel terribly sorry for you. You are completely reckless and woefully immature, have no idea how damaged you are and the damage you've done AND WORSE you're showcasing this behavior to your child.
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Liked by: Allison Grace~Author PynkElephant Ene Beautifully Complex _ Trishtn Unchinked Armor Laura Asseauguste Bay Area San Francisco

Bad break up >1 yr ago, he cheated & I'm sure he never really loved me like he said, BUT the real issue is since then I have been more sensitive than I had been in the past, more empathetic to others' pain even crying with them or at the smallest provocation in my life. Is this a sign of depression?

No. It's not. But I can't determine if you are depressed or not based off this information. Do you think you are depressed? Or are you as you said more empathetic to other pain now that you've had a personal trauma?
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OP Wall St. BF- I had a feeling you were gonna say that lol. What do you think is a reasonable amount of time to spend together so it remains a healthy relationship. At least once a week?

Yep
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That young woman doesn't grasp the seriousness of the sitn she put the father of her child in! On about how she is perceived/been wronged, but the man will likely lose his job and what will he say to perspective emp. about why he lost his last job? Do you know if she has any other elders to turn to?

No one to talk to, which is how she ended up here. And still does not listen.
Sigh.
She has just turned his life upside down and all she's talking about is child support and well, he made me mad and his new chick. Just no concept of anything in life but her own feelings.
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In late twenties feeling like i'm outgrowing friends. Tiered of bar/club/happyhr rinse-repeat cycle. All we have in common is what we "used" to do. Really focusing on growing into a better person, addressing issues holding me bk, but crew is not doing same; they focus on finding men. Should I b too?

No. You should focus on finding like-minded people who share your current interests.
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Not op but I'm in a similar situation as the girl w/jealous godsis. One of my best friends has been like that for yrs. Along w:downgrading she interferes in my relas. I meet a new guy she tells them about incidents between my ex and I. I reconcile with an ex she tells me about a bunch of rumors, tha

She's not your friend. She gotta go. Period.
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Guy keeps flirting (i.e., eye contact, compliments, light touches). He's now asking what time I get off work and what will I be doing afterwards. This has been going on for weeks. I like him and want him to ask me out. Do you think he's about to?

Yes
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I am confused ,you said all of this began after her mother passed. did she not exhibit signs of being emotionally unstable early in the relationship. Geez this child needs help. He needs to file for sole custody and she needs to be evaluated

I dunno. They only popped up here after he told me she stopped taking BC, didn't tell him and when he found out and confronted her, she was 4 months preggers. She said she wanted a baby because her mother died, which I get the reasoning of. But you gotta fill in the person you're with about that and get them on board.
I'm sure there were signs before, just nothing this extreme.
Prior to her tricking him with the BC pills, they lived together and he was planning to marry her.
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My guy works on Wall St. and still "paying his dues" so has really long work hours. We see each other pretty regularly but it's not often and I'd prefer more. He says it's gonna be like this for at least the next year. Do I need to just suck it up as part of the process?

Yep.
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And why would I hurt my baby she is my everything you think I went threw all that hell why I was pregnant had my belly cut open to have her just to hurt again no nigga including him is worth that so be foreal lady as long as i got my baby i am good

People wonder if you'll hurt your baby because you continuously make bad choices and are obviously emotionally unstable.
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ex getting back: Considering that she's trying to get back with me, and she was the one who was wrong, should i be courting her?

You still gotta do it.
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I think my ex gf, who really hurt me, is trying to get back with me. You normally recommend ppl who are getting back together to start all over from scratch. I'd be open to it but as a dude I'm usually the person who does the courting.

So if you're interested, you gotta step up and court.
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Greetings, Belle. Im a librarian, a nice man comes in the library, and we strike up a brief conversation. I often see him staring at me, He is now following me on twitter. What can I say to him that says Im interested in him??

Hi. And ask him a question.

Guy wants to chill at his place for 2nd date i say im not comfortable w/ that, lets go out.he then goes: "easy for you, I be the one paying" O_o

The suggest somewhere cheap.
If he doesn't have money to date a woman properly, he doesn't need to date.
A couch date is NOT OK for a second date. You don't know him to be alone with him. Stranger danger!
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Liked by: Whitelle Allison Grace~Author PynkElephant Jasmine A. Edwards Unchinked Armor Cathy J.S. Beautifully Complex _ Bay Area San Francisco

not OP but what is your take on a guy giving you keys to his place? guy and I aren't officially in a relationship but dating for 3 months and he just gave me a spare key to let myself in since I always get off work before him. is it time to have "the talk"?

Yes. Time for talk.
But not a fan of keys if you're not paying bills together.
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can you elaborate on why the situation with the keys 2 his house won't work? in an ideal situation, must couples always spend time at the woman's house?

He hasn't EVER been to her house. EVER. He's not putting in the same effort.
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Been dating a guy for 1 year. I live in BK he lives in Harlem. I have keys to his place however he's never been to my place (house by the way) because its in Brooklyn. Can this work?

No.

so you have no issues with this bitch trying to destroy my family I see you like everybody else you want to see me hurt you want to break me down you want to see me cry but guess what im strong yeah I cried last night but I'm back up

Your constant victimization is killing me. It's not everyone else causing problems, ITS YOU!!!
Explain why anyone should root for you right now. Like, really. EXPLAIN!!! You tricked him into getting you pregnant, you acted a plumb fool on social media while pregnant, you scratched up his face once before and now you're hiding keys, pushing and spitting on folks. HELL NO!!! NO ONE with any sense is rooting for ya'll to work.
And if you think he's even considering a relationship with you after getting locked up over your silly shenanigans, you're nuts. You did his to yourself, hon.
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Liked by: Allison Grace~Author PynkElephant Unchinked Armor Beautifully Complex _ Bay Area San Francisco

BCPill saga Not OP: I honestly feel bad for that child, not the mother, the baby. She's not understanding that she's wrong for setting him up like that, nor for her actions. She's upset that she's treating the new lady like she wanted to be treated and I honestly fear that she will turn on the baby.

Hmmm. She's never indicated hostility toward the baby. But nothing would surprise me at this point. I mean, she thinks it's ok to spot on another human being. That's just... O_o. Clearly her good sense is broken.
Not concerned she will harm the baby. Am concerned that the child grows up in this environment and repeats this cycle.
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like how old is this spitter? She must be young as hell cause I can't imagine no grown woman behaving so badly. Her poor baby to have for a mother god help the child.

22, tops.
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