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Re:The abortion, No, we haven't spoken verbally yet. I did texted him earlier and he replied back stating he will call me when he gets off. Honestly how bad is this? should I be looking to lose my marriage?

You aborted your husband's kid without telling him first. This is a level 10.
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I dated a guy on and off all through high school. But after we separated as bf/gf we continued to have sex. I recently cut him completely off. We hadn't had sex in over 6 months. But before then on between what we had going on we did. When I cut him off he went crazy on me. Was I wrong?

You're never obligated to have sex. And it's not cool to flip out.
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My ex bf that I found out cheated and got someone pregnant. Wants to come back into my life. :( I honestly really loves him but idk what to do about this. Would I be heartless to tell him to keep it moving or just poke my cheat out and say beat it cheater?

What is it that would be best for you in the long run? Whatever it is, do that.

Wmn at my BF's job askd him 2 gve her 'lessons'. He sd no & tld her he has GF. Even aftr she's still tryng 2 call him (had his # from yrs ago) & even snt him a txt apolgzng for her actions & said "call me to discuss" huh?! What the hell he's TAKN. I knw he will hdle. R sme wmn really this desperate?

Yes.

Belle, I found out that my boyfriend welcomed the invitation (had sex with) of a tranny (transgender) individual. I Asked him about it and if he is gay, he denied it. However, he previously reasoned that some ppl don't look at it as gay, but just as sex. What should I do? Your thoughts?

You bf had sex with someone else. man or woman, does it matter? Why are you having a conversation about staying?
Transgender women are women.
You're focusing on the wrong thing here.
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Hello. I have a male friend that I made the decision to sleep with. He says thing like he wants to be with me. But I never stated I wanted to be in a relationship. If it happens cool if not I'm still Was I wrong for asking him exactly what he wants? I mean we are just having sex to me anyway.

Conversations that should have been had before sex.
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I'm 36 my bf is 43. We had a convo last PM about me being younger than him. He said he's never been w someone w such a big age gap before. I joke w him sometime about it ie: "when u were 21 I was 14." I should stop bc I think I hurt his feelings? Your thoughts?

Stop joking. Have a serious convo with him about his concerns about your age
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Re:The abortion, are my concerns not valid? I will admit I was outline in how I informed him of my decision. I am concerned about our future. Newlyweds, bad economy, student loans its a lot to deal with add a baby to this equation and its a recipe for a disaster.

All that's true. You just should have told your husband what you were about to do. You're not operating as "I" anymore. It's "we".
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Re:The abortion, He was aware that I was pregnant. We discussed options and planned to make a decision together. After coming home yet again (alone)to darkness I made a choice ,a choice I now regret. At the time the only thing I could think about was how can I heat bottles without electricity?

It's a valid concern. No one's saying it isn't. But you planned to make a choice together, then made an executive decision about a major issue without him.
You took an extreme reaction. I understand why, but that's doesn't massless it right or make peace in your home.
By the way, have you talked to your husband?
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Re 6 weeks: I initiate it most times and then he just plans it. He's very (too) laid back and it annoys me. He also lives two hours from me and has two jobs. Setting myself up for disaster?

Yep

Belle, this is true --> "he's likely dating or interested in someone else and has become dissatisfied." Could you provide insight as to the psychology, the why behind this? Is it about devaluing someone to make another option "appear" better? Graci.

Nah. He wants to be somewhere else but he's there with you, so he's annoyed.
He could leave, but hasn't decided what to do yet. He's on his way out.
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Agreed to shut up and never mention...what to do about attending the wedding?

Eh. If you can not go without it getting weird, I wouldn't. Do whatever doesn't rock the boat.

I have a friend who dismisses my feelings & just says "get out your feelings" - valid or not. It's frustrating, want her to know how I hurt & WHY as to avoid these issues in the future but she won't listen - feels bad maybe? How do I approach. Not trying to guilt trip but just explain my feelings.

She's annoyed with you. Do you complain to her often?

Is blocking some1 on social media and calls/texts a good way to go when you know they r not good for you yet you can't seem to let them go? Tired of the rollercoaster relationship with him but he always pops back up and I know that I'm not strong enough yet to just ignore him/ keep it friendly

Do what you need to, to take care of you.
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Is it a red flag if you and your SO have been together for a few years and they NEVER want to meet your friends but always expect you to go out their friends?

Yes. Lacking reciprocity is always a bad thing
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This guy at the gym is constantly asking to go on a date but when we plan to, I never hear from him. What gives?

He likes the who stroke of flirting but he's not really interested.
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How do you get your bf to go to counseling? He acknowledged he needs it, but refuses to go bc he said he can just work his issues out himself. Do you think it will work if I suggest going with him?

You can't make people do anything.
Point out that he's been trying to work on it and it's not working. Offer to go with him. See what he says

Seeing someone for about 6 weeks now. We've hung out three times and it was really fun. I think I understand that he's very busy. We talk every day. Am i being selfish for wanting to see him more often?

Not selfish. Have you initiated seeing him?
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Re: forgive him - not OP but my ex of 6 years broke up with my via phone while I was in the midst of depression. It's been 6 months but I don't think I will EVER be able to forgive him for treating me in that manner. Is it possible to not forgive and to heal?

Nope.
You don't have to like him, you don't have to befriend him. But you do have to forgive him to let go of the anger/bitterness. You're not doing it for him. You're doing it for you.
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Hello! I've been engaged since Feb 2011. The only obstacle is that he wants me to stay home & not work! I enjoy working outside the home and not considered domesticated. I spent 8 yrs of my life in college, and want more learning.! Is this a doomed relationship? Should we quit this thing? Thx!

If you can't resolve this very big issue? Yes.
You're at odds about a fundamental issue of how you plan to live your life. This isn't a "compromise it out" issue.
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BF didn't want to meet my male close BFF who is in town but bugs me abt mtg female frnd who lives near. I wnt to meet all his friends fem/male but he has a prob w/ male. He says he trusts me but doesn't really give me a reason why? Insecure maybe? He's also type "I don't like men lkg at my woman"

Let it ride. Not that serious.
Also, it's frustrating to watch another man know your partner better than you do.

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