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You once mentioned that you normally do your own hair styling. Did you do the braids that you currently wear yourself? They look great.

No. I can't do braids. I can barely braid and don't have the patience. This takes 5.5 hours with three women working hard.
And thank you!
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Belle, I just ended a long-standing relationship. During our time together, we made and I gave him several intimate videos and pictures. Is it considered bad manners to ask that he return or destroy these things? God knows I wouldn't want nobody else to see them.

ask. hope he obliges.
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why do people check their bf/GF's social media pages and is it always insecurity? what if you just wanna see what's going on in their day/what they're talking about?

Curiosity. Not always insecurity.

Middle sch. friend has asked me to b apart of her wedding. Is saying no looked @ as saying i don't wanna be your friend anymore?I'm on a personal journey(therapy/spirituality), and just cant tolerate commitments right now.

Then say that. Don't just say "no."
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B, what's the best way to suggest a different change to your man's wardrobe. Would I make suggestions or just buy it myself? He buy clothes that are wayy to big for him. I know I wouldnt want him saying "eww wear this from now one" I just want him to look polished.

Compliment your way to better clothing. "You know what I would love on you?" "I love it when you wear..." "Ooh! You would look good in this.
Be careful though. I did this was CBW and complimented to death the one shirt I liked. (He needed... help.) It was a plaid shirt. He now has an ENTIRE closet of plaid shirts... and Chucks (like Jody).
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My BFF is married to a man who disrespects her and naysays her dreams all the time. She loves him, but hates this trait. She told me she would never get divorced because she divorced once before in a family of no divorces for generations. Her current dream is a winner, MMOB or encourage her?

Encourage dream. Don't comment on husband.
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Hi B! Afraid I'm hearing what I want to hear instead of the truth. Me and BF have been very rocky & he seems checked out so asked him how he feels about us/the future. He says he "I love you and don't want to lose you"..that's not exactly equivalent to wanting to be in the relationship tho is it?

Ask direct questions that tell you what you really want to know What you asked doesn't. You want to know what the problem is and if he wants to be in a relationship with you.
Ask him that: "do you want to be in this relationship?"
"We're not happy. I suggest we do XYZ to make it better. What are your suggestions?"
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Re: Guys Looking at other Women. Thank you, but does it mean that he's uninterested in me?

Not necessarily. It means he's too comfortable and rude.
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HELP! I have no problem attracting attention from guys but the problem is I never attract anyone that I actually like in return & this isn't me being too picky. Reciprocation is BIG for me but it just never works out that way so I end up settling & hurting everyone involved. How do I change this?

Stop settling and taking quantity over quality. Keep looking until you find a good match. Also, be upfront about what you expect from the guy.

Guy and I speak daily for abt a mth, had a 1st date planned for Friday night, dude asked Tuesday, we finalized everything Thursday. We texted a little on Friday morn, closer to the time of date, I text, no response. Haven't heard from dude since. According to Twitter, he's alive so what gives?

You're done. There are few things that say more about how someone feels about you than standing them up.
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Is it possible to be in love with the idea of being in love and not be in love at all? Maybe just wanting so bad to have someone that you've convinced yourself that youre madly in love with said person

Yep. And unfortunately, a lot of people do it and to their own detriment.
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Tomorrow is our one month anniversary- I'm super excited but my bf sees it as "just another day". I'm 20 & this is my first real relationship so I'm not sure if I'm over exaggerating the situation. Do people celebrate the months, or is that more of a teenage thing?

You celebrate each year, not each month.
It's normal for him not to be excited about it.
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Been w/ bf for 3 months. He and I are both 22 and in school, he wants to "take a semester off" to pursue his dreams as a boutique owner and clothing line. I've been trying to convince him to finish and so has his family Am I out of line for weighing in? He says I'm doubting him...ugh what to do?

Speak your piece, as you've done, then let to go. He's and adult and can make his own choices.
Is this best? Probably not. But it's life. Not agreeing with his choice doesn't give you the right to badger him about about the one he's making. Leave that to his parents. Your next conversation with him needs to be about the plan he has for the clothing line. I'm hearing dream. What's the plan?

How do you handle "not Everyone is meant to be forever"? Just graduated, can't find a job, so I'm moving back home next month, unless a miracle happens. In my 4 yrs out of state I FINALLY meet someone (4months) and now I have to leave. I don't want anyone else to have him, even if I'm away!

Been there. Work furiously to get back to where you want to be. You want to be there to work AND him, so it's not like you're moving for a man. Ask him if he's down for long distance.

Hi Belle! I hate texting and it seems as though every time I give out my #, guys want to have full blown conversations via text. Would it be rude or weird if the next time I gave my number out, I give a disclaimer and highly recommend he not text but call. Is that off-putting for a 1st encounter?

Not rude, but it's like telling people you're used to dysfunction. Not the best first impression.
Tell the texters during first text convo that you prefer to talk. If they are interested enough, pick up. And after you say you want a call, stop responding.
You teach people how to treat you.
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Guy made me mad instead of having a text argument I called him with no answer I then texted him and asked him to call back . He responds hours later with "hi" I again ask him to call but no call in two days I refuse to let this go bc it was big should I try to call or keep it moving ?

Tell him that you need him to call you. He'll pick up the phone if it's important to him.
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(Not OP)You don't rearrange your life w/o a ring. What of your rearrange your life & nothing comes to fruition? I'll feel like a failure. It's like you do all this for you & your guy, w the hopes of getting married then nothing. How do you bounce back from that?

Ok. You gambled and lost. Life isn't over.
You failed. It doesn't make you a failure at anything but that one act. Don't define your life by one moment.
You pick up and move on. Don't wallow in your bad decision, make better ones. You aren't where you want to be. Ok. Where is it that you want to go? Make a new plan.
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Me and my bf are going into our last year of law school this fall and it's time to start deciding where we will practice after we graduate. We've been together for a year but I want to know if he wants me to go with him or if he'll follow me. Should I ask him? Is it bad for me to follow him?

you don't rearrange your life without a ring. if you're not engaged, take the best option you get even if its away from him. he should do the same.
talk to him to see if he's thinking long term. it's a worthy discussion to see where his head is
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Am I just going to have to accept the guys I date looking at other women? Everyone says I'm overreacting but I just want to feel like the apple of his eye when we're out.

not exactly. everyone looks. everyone.
when it's too the point that you're catching him regularly, it's a problem and disrespectful. he's not blind, but he doesn't get to be rude. when it happens, don't just stand there and ignore it, speak up. a "hey, you know i can see you, right?" should be enough to get him to sharpen his skills.
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I started talking to this new guy. He was awesome... until he asked for nudes. I politely declined his request - not trying to be out here like Mimi - but now he's acting strangely standoffish as if I did something wrong by saying no. What's going on here?

You didnt to give him his way (nor should you). Next him if he doesn't straighten up.

I've been seeing a guy for three months. After we became intimate, he started acting very funny style. Anyway, I called him today & he answered. There was a girl in the background, & he told me he had company. I gagged!! Demetria, was I just used for sex?

yes.
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Guy I've known a while seems interested but I can't tell Whenever we are in each other's cities he makes a point to link up Visiting his city this wkend & he asked me to lunch, drinks. always the perfect gentleman picking up the tab opening doors, etc & this time he asked me if I was dating some1...

"Cont...(guy seems interested) and he asked what I was looking for in a man and asked how soon I was moving back to town as that's my goal. I was thinking "wait, is this a date" it seems he is interested but he hasn't made a concrete move. Should I just wait or say something to let him know I'm open"
he's definitely interested. yes, say that you are as well so that he is clear. he may not want to do long distance, hence the questions.
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The guy I'm talking to always initiates text conversations but then never says anything and answers short, it's like pulling teeth. When we speak on the phone we can talk for hours. what is that?

he sucks at texting. everyone is not versatile in every medium. phone calls trump texting.
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