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I like this guy... But he's madly in love with me but I think he's gay. He wants is to start dating but I'm afraid to for my fear of him one day deciding to come out, my feelings would be really hurt ** I don't have anything against gays, I would be hurt at the fact that I would be used as a cover u

if you genuinely think he's gay, whether he is or not, don't date him.
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I found a hair clip at my boo's house. He had friends over a few weeks ago, but this is the first time I'm seeing this clip on the mantle. It's definitely not mine. What should I do?

Ask him who it belongs to and how it got there. See what he says.

I dont know how to tell my bf I am annoyed w/him w/out being bitchy.He has a big project coming up and he's busy but I have felt neglected the past few wks-telling me he will call me back and not doing so, txting "love you" instead of saying it.Last nite was the last straw.I need to be a priority 2

If you can keep being patient til after the project, it will serve you better.
If you cannot: "I want to be so supportive of your work and I know you are busy, but I feel discarded. It hurts." Then tell him exactly what you want him to do.
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I'm not ok with my bf and my cousin texting. They've met twice, but I'd prefer to keep my circles separate, for now. He thinks I'm overreacting, but I'm pretty pissed. Is there a middle ground or do I get the final say since it's MY family?

You get a final say.
That said you can't really stop this train. It's out if the station. Your have better luck appealing to your cousin.

I get that a guy doesn't see you as a priority if his calls and messages are few and far between, and hasn't followed through on taking you out again but if that's the case why would a guy randomly message you from time to time? I'm really confused about this guy.

Keep you "in pocket." Basically, if he ever decides he wants to show real interest or have sex, the chances of you being receptive are higher because he's stayed in touch and established good will.
That, and men get bored too. Sometimes they just want someone to reach out to, and better to respond. It strokes the ego some.
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Friend sent my dude a happy birthday on social media. They only know each other through me and only see each other every other month through me. I have a real funny feeling that I can't explain. Should I keep an eye out or am I on some other stuff?

Keep an eye out and ask him about it.
That funny feeling is called intuition. Oprah calls it "God trying to tell you something".
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Dating guy whose career is more demanding than mine. Rare that happens. He says he'll make time to date me b/c he likes me. His def'n of making time is wknd dates & less common wkdy ones. The limited together time bothers me, but I like him. Thoughts? Doubt anything fishy like other gf/rel'ship/fam.

He works a lot. Weekdays are unpredictable and demanding, so he offers you weekends. This is a sacrifice you make when dating a man is is climbing the career ladder in a competitive industry.
Keep dating him. He's consistently making time for you when he is free, ie showing interest.
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I know Jason is a friend or whatever but don't you think he was an a-hole to Daisy on the show? Wrong for her to be late but if he was that annoyed he should have cancelled IMO. Sorry if you already discussed this on twitter.

Tell him, not me. I didn't do it (or know they knew each other until after their business meeting.)
I don't comment on Jason's business relationships. Ever.

RE: cooking at my place & bringing food to his; we've been dating for 4 months, he takes me out 1-2 times a week. Very consistent so I think he deserved a home cooked meal (which he enjoyed) :-)

yes. i agree. good to hear it!
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Ever heard of continuing the chase even after marriage? Makes sense to u or is this not necessary?

Totally necessary. A woman should always have some mystery and some time to herself.
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I get the trust factor in not snooping but isn't a large part of us all not snooping is bc there really could b something there and we'd rather not know/ disturb our otherwise wise happy home. So unless it's blatant and glaring we choose to not. Go looking for trouble...

Nahhhh, boo.
It's actually is about trust and the lack thereof.
Trust is a foundation element for a healthy relationship. If you can't believe what your man says without checking up behind him, the relationship is doomed. You can't build a healthy relationship without trust.
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Belle, how do you distinguish between a man just being a good friend to you or being interested in you? Dude has held me down on several occasions & even talked to me 'til wee hours in the morning when I was devastated over a recent break-up. Maybe I'm just skeptical of a man being genuinely kind wa

If he hasn't pushed up, none of this counts.
You're not telling me he's done anything that one of your girls wouldn't do.
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FWB said I'm doing too little outside of the bed. Confused bcus while I've expressed going beyond FWB to actual dating he seemed hesitant. Now he's saying I couldn't have meant that bcus my actions haven't changed.

Explain to him why his logic is off.
He seems hesitant, hasn't changed. Why would you. This requires a TEAM effort.
And this dilemma is one of the reasons that trying to upgrade from FWB is so hard. You've established a pattern of being disconnected. It's awkward to actually connect after that.
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When my fiancé and I fight even after we makeup I feel panicked like we might break up so I start checking in on all kinds of stuff like future plans. He seems fine. What's wrong with me!?

You're insecure about the relationship, despite the ring.
Couples argue. It is what it is. An argument isn't a sign that the relationship is over.

No OP but if her friend asked for her to snoop how is she responsible for ruining the friendship? She should've asked her man or snooped on her own, seems to me the bf said some things about the friend being in their business and she ate it all up instead of being real about the fact she asked her 2

She isn't responsible for ruining the friendship.
But what she did was indeed messy. Het friend chose to bail because she needs to blame someone and she doesn't want to hold the MARRIED man who lied to her accountable. She's also embarrassed that her friend knows how messy her choice is.
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Do u bite your tongue when someone asks stupid , obvious questions (not on here) ie: I was in a play and it was televised. My friends and fam are asking if it was me they saw on TV. Um.. I want to say nope not me. Bc they kno damn well it was. Am I being petty?

Yes. It's not fathomable to some folks that someone they know is on TV, especially if they were not told about it.
Whether I bite my tongue depends on my mood.
Just answer "yeah, it's me" and move on. It's annoying because it's obvious to you and you've been asked so many times. Everyone doesn't know that perspective.

Re suspicious friend: What do you say would've been the best way to handle her request? "I'd rather not get involved?"

Yep.

I feel like my life is at a standstill and I need a new challenge. Work is great, but I need more. Is that normal? I'm contemplating just picking up and venturing into a new city. single, no kids, I figure why not explore?

You don't change inside issues by changing physical locations. Figure out what the real issue is before you shake up your life.
You can move somewhere else, but after the excitement wears off, you'll just be bored again.

I'm one of those 20's miss independent, pay all my bills, work, about to grad from college type of lady (yes, the stereotype to the TEE.) & I absolutely CANNOT EVER get a guy to see me as girlfriend material but I'm told I would make the "ideal wife." I want to be in a r'ship. dont need, WANT. help!

Then you have to give off that you want a man and there's a place for him in your life. Because you can do it all doesn't mean you should when there's a man around. He's there to help, LET HIM.
Also, I'm proud if your accomplishments, but you don't get a gold star here. You're doing what you're supposed to do. You should get your education and pay your own bills and work. This is like rewarding men for taking care of their own kids.
It also isn't how you "sell" to the audience you want. Got an education and a place? That's nice. Your audience-men- wants to know if you're sweet, nurturing, supportive, loyal, etc.
The "ideal wife" thing is a kind brush off.
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Re: Ejaculation: We used a condom the entire time we had sex. He pulled out and claims the condom came off as he had an orgasm.

No it didn't. He thought you'd be cool with it. You weren't. He knows now.

Friend suspected her man was hiding something & asked me 2 do a little digging (I'm a reformed "snooper" & can find almost anything... she knows this). I found out he was married. I just provided her w/ the info I found & let her draw her own conclusions.

"Suspicious friend cont.: Now that they've decided 2 work things out, she's been distant 2 me. My guy says things will never be the same between her & I. Have I just ruined a friendship?"
more than likely.
and you're not reformed if you're still doing it. doing it for other people still counts.
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