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I'm hesitant about taking a friend out the friend zone and dating him. We've been friends for 10 years, he was interested from the jump but I wasn't so we became best friends in the end. We're both single now and he asked me out on a date to test the waters. How could this possibly go right/wrong?

if you're genuinely friends, the friendship can be recovered if things go left. it'll take a minute, but you can keep the friendship in the long run.
right? you have fun and you build a relationship.
wrong? it's awkward. ya'll call it a wrap. or worse, one thinks it's great, the other thinks it's awful and you have to have a REALLY difficult conversation.
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30 something female In relationship for 3 years with a man, have been bisexual all my life. Boyfriend is aware, I think that is why we aren't engaged. I'm Unfulfilled. Should I finally come out to my family , leave him and start dating women? Help Belle :)

don't overhaul your life at once. that's a lot.
what makes you unfulfilled? Is it not dating women? Or is it "just" your man? Do you want to tell your family? Do you want to start dating women? Or are you just willing to do almost anything to get rid of the nagging unfulfilled feeling? Pinpoint what you want and how to get it before you start making moves.

Ouch. That one hurt me and wasn't even the intended recipient. "He might claim her when he feels like he has no options or hits rock bottom with someone else. He'll stay long enough to be nursed back to health and move on" Introspection time. Thanks for the tough love.

never mean to hurt. ever.
but it will hurt worse investing more time in a man who won't commit and then he bails after you've rocked with him at his worst.
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I dn't have male frnds mybe u can help. Frnd has been dealing w a guy w no title for 2yrs. It's been consistent and he treats her like his girl besides sex with other wmn, smtimes. If it was just sex he would have moved on right? He claims to have love not ready for rlship but it's more than sex

He likes her, for sure. Just not enough to commit.
He might claim her when he feels like he has no options or hits rock bottom with someone else. He'll stay long enough to be nursed back to health and move on
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Over the Christmas vacation a male friend's mistress stated to me not to speak to him at events. The mistress believes me and him have something going even though we both have told her she is in the wrong and the only time me and him speak is at events. How should I handle this???? I mean he is m

She doesn't have any rank. If he tells you not to speak, so be it. But her?!
That said, they sound like drama. And he's not shutting her down. I'm all for GP, on some things, but is this worth the effort? Choose your battles.
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Went to his hometown for the holidays. I knew about the trip weeks before it happened. Last vacay he hit me up as soon as he got back into town. so my expectations were based off that.

If he isn't calling when he's back, he's not showing interest.
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Is it always a bad idea to be friends with a married man or man in a relationship. After reading that woman's questions I'm questioning some of my friendships

If you meet them while committed, probably a bad idea.
The time spent/connection that you need to establish an actual friendship is hard to build when someone has a romantic interest in their life.
I'm really curious as to how people define friendship (not you, per se). It's more than we meet, and BOOM! friends! It sounds more like acquaintances and folks waiting for the gf/ wife to mess up
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Belle, have a really good guy friend that I'm ultra close to who has this pattern of going off the grid to decompress after stressful situations. Usually only lasts a few days and he's back like nothing happened. Is this a normal thing that men do to process rather than just talking about it?

It's not a man thing, specifically. More like a personality thing. Some people just like to go sit in their hole for a bit and figure stuff out.
It's also something people who battle with depression do.
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Been seeing guy for a while. Went on 2 week vacay , I know he's back because he teaches and school started again today. I received no form of contact. I've been on 2 dates since his absence , safe to say it's over? Last vacay he Hit me up soon as he got home.

Pretty much.
Who did he go on vacay with?
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What did the guy's email with the 16 year old say? Does he seem sane?

He types like a teenager ("4" instead of "for"; "2moro" instead of "tomorrow) and his logic is horrendous. He says the 16 year old needs to be more mature and stop running to other people (like me, her parents) for help. At the time he was emailing, he had taken her phone so she can't call anyone or access social media.
Says their relationship is a "fling" and he cares about her "half the time".
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Re: 4 yr relationship with bad sex. No! Just trying to come up things I can do other than having a conversation to get us back where we used to be.

The conversation is the only thing that's going to help and the fastest way to a resolution. Why are you avoiding it?
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So a guy from work has been trying to get my attention for 2 1/2 months, haven't given him the TOD, finally decided to give him my # after he asked, only to find out that he wants a cut buddy, are guys really that persistent just for ass ? I don't get it. T

Yes. They are.
Oh, and you don't get your meat where you get your bread. Dating at work is hella risky.
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Do I need to tell my on again off again bf that I was pregnant and had a miscarriage? I wasn't aware I was pregnant until it happened.

If he's on again, I would think that would be something you would share. It's a pretty big occurrence in your life, no?
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How involved should one be with their bf's kid(s) if me & bf plan to move in together later this year? What about interacting with kids mom?

But when he's got his kid, you should include him/her in whatever is going on. The kid is part of him.
As a GF, you don't interact with the kid's mom other than pleasantries. That's BFs job.
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Since condoms are not 100% effective should you not have sex with men who in general aren't responsible because there's still that 2% chance?

Condoms are not an excuse to make bad decisions.
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Re: 16 year old. She posted this on another person's ask.fm and they basically told her the same thing you did. I hope she's okay.

I saw. I know the other person well. I expected her answer to be about the same.
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I did apologize. Perfusively...she told me to leave her the f@#% alone and refuses to even talk to me.

Then you gotta leave her alone.
Also, if you're getting so high that you don't remember what you say/do, that a sign you need to stop getting high.
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What should I do if I feel like the guy in my life is good, but I want someone more…refined? Mature? Idk. He acts like a big kid sometimes. Occasionally, this is refreshing, but not sure how I feel about that long-term.

If he's open to learning new ish, being more responsible/ mature, teach him.
If not, this doesn't get better with time.
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I got really high and said some disrespectful things to my close friend I wish I could remember and take back. Now she hates me and wants to be done, I really feel horrible. How can I fix this?

Apologize.
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Not op sex proposition: so if u waitin for comittment before sex, you shouldn't make out as it can be seen as mixed signals!

You can make out, but if you're waiting for a commitment to have sex, may be best to stop before the dry humping/grinding part. Ain't no sense in getting all riled up and it not go anywhere. That sucks for everyone.!
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