Not a Q, just an observation Re: Your and CBW workouts, you are looking too cute on the new book cover. Those workouts really paid off and it is good that he brought it up.
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What do you think is the best gift for wedding?
Money.
Abt weight OP:it wasnt nicely. I feel lik he was also being more blunt bc i always say he doesnt say how he feels&he told me "if u want us to go further& be married than I need u to get in shape". I have put on 10-15lbs since we've been 2gether.he wants me2 be more inshape than when we met.
Oh. Those are important details.
He gotta go. This is just the beginning if you stick around.
He gotta go. This is just the beginning if you stick around.
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Is four weeks at a new gig too soon to ask for feedback from boss? If so, when is a good time?
90 days unless you really feel like you're screwing up.
Have you ever had a huge crush on someone for no reason? You didn't really know them but you thought they cutest thing ever? What do you do?
Cutie run him/ her.
Moving to nyc for an awesome internship in jan. and hopefully grad school in the fall. I know no one there. How do I meet people in a new town and really take advantage of this amazing city?
Play nicely with the other interns at your job and go to intern events and go out a lot. Yes, alone is fine. Watch what you drink. Take a cab home after 11.
Ask friends if they have any friends you can meet while you're in the city.
Ask friends if they have any friends you can meet while you're in the city.
i really like this girl who is my best-friend, I am unsure if she feels the same what do you suggest? thankyou
If you're a guy and she's hetero, tell her.
If you're a gal and she's into gals, tell her.
If you're a gal and she's NOT into girls, don't.
If you're a gal and she's into gals, tell her.
If you're a gal and she's NOT into girls, don't.
What is it about the girls who get all the guys attention? Sometimes they're not necessarily the prettiest girl at the ball or whatever but they don't have trouble attracting anyone.
They have nice bodies and/or great personalities and/or flirt.
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My BF& I hav been going to therapy & recently I asked him2 be open about what he would lik for me to make changes toward& one of thing he said 2 get in shape like how u were abt 5yrs ago which hes seen pics of. I have put on about 10-15lbs. We've only been 2gether 2yrs. Am i wrong to b mad &say FU.
You asked him a question, he have you his honest an honest answer. You can't be mad at him for this. He wasn't rude or condescending, which is generally the problem in these situations.
Looks are important. They aren't everything, but they are a thing. Let's no pretend otherwise.
Take an honest self assessment-- he met you one way and has been there for 2 years, but do you need to lose the weight, or is he being picky?
I've been in your position. The guy was a complete ***hole about it (and I was the same size as when we met. The story is in my book, A Belle in Brooklyn).
I dealt with it again last year when I out on a LOT of weight and CBW finally said, "B, WE need to go to the gym." (We'd both gained, but I moreso than him). I didn't like hearing it and my ego was bruised, but he was right. WE worked out together (and apart too) and WE got in better shape.
If you feel like BF is being reasonable and you just didn't want to hear the truth, lick your wounds for a minute, then tell him you would like his help getting the weight off. You BOTH should incorporate fitness AND healthy eating into both of your lives. This doesn't have to be a dealbreaker.
Looks are important. They aren't everything, but they are a thing. Let's no pretend otherwise.
Take an honest self assessment-- he met you one way and has been there for 2 years, but do you need to lose the weight, or is he being picky?
I've been in your position. The guy was a complete ***hole about it (and I was the same size as when we met. The story is in my book, A Belle in Brooklyn).
I dealt with it again last year when I out on a LOT of weight and CBW finally said, "B, WE need to go to the gym." (We'd both gained, but I moreso than him). I didn't like hearing it and my ego was bruised, but he was right. WE worked out together (and apart too) and WE got in better shape.
If you feel like BF is being reasonable and you just didn't want to hear the truth, lick your wounds for a minute, then tell him you would like his help getting the weight off. You BOTH should incorporate fitness AND healthy eating into both of your lives. This doesn't have to be a dealbreaker.
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Do guys care about how much money their girl or girl's family has? At the end of the day do they want someone who comes from the same tax bracket as them or does it not matter?
Not really. There are some incredibly shallow folk, but like her money is rarely a real factor
I know you had a "no #s, no letters" rule in college but when do you think those guys kinda grow out of that whole scene?
Some don't. Some do about 5 years after graduation.
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Was talking to a group of male friends about women offering to pay for a date. I offer to pay on the fourth date if I have a connection w the guy and he's been a gentleman up to then. What is your take?
Date 3 or 4 is what I usually suggest.
My husband wants sex more which I agree but he wants it more spontaneous like in the kithxhen or living room while I like planned/bedroom sex. What todo?
Both. Sometimes you heal be it his way , sometimes you have it yours
After months of saying zip, I told a friend I like him. He says he knows, but wasn't going to make a move bc earlier I told him I see him as a friend. Things have changed. Never got to close that convo loop...got cut off. What do I do next, if anything?
If you were cut off, do nothing. His actions say he is not interested.
Hey I am a writer who wants to publish fiction yet does many things like curate art exhibits , make film documentaries and even teach. As a former book editor will agents/publishers put me in a box? And be hesitate towards my manuscript because of my other monikers of "curator" etc
Depends on what the basis if the fictional book is about and how good the manuscript is
1 of my gfs is an art major. She asked my bf to pose for her in a painting for a class. She has a studio in her house, and I was shocked to come by and see she was painting him in the buff. He said it wasn't a big deal, but I'm really bothered by this. Am I overreacting here?
No.
She should have asked you if it was ok and he should have asked you if it was ok.
She should have asked you if it was ok and he should have asked you if it was ok.
Is the new book self-published?
Yup.
I've been after my bf to go to church with me. He said he would if I watched porno videos with him. I really don't like that stuff, but I'd do it if he would come with me. Do you think it's a fair bargain?
"Let" him not go to church and you don't watch the pornos and call it a life.
If you want a man that goes to church, go find a man that WANTS to go or is willing to without a headache.
This tit for tat if you both doing things you really don't want to do for whatever reason is petty.
If you want a man that goes to church, go find a man that WANTS to go or is willing to without a headache.
This tit for tat if you both doing things you really don't want to do for whatever reason is petty.
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Going dutch on the first date. Yay or nay? He invited me out. I'm confused. Is this the new thing?
No. He invited. He pays. Period.
He doesn't? He's a wrap.
He doesn't? He's a wrap.
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My husband wants us to double with his bro and bros gf. Prob is I can't stand her she was extremely rude and distant to me when I first was introduced to fam. How do I get out of this?
You're sick. Start coughing.
That, or you just tell hubs straight up you're not feeling the GF.
That, or you just tell hubs straight up you're not feeling the GF.
What do you think of a man in a relationship who only has single male friends?
He's the first one.
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Guy on dating site hits me up$make a comment. I reply stating I agree. Then he goes into a few sentences critiquing my profile stating I was being repetitive on specific things&listed them which I disagree about. Is this how some men pick up women by critiquing them off the bat or should I run now?
Not men who actually like women (and I mean more than just liking sex with women.
Run far and fast.
Run far and fast.
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Also how do you feel about ask.fm now not allowing anonymous questions? Do you think you still lose "followers" because some ppl won't feel comfy having there name attached to their questions?
You don't have to use our real name. It's not different than any other part of the internet where your "name" is required to comment.
Even so Belle what about a back up plan BC can fail sometime too you know. I'm willing to bet it's probably not even about her tricking him . He's probably scared cause things just got real and he might not have been planning on staying with her from the jump now he's stuck
Nah. You gotta read all the responses. He was working OT to buy her a ring.
He was paying for BC that she said she was taking and then didn't -- he found them in trash. He's pretty in the clear here.
He was paying for BC that she said she was taking and then didn't -- he found them in trash. He's pretty in the clear here.
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The guy who Gf got preggers on purpose needs to take responsibility for his part as well bc if he was so gun ho on her not having kids why was he raw dogging her? This is what happens when you're careless he needs to put on his big boy draw and deal with this like a man
You didn't read the part where he paid for her BCs.
You can always make the "this is a consequence of having sex" argument, which I did, but as far as "responsibility" goes, he was paying for the pills-- very rare. That indicates there was a convo about not getting preggers now that she agreed to-- and then didn't hold up on her end.
Would a condom have been good idea? Absolutely. But it's not like he was using the pull out method and is surprised.
This wasn't a "I took my pills and the pregnancy is a fluke." This is I deliberately got pregnant bc I stopped taking my pills unbeknownst to you and didn't tell you about it for the last 2 mos that I've known I was.
You can always make the "this is a consequence of having sex" argument, which I did, but as far as "responsibility" goes, he was paying for the pills-- very rare. That indicates there was a convo about not getting preggers now that she agreed to-- and then didn't hold up on her end.
Would a condom have been good idea? Absolutely. But it's not like he was using the pull out method and is surprised.
This wasn't a "I took my pills and the pregnancy is a fluke." This is I deliberately got pregnant bc I stopped taking my pills unbeknownst to you and didn't tell you about it for the last 2 mos that I've known I was.
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