understand that people have reasons for not wanting to have sex with male bodied individuals including previous experiences and also just the fact that their sexuality is inherent? Requiring sex as a form of validation from females comes across as worryingly entitled and very coercive (2/2)

There is no "female sex".
Coercively gendering biology is violence.
Trans women are not "male bodied". You're assuming you know a trans woman's biological features, for a start. Some trans women have penises, some have vaginas, some have other genitals. Some trans women have oestrogen dominant hormone profiles, some have testosterone dominant, some have other hormonal makeups. Some have boobs, some don't. But in all cases, they are women, they are female, and therefore - as long as they choose to define themselves as such - they are female bodied.
I'm not advocating for every lesbian to be forced to have sex with a trans woman, no matter what her biology. I'm saying that anyone who automatically writes trans women out of their potential pool of people to be sexually attracted to, whilst being attracted to cis women, is a transmisogynist. You're making assumptions about trans women's bodies.
Yes, some people may have trauma surrounding certain body parts, or just not want to have sex involving certain body parts out of preference. Sex doesn't have to involve those body parts. Sex with a woman with a penis doesn't have to involve that woman's penis, just as sex between any two people doesn't have to involve, for example, the anus.
"requiring sex as validation" is emphatically NOT what I'm doing. I'm asking everyone to deconstruct their own experience of sexual attraction and the societal cissexism that affects it. In fact, if you're a transmisogynist, please DON'T go looking to have sex with trans women. Stay the heck away from them. They don't need your "validation".