I think therapists are great, even when everything is going great. A check in and assessment can’t hurt.
I have the same female bestie from when I was 12. My male bestie from when I was 19.
There are a couple other folks I’m equally close to, but I call them Sister or Bro.
It’s not on you to fix. The issue the other folks are having is with the engaged couple. So let the others either address it with them or move on and get over it.
Don’t give AF when it’s not your turn.
Also, they can invite whoever they want or don’t want to their wedding. Being mad about not getting an invite is petty.
“Bt she put it off 4 the same reason, not wanting 2 cause drama or a fight. That's when I said ok if u won't talk 2 her abt her comments, I don't want her over here anymore. It's nvr an issue until friend wants 2 come by& my gf is in awkward pos tryna figure out how to tell her no, to not upset me”
Oh. Yeah, she deserves to be banned then. If your GF won’t do it, then you can. It’s her friend, but in your house, you have a say about who can come in. And you can tell ol’ girl she isn’t welcome. That said, banning her is only effective if your lady backs you up and stops inviting her.
There is no right or wrong choice, just the choice you make.
If you don’t want to be a single mom, then your choice should be clear based on the information you provided about your BF. You’re gonna do the lion’s share of raising/caring for the child because by your description he isn’t ready or responsible. But you know that, and you’re still on the fence. So being a single mom isn’t actually your determining factor. So what is?
That’s subjective. What works for YOU may not work for someone else. What do YOU need for “restitution” in addition to an apology and acknowledgment?
He ghosted on you? It’s already over. Let it be.
Yup.
Delete him. And that’s the end of it for you.
Keep your guard up until he has shown you consistency over time. You have a valid reason to have your guard up. You don’t emotionally trust him. And you shouldn’t based on past behavior.