My question is for my younger sister who is 15. My sister just came out to my parents that she is a non-binary transgender and she want to be referred as they now. Anyways my parents never even responded. They told them and it's been three weeks nothing. Where do we go from here. ADVICE??
Here are some resources that might help:
“I Think I Might be Trans…Now What?” Pamphlet (Advocates for Youth)--http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/storage/advfy/documents/transgender.pdf
Resources from PFLAG about supporting Trans family members--https://community.pflag.org/transgender
Just started listening to your podcast. Love your content and how you approach it. Do you have any practical suggestions on how to have a fair fight in my relationship?
Thanks for writing in and listening to the show! xx
did you guys break up? your vibe is more friendly now on the new episode? maybe TMI but I was wondering why you guys stopped pod-casting?
I am 27, have been with my boyfriend for 7 years & we have a child together. Lately, I've been having mixed feelings about my sexuality. It's like women are all I can think about for the past year & I'm almost repulsed by men at this point. I feel guilty because of our daughter, any advice?
Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)
just discovered your podcast it's brilliant!
Hi Edie, jus wondering- I how did you and Elle meet? Not sure if you addressed this but it seems like you two are very close friends. Did you know each other for a while? I am asking each other because I have seen a lot of articles recently about women falling love with their close friends.
Hi Elle and Edie!! I'm Ana and I love your show. I am moving out of state with my gf of 1 year and am nervous about moving in with her. We both have never lived with anybody before. Do y'all have any advice? The stress of a move, finding new work, and new living arrangements is overwhelming. Thanks!
I'm a 23 year old lesbian and I came out two years ago. I just went on my first date last week (and my second date last night) and I'm dealing with a lot of fears. I don't know if I like her romantically because I'm so scared. I don't know if I'm ready for any kind of intimacy, even kissing. Help?
But in case you can't listen right now, here's a summary of our thoughts: It all really depends on what specifically you’re scared of. Is it that you’re not ready for physical intimacy, is it that you’re feeling that if you really start dating then you’re gonna be REALLY out, or is it just dating in general? Or, is it nervousness about not knowing what to do in terms of the physical stuff? Overall, regardless of what exactly your fears are about, if you’re feeling not ready for something, then respect that and give yourself time to figure things out. Fairer to you and whoever you’re dating. But congrats on the first and second dates, and you're being brave for putting yourself out there at all!
Write us back if this answer doesn’t help you at all and let us know more specifically what you’re feeling scared of and we'll try to help! I can talk a lot about how to try to have fun with dating, if that's what you need!
Just discovered your podcast. Thank you.
I am new to dating women and am loving the dating process but I am nervous to move things into sex territory. I have only been with men and have NO IDEA what I am doing. Tips? Please? Thank you!
whats the best thing about dating women for you? well, both you and Elle?
do you think you will ever be straight again? this isn't meant to be an insulting question, but how do you know your sexual fluidity won't flow the other way again?
Thanks for sending in a question! xx
I am a late bloomer. I was 37 when I fell head over heels for a girl at work. We are both married to men and we both have smallish kids. But we are so into each other it's crazy!!! Any advice for me?
Thanks for writing in, keep us posted on what happens!
Good luck, xx
Edie, you recentya wrote that you and your gf went through a tough time. Are things better now and if they are how did you get through it. i am going through a roough time right now in my relatioinship and could use some advice.
The solution was TALKING. A lot. And talking honestly, and about things that made us feel vulnerable. I think that each of us heard, and said, things that we maybe would have rather been kept inside, but if we had, we would have continued down a bad road for our relationship, because we would have been pretending that things were okay when they weren’t.
I don’t know the specifics of what’s happening in your relationship, of course, but whatever it is, the most important thing you can do to try to work through it is to talk to each other. About all of it. About every feeling and fear you’re having. But I think it’s really important to point out that Elle and I didn’t FIGHT to work through our issues. Yes we got loud sometimes, and there were many tears, but you have to talk it out remembering that you’re both on the same team. Try not to get nasty, unless the intention is for the relationship to end. I know from experience that the nasty things said in tough times leave deep and lasting wounds. If both of you still want to be together, if you want to get past this tough time and still be together, make sure to remember that and remind each other of that. You have to remember that the whole reason why everything is happening between the two of you, why you're trying so hard to come together, even if it's not quite working right now, is because you love each other, and are trying to make it work, but maybe don’t know how or are scared.
Be kind, even as you are sharing your hurt, or hearing things that hurt you to hear.
I hope this helps, anon. Keep me posted?