As-Salāmu ʿAlaykum Wa Rahmatullāh Wa Barakātuh - since Muslims are required to be known by their father's name - is it not Haraam when our Muslim women take their husbands' surname when they get married?
Wa 'Alaikum As-Salaam! The commandment you are referring is in reference to adopted children:
33:5] Allah has not made for any man two hearts in his breast; nor has He made those of your wives, from whom you keep away by calling them mothers, your real mothers, nor has He made your adopted sons your real sons. That is merely a word of your mouths; but Allah speaks the truth, and He guides to the right path.
[33:6] Call them by the names of their fathers. That is more equitable in the sight of Allah. But if you know not their fathers, then they are your brothers in faith and your friends. And there is no blame on you in any mistake you may unintentionally make in this matter, but what matters is that which your hearts intend. And Allah is Most Forgiving, Merciful.
As such it is better for Muslims to have their father's name as the last name so that the lineage can be well known and understood. It has become fashionable in the West for the wife to change her last name to her husband's.
As the Prophet (sa) said, "all actions are judged based on intentions". As such, if the lady continues to be known by her father's name, and only adopts her husband's name on some documents as an expression of love, there is no need to be too harsh about it, in my opinion. It is not a matter of halal or haraam. If she is doing something out of love and to demonstrate her love for her husband, it should not be turned into a serious issue. Loving one's spouse for the sake of Allah is also a good act in the eyes of Allah. As the verse above states, "what matters is that which your hearts intend".
33:5] Allah has not made for any man two hearts in his breast; nor has He made those of your wives, from whom you keep away by calling them mothers, your real mothers, nor has He made your adopted sons your real sons. That is merely a word of your mouths; but Allah speaks the truth, and He guides to the right path.
[33:6] Call them by the names of their fathers. That is more equitable in the sight of Allah. But if you know not their fathers, then they are your brothers in faith and your friends. And there is no blame on you in any mistake you may unintentionally make in this matter, but what matters is that which your hearts intend. And Allah is Most Forgiving, Merciful.
As such it is better for Muslims to have their father's name as the last name so that the lineage can be well known and understood. It has become fashionable in the West for the wife to change her last name to her husband's.
As the Prophet (sa) said, "all actions are judged based on intentions". As such, if the lady continues to be known by her father's name, and only adopts her husband's name on some documents as an expression of love, there is no need to be too harsh about it, in my opinion. It is not a matter of halal or haraam. If she is doing something out of love and to demonstrate her love for her husband, it should not be turned into a serious issue. Loving one's spouse for the sake of Allah is also a good act in the eyes of Allah. As the verse above states, "what matters is that which your hearts intend".
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