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If u were a scientist, what would you invent!!?😁
scientist does not mean inventor (at least not always)
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Do you think Taylor will go here or no? Haha
After the * Tokyo is the only Asian stop *(eyeroll) announcement I’ve pretty much given up hope lol. Unless I missed something that happened recently (and this is v. possible because I haven’t paid attention to this tour at all tbh)
Are there any celebrities that you hate but you don’t know why?
Not hatred, just irritation: Millie Bobby Brown. And Ariana Grande. I’m aware that there’s no reason to be annoyed but I am. 🤷🏻♀️
Are you afraid to ask people out on dates? 😊😊😊
I have no problem inviting people...it just so happens that 99% of the time, I don’t *want* to. 😜
Fave marvel film/s?
For the MCU, my favorite is the first Iron Man, followed very closely by the first Guardians of the Galaxy. That’s like top tier, but then I basically have a bunch of other MCU movies on my second tier that I love all the same on different days (the Cap trilogy, Avengers 1, Iron Man 3 [...and 2... damn i am such tony stark trash], Homecoming, Ragnarok, Black Panther, Infinity War).
For Sony Marvel... Probably Spider-Man 2. Fox Marvel... Maybe X-Men First Class. And Logan, although I have no intentions of ever watching that again because the Prof X shit was traumatic.
For Sony Marvel... Probably Spider-Man 2. Fox Marvel... Maybe X-Men First Class. And Logan, although I have no intentions of ever watching that again because the Prof X shit was traumatic.
Why do you think it’s not worth it to go to Japan for Taylor? Lol
Because I’m not rich? Lol
Basta yun. Thanks nen. You can reply if you like pero ok lang po pag hindi.
5/5 -- Oh my gosh I'm floored that you took some comfort from my answer before... it's not TMI, please share whatever you need to share on here. It breaks my heart to read how somber the tone of your message is now, though. If I might offer some more advice and perspective now that I'm also older and veered off course a bit...?
First off, if it helps, obviously I'm not a graduate of UP myself, and there are so many of us! 99% of people I know aren't UP students/graduates. And in the last ten years or so I don't remember ever being asked why I didn't study in UP. The choice of school looms so large at the start of college, but afterwards, I don't think it weighs as heavy as your choice of program. Now, I'm not trying to minimize the prestige of UP or your dream of getting there in any way, I just hope you can take comfort in knowing that your personal success is in no way tied to any one institution. Is the course you want to take offered somewhere else? Then you can still pursue it, I hope?
And you can always try to take up masters in UP in the future! That's still an option, right? It's not the end of your story and I hope you never have to think that way.
Remember that you're always allowed to reinvent yourself and contradict yourself and be different from what anyone ever expected you to be, including yourself. And the expectations of other people are just noise. I mean this. If you don't let that noise in, it won't affect you. And the people who love you will accept your successes AND failures (although sometimes you may have to give them time to process their own feelings).
Re: "forgiving yourself" Awe, man, sending hugs your way, like that kind of feeling is so familiar to me and it's making me want to cry. But I'm betting you did what you could, obviously from your messages alone I can see the strength of your dream, and so you've got nothing to forgive yourself for. Don't blame yourself too much; the universe is shitty that way; we make all our plans and then it reminds us that we're never the ones in control. And every student in the world has failed an exam at some point. Please, please don't beat yourself up for it.
I'm rooting for you, I hope you don't stay sad for long and start being excited for your chance to chase a brand new dream.
And know that your message to me now has inspired me to work better at posting regularly on my blog. I didn't think I had any more readers other than myself lol. Thank you so much, REALLY, and give me an update once you find your different path! Sending love and energy and good vibes your way <3
First off, if it helps, obviously I'm not a graduate of UP myself, and there are so many of us! 99% of people I know aren't UP students/graduates. And in the last ten years or so I don't remember ever being asked why I didn't study in UP. The choice of school looms so large at the start of college, but afterwards, I don't think it weighs as heavy as your choice of program. Now, I'm not trying to minimize the prestige of UP or your dream of getting there in any way, I just hope you can take comfort in knowing that your personal success is in no way tied to any one institution. Is the course you want to take offered somewhere else? Then you can still pursue it, I hope?
And you can always try to take up masters in UP in the future! That's still an option, right? It's not the end of your story and I hope you never have to think that way.
Remember that you're always allowed to reinvent yourself and contradict yourself and be different from what anyone ever expected you to be, including yourself. And the expectations of other people are just noise. I mean this. If you don't let that noise in, it won't affect you. And the people who love you will accept your successes AND failures (although sometimes you may have to give them time to process their own feelings).
Re: "forgiving yourself" Awe, man, sending hugs your way, like that kind of feeling is so familiar to me and it's making me want to cry. But I'm betting you did what you could, obviously from your messages alone I can see the strength of your dream, and so you've got nothing to forgive yourself for. Don't blame yourself too much; the universe is shitty that way; we make all our plans and then it reminds us that we're never the ones in control. And every student in the world has failed an exam at some point. Please, please don't beat yourself up for it.
I'm rooting for you, I hope you don't stay sad for long and start being excited for your chance to chase a brand new dream.
And know that your message to me now has inspired me to work better at posting regularly on my blog. I didn't think I had any more readers other than myself lol. Thank you so much, REALLY, and give me an update once you find your different path! Sending love and energy and good vibes your way <3
study for college (literally everyone thought i was going to be in up), and im trying to piece myself back together and 'go a different path'. I'm trying to forgive myself still. Thanks for your kind words Nen. I'll never forget it.
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You may not realize it, but your advice had helped me to stave off thoughts of offing myself or hurting myself because I failed to get into my dream school. I know this is a bit too TMI but I just wanted you to know. Still up to now I feel very heartbroken by the expectations on where I will -
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- I failed to get into my dream school, the one I've been dreaming of since forever. I am 18 now and I've been reading your blogs since I was 14 I think. And I want you to know that despite the heart crushing disappointment I experienced, I am finding solace in your answer to my question back then-
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Nen, no need to publish this, but I do want you to know.. I was the one who sent you the ask years ago on what I should do if I failed to get into my dream school. Back then I was much younger and had not yet taken the upcat - the one I was so scared of failing. And guess what, I did fail. 1/n
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I want to go to JPN to see Taylor, but there’s VISA and shit. I think my money in the bank is not enough to get approved, can you give me some advice? I get really sad when I though of not seeing Taylor again, why does she hates us??! :/ she said shes trying as many fans, but she won’t even go here
I would love to help but I am not well informed about the process. I also don’t have a visa and I haven’t looked into getting one yet.
Yeah it sucks that she’s not even stopping by, if not here in the PH, nearer countries at least. I get that it’s a stadium tour but surely she knows we’re going to be happy even with a low budget version? Oh well.
My only piece of advice is to maybe stay away from tour updates. I have not followed much content and it’s been so great to my mental health. Like it helps me see clearly that concerts are a luxury/privilege that I can live happily without
Hugs to you :)
Yeah it sucks that she’s not even stopping by, if not here in the PH, nearer countries at least. I get that it’s a stadium tour but surely she knows we’re going to be happy even with a low budget version? Oh well.
My only piece of advice is to maybe stay away from tour updates. I have not followed much content and it’s been so great to my mental health. Like it helps me see clearly that concerts are a luxury/privilege that I can live happily without
Hugs to you :)
Do you want to go to Japan to see Taylor?
Is it insane that I don’t? I mean. Yes, I’d love to see her live again. But there is no scenario in my head where having to go to the trouble of flying to Japan and back just to see her is worth it. Like, if Taylor thinks that’s what Asian Swifties have to do, I’m sorry but I disagree. We don’t deserve this.
(Bear in mind that I’m not too invested in the rep era, and I’ve already met her before. These are definintely influencing my judgment)
(Bear in mind that I’m not too invested in the rep era, and I’ve already met her before. These are definintely influencing my judgment)
When was the moment you realized you no longer cared about the expectations of others regarding your career choices
I can’t pinpoint the exact moment because it’s been a long road getting here (aggravated by anxiety which is literally a disorder characterized by caring too much about what other people think) but ultimately it was down to realizing the simple truth that if I would try to appease other people I would be miserable for the rest of my life, but if I stopped caring, I would be happy. And that was an easy choice to make.
Also I got very annoyed at the thought of people wanting me to fit into this limited box that is their perception of success. Like. I understand that perhaps you love me and are concerned about me but if you think I’m that small, fuck y’all. ;-)
Also I got very annoyed at the thought of people wanting me to fit into this limited box that is their perception of success. Like. I understand that perhaps you love me and are concerned about me but if you think I’m that small, fuck y’all. ;-)
Do you ever feel like you're in a movie and you're wondering what the ending will be like?
The ending will always be death
Nen, you're a great person. Please don't ever doubt the decisions you've made to get to where you are now. It's the best version of you because it's the one you chose and loved and made real
Um wow this is so out of nowhere i am crying??? Where do you live anon i want to send you a fruit basket 😭
(but seriously thank you, bless you for taking the time to send this, i will hold that last sentence close to my chest)
(but seriously thank you, bless you for taking the time to send this, i will hold that last sentence close to my chest)
You probably can’t share what you heard tho? Hahaha!
It’s really nothing lol (0.0000000001% chance like I said) but like ... some possible concert organizers on our local end haven’t explicitly said she’s not coming. It seems like they’re still bidding for something, when they should be saying it’s not on the cards anymore, right? I mean it could be for PR purposes, not saying no outright, but my dumbass hopeful self is like BUT STILL. WHAT IF. 😩😂
Taylor’s apparently only going to Japan! Live Nation said ONE AND ONLY ASIAN STOP!!! ugh why does she do this everytime? I’m so sad
See, this may be why I just avoided all rep tour content altogether. I’m tired of heartbreak like this lol. Like, we have one of the biggest fanbases in the world here, no joke. But despite our efforts, despite the fact that we’ve consistently shown WE CAN & WILL SPEND MONEY, walang physical albums dito, wala pang tour. Are we even sure that she remembers our country exists? 🙃
WHAT DID NON JAPANESE ASIANS DO TO DESERVE THIS TREATMENT @ TAYLORSWIFT13
(But. Also. We’ve heard some shit that makes me stubbornly hold on to 0.00000000001% shred of hope left. If that helps. Haha)
WHAT DID NON JAPANESE ASIANS DO TO DESERVE THIS TREATMENT @ TAYLORSWIFT13
(But. Also. We’ve heard some shit that makes me stubbornly hold on to 0.00000000001% shred of hope left. If that helps. Haha)
Do you like korean fashion?
It’s cute? But I could never pull that style off haha
Anong shade ng new hair color mo? And where did u get it done? 😊
I ... don’t know the exact shade. Haha. I got treated twice, first one was blue-grey (the color that I really wanted) and that came out super pretttyyyyyy on my jet black hair (I’m a little sad thinking about it lol) but the parts on my scalp looked like legit greying hair (as in old, aging grey hair) so I asked to add a little brown there. I meant chocolate brown. But the stylist added more of an ash blonde I think, maybe cus chocolate wouldn’t be so obvious with my dark hair as base, so my hair now looks more bronze/yellowish brown/sort of green lmao, when hit by light, but dark greyish brown, when not hit by light. It’s pretty, and it looks like I have highlights when it really was just one uniform color, but it’s not exactly the cooler and darker tone I preferred, so I’m tryna get used to it. Lol
Got it done at Joven Hemelian Haven Salon in Davao. Good service there! 👌🏼
Got it done at Joven Hemelian Haven Salon in Davao. Good service there! 👌🏼
How do we get over disappointments, nen?
We let them go. They already happened and we can't change them and if we keep them close to our chest, all that shit is just dead weight. So we have to relinquish control. Try better next time, but at this point, let go. Here's a good quote from Steve Maraboli that I have memorized: "The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward."
Also, I got a similar question to this over a year ago, and my answer remains the same: https://ask.fm/fifibutterflying/answers/135889558820
And if it helps, I love the "It's dark because you're trying too hard..." poem by Aldous Huxley from his book Island: https://bit.ly/2JZgmVq
Also, I got a similar question to this over a year ago, and my answer remains the same: https://ask.fm/fifibutterflying/answers/135889558820
And if it helps, I love the "It's dark because you're trying too hard..." poem by Aldous Huxley from his book Island: https://bit.ly/2JZgmVq
is tsph dead
tsph can’t come to the phone right now
(kidding. we just stopped being a 24/7 update account because we have lives to live but we’ll be active when needed. trust)
(kidding. we just stopped being a 24/7 update account because we have lives to live but we’ll be active when needed. trust)
What is life after college like? Is there anything we could do to prepare for it while we're still 18 and in college?
Nah nothing can prepare you tbh. I’d say just cherish the student life, and being with your friends and classmates every day, because while I personally liked my life after college a lot better, there will be days you’re definitely gonna miss schooling.
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