Ask @helgurney:

How do you decide what movie to watch?

1. How much time do I have?
2. What DVDs do I have in the vicinity? (I hate watching films on computers - I spend far too long at a desk as it is.)
3. How likely is it that someone will interrupt me, and how embarassed would I be about being interrupted watching this? (I have a weakness for some really bad movies, okay?)
4. How much violence/sorrow can I handle seeing?
(I frequently end up watching half-hour sitcom episodes instead, because of how I divide up my day. Although I haven't really watched much of anything lately.)

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If you were a colour what colour would you be and why?

Ha! Octarine. The fictional colour from the Terry Pratchett series, described as "a sort of greenish-purple". It can only be seen by wizards, which is cool (and if you'd like to stretch things, maybe an interesting metaphor about invisibility, haha). And green and purple are two of my favourite colours, and I've been mixing them in outfits/jewellery/design before I even found out that they were also the Suffragette AND the genderqueer colours.

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Can I have a longer version of the pronouns thing?

Okay, so: I used to live in a really lovely household where people were amazing about my gender, and I became very fluid in terms of what name and pronoun I was using on a given day. It reached a point where people could usually tell which name/pronoun to use on the basis of how I was presenting, which was pretty cool. But that's not a level of nuance and understanding I'd expect from most people - it just came from living in close quarters and being really good friends. So I tend to say "they", because it's a totally neutral default, and (unlike constructed pronouns like "zie") tends to slot pretty naturally into people's language patterns, as it's something that gets used within language anyway to indicate a person of unspecified gender. While sometimes I'll feel more like I'd prefer "he" or "she", hearing "they" never makes me feel weird in the same day that "he" or "she" can do, so I ask people to use it as a default. There's kind of an exception about "she" when it comes to women's spaces, though - I identify within the category of "woman" because it's a social class to which I belong (basically: my feelings about my gender/body/sex/etc don't change the fact that I'm treated exactly as a woman under patriarchy - see my blog for more stuff about this, and how it's fitted in with the work I've done with NUSWC).
And on the mutability of language - basically, I find the idea of "my pronouns" being a definite, solid Thing kind of weird? Not in a bad way, just a weird way. I understand the language of "your pronouns" vs "your preferred pronouns" as being a way of expressly treating trans experiences as legitimate - in the same way that one might say "your gender" vs "your gender identity", because the idea that cis people have real "gender" and trans people just have "gender identity" is one of those nasty and insidious linguistic things that feeds in towards undermining trans people's experience of self. But at the same time, I sort of think that all that ANYONE has (specifically when we're talking about language and self-description) is "preferred pronouns" and "gender identity" - whether you're cis or trans - because gender and language are semiotic systems that imperfectly describe the realities we live (and yes, they do also create those realities to an extent - but what I think I'm getting at is that there is never a perfect match between the signifier and the signified, if that makes sense? And this is why I said it should be a blog entry...)
But also, thank you very much for asking me - I realise someone asked on the blog a while ago and I didn't get around to replying because I was a little bit overwhelmed. So here we go, an answer. :)

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What magazines do you read?

I pretty much don't read magazines. I sometimes flick through New Scientist when it's lying around, and there's a hilarious village journal that comes monthly to my parents' house which has news items like "someone inconsiderately had a bonfire on a nice sunny day" and "the local Scouts group went camping". I keep meaning to subscribe to META and then actually read it, but as I spend so long getting distracted by websites clamouring for my attention, I am kind of resistant to sitting down and reading something on a screen that isn't part of my 60-tab browser pile-up. (I would love if META made a print version.) Oh, and I used to read a friend's copies of Filament, and very occasionally some music magazines. When I was a kid - and this is entirely true - I used to very seriously read cat breeders' magazines. OH. And I have a tonne of zines in the photocopied-DIY-punk sort of sense. So I guess I do read magazines a bit, but definitely not in the "regularly buying glossy mags" sort of way.

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Hello! What are your pronouns?

Hi there! The simple answer is "they". The slightly more complex is answer is "'they', 'he', and 'she' are all acceptable, depending on context, but 'they' is a safe go-to, and I don't mind most of the neologistic gender-neutral pronouns, except 'sie/hir' because I consider it to be really aesthetically awkward". (A full answer would probably be a blog post about the mutability of language... ;) )

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If only one book existed, which book would you like it to be?

That's a genuinely horrifying question, you know? I think it would have to be an anthology containing all the books I have ever loved or will ever love. It would span several volumes and fill my shelves. (... so basically what I'm saying is, if only one book existed, MY BRAIN WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO COPE and my world would be as dust and ashes. PLEASE DON'T TAKE AWAY MY BOOKS.)

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