Years ago you said you lived alone in Harlem. I don't know if that's still the case, but I'm curious to know why you are/were adamant about being roommate free? I'm not judging--living alone is my preference, too. I'm just curious. Also, have you ever had to defend this decision? My cousin chided me

I live with my girlfriend now, but before she moved in last November, I had lived alone for the better part of 9 years. There was another girlfriend I lived with for a year in 2007 or 2008, but yeah for the most part it's just been me.
I don't know if I was ever adamant about living roommate free. To be honest, I probably should not have been so stubborn about it especially after I was unemployed for the better part of three years. But once you live alone, getting a roommate almost seems like a step-back even though it means no such thing. I also was coming out of an ideal roommate situation that I knew I couldn't replicate. Add to that I actually found a one-bedroom apartment in Harlem for under 1K a month, and well, I decided I was going to make it work the best I could, which still remains difficult.
And no, I've never had to defend the decision.

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Creator of the blog Until I Get Married/New York Post dating reporter/The Root contributing editor/Music and pop culture critic. Hapa man.

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